Cohabitation son-in-law

In the past, when married in the countryside, the man settled in the woman's house and became the "son" of the woman's house with her surname, which was also called "son-in-law", "son-in-law providing for the elderly" and "son-in-law betraying the door". Daomentang is a common and slightly derogatory name. Now I have a son-in-law, but it's very different from the past. There is no need to change the surname, and the children born are also named after the man. When I went back to my hometown a few days ago, I heard that my oldest son-in-law had passed away. I was very sad because he had a good relationship with my family. I thought of him again because I had some stories about him in my heart. This son-in-law is a little famous in my hometown, a small village with a population of nearly 2000, and seems to have changed his face. That's why I want to write about him.

I said this door-to-door son-in-law is Qiao Yongze. His original surname was not Joe, but he changed his name to Joe after he came to Joe's house from a neighboring village to be an inverted son-in-law. In fact, as we all know, it was very difficult for China to be a son-in-law in feudal society. There are complex family relations, family relations, neighborhood relations, social relations and so on. Once you become a door-to-door son-in-law, you will face these problems. When Qiao Yongze first got married, he also felt very uncomfortable and annoyed. After all, it is not his home, but is regarded as an "outsider" by others. He was alone when he went out. It's too difficult to do something! I always feel clumsy and often looked down upon by others. Why do you look down on it? People always look at people and things with a habitual eye. They think that when they are door-to-door sons-in-law, they are either too many brothers, too incompetent, or too poor to marry a daughter-in-law, so they are forced to "plug in the door backwards", that is, they are looked down upon. I have never asked anyone what kind of person Qiao Yongze belongs to, so it is not easy to jump to conclusions. He must have his own difficulties. Anyway, anyway, he became the son-in-law of the door, which is an iron thing.

I don't know how Qiao Yongze got out of trouble. I only know what happened to him later. Qiao Yongze, who is rooted in the "reverse door", has handled all kinds of relationships like flowing water, just right, which is really impressive. Both cadres and civilians in the village know him very well and get along well, and relatives from other places also have a good relationship with him. Someone said humorously: "It is said that it is difficult to be a son-in-law, and it is not difficult to be in front of Qiao Yongze." In fact, it is not difficult, only he knows. He just walked out of the predicament on his own.

Since ancient times, the son-in-law has come to the door, and everyone thinks that he is inferior, but Qiao Yongze has done a beautiful job. When he was in a big group, in a big village with a population of nearly 2,000, most people "faced the loess with their backs to the sky, went down to the ground with their backs to the sun, and went home with their backs to the sun, and lived a life of" working at sunrise and resting at sunset ". My life is tired all day, my legs are sore or my arms are sore. Some people even complained: "the grandson of farmers, the grandson of farmers, has been rooted for generations." I have been trying to jump out of the farm, but there is no good way. However, Qiao Yongze, an "outsider", has his own way. It is said that he was cooking in the commune industrial canteen. Look at him riding a "big golden deer" bike all day, going to work leisurely and cooking three meals every day. Although he is not a regular worker, he doesn't have to work hard in the fields, which once envied many rural people. "Although he can't arrive, his heart yearns for it." No wonder someone said, "Look how good Qiao Yongze is as a door-to-door son-in-law. How many of us who are' sitting on the ground' can catch up with others? " Now that I think about it, when I was a son-in-law in his day, I really couldn't catch up with him too much.

In the past, there were matchmakers in rural areas, mostly well-informed and glib old ladies, who were called "matchmakers" at the behest of unmarried parents. And I said that Qiao Yongze is also a matchmaker, but he is a "male matchmaker". This Qiao Yongze was born with the ability to be a matchmaker. He has a clever mind and a clever mouth. He can read people's minds, have it both ways. He was away a few years ago. He has seen the world and knows many people, so he speaks with confidence. In addition, he has another feature. He talks like a woman and is willing to pull out his wife's gun. No wonder he was nicknamed "Big Man". He lives up to this reputation, sometimes standing in the streets, talking to this and that lesbian, and sometimes talking from village to village. See if he always has endless words every day, or he talks with relish. No, his "golden tongue" came in handy. A few years ago, I was willing to match others when I was idle. He walked into other people's homes and sat on the kang, rolling his legs and talking endlessly. He really has something on his mind, which is always endless. He is good at matchmaking. He chooses the best words. In fact, both men and women are not as good as he said, so he praised both sides until he satisfied both parents and nodded like a chicken pecking rice, and then he gave up and was done. If you don't have a pig head, you can say another thing. He has a glib tongue and has become a matchmaker in his hometown. The son-in-law became a famous "matchmaker" in the village and ate some big pigs.

The story of the door-to-door son-in-law is over. In addition to their own abilities, the door-to-door son-in-law can also achieve this goal. Doesn't it also show the atmosphere of this village? There is an ethos handed down in my hometown called "don't bully strangers". No matter whether the son-in-law comes to my house or other people with foreign names settle here, they have never been bullied. They all created their own world.

Qiao xiande

Editor's comment:

The door-to-door son-in-law, that is, the man settled in the woman's house and died for his parents' pension. The author described a door-to-door son-in-law in the village. Not only was he not as difficult as others said, but he did it easily and smartly. Others dig in the ground with their backs to the loess every day, but he easily cooks three meals a day in the commune canteen, and life is enviable. He is also a rare male matchmaker among many matchmakers. He is experienced, intelligent and quick-witted. He has a glib tongue and has had many marriages in his hometown, which has won amazing popularity. Grateful.