I don't want to be a woman

Jia Ling is very popular because of a movie.

The film "Hi Mom" directed by her, with the theme of family, touched many people's tears and touched the hearts of thousands of people in Qian Qian.

The film was released during the Spring Festival. Up to now, the box office has exceeded 4 billion. Jia Ling has properly become a big winner in life: fame and fortune!

With the popularity of the movie "Hi Mom", some film reviews about this movie appeared in various articles from the media, and Jia Ling's experience was turned upside down.

In their works, I revisited some sketches performed by Jia Ling. Among them, there is a sketch of a goddess and a woman man, which I specially found out and looked at several times.

Jia Ling claims to be a woman, fat and strong, without love and pain, generous and happy.

Bring disgrace to oneself won the applause of the audience and made them laugh their heads off.

I don't know why, but I feel a little sad after reading it. If it weren't for getting ahead and realizing dreams, who would eat into a big fat man at the most beautiful age of a woman?

Look at the photos of Jia Ling when he was young. At that time, she was a slim young girl with two sweet dimples!

In order to have a place in Beijing and show off in the comedy world, I did not hesitate to destroy my figure, trying to gain the audience's attention through imitation and self-mockery in exchange for their laughter.

Now, all the efforts have not been in vain. The humble flower finally bloomed the most gorgeous flower, and she became the focus of China's attention. In the future, she can only get better and better!

02.

Judging from Jia Ling's experience, she really turned herself into a woman. The female man here is not derogatory, but refers to a woman who is as independent, independent, hardworking, competitive, dignified and individual as a man.

There are still a few such women in life. In rural areas, many men go out to work, and women take care of children and the elderly at home.

When men are not at home, some manual work and technical work are left to women. After many tempering in life, women have become invincible.

We have a daughter-in-law in the hutong. She lives with her mother-in-law and her two children go to primary school and kindergarten.

She never asked her mother-in-law to do anything for her. She went to pick up the children herself. After her children went to school, she went to a nearby factory to cut clothes.

After school, she took the children home to cook. In this way, her monthly salary is more than 5,000 yuan, more than her husband who works outside the home all the year round.

Some things in life can't stop her. The appliances at home are broken, so she can fix them. The water pipe at home was leaking. She took a shovel to find the leaking place and then connected a new pipe.

What is even more surprising is that when there was no water in summer, she actually repaired the well that had not been used for many years. It's a laborious task, but she can solve it easily.

Many people in our village looked down on her and said she was stupid. Now I see my mother-in-law playing mahjong all day and being fed by her daughter-in-law. Everyone who has become a mother-in-law is envious.

However, when my mother-in-law told me her feat, I was not envious or jealous at all.

Isn't it painful for a woman to get married? How did you lead a hard life and become a woman? Isn't life forced?

03.

My mother is a woman.

In my article, I never mentioned my family situation once. My father lost money in business. In order to pay his debts, he goes out to work all the year round.

Mother takes care of our children and crops at home. At that time, harvesting crops depended entirely on manpower. When the wheat is harvested, my father will come back to help my mother.

But in the autumn harvest, it's all up to my mother. At that time, we were too young to help our mother much.

Mom is a strong person. In order not to disappoint others, she worked day and night during the autumn harvest.

More than ten acres of corn, she broke off by herself, and then used the land to row a car and pull it home. The shoulder was pulled out with a deep blood stain.

In the evening, my mother peeled the corn and put it in half a bag. She stood on the roof with a long, thick rope in her hand.

My brother and I tied half a bag of corn with one end of the rope. My mother grabbed the other end of the rope, bent down to pull it to the roof, and then poured the corn in the bag on the roof to dry.

When we were young, we were sleepy very early. Mom let us sleep. She carried a bag of corn on her back, grabbed the bag in one hand, climbed the ladder in the other and climbed to the roof again and again.

Once, there was no electricity. It was dark, and when I was about to climb to the top of the building, my mother stepped on the ladder and fell to the ground directly, and the ladder also hit my mother.

If it weren't for a thick wire, my mother's life would be disabled even if she was saved.

Even with the buffer force of the wire, my mother was knocked unconscious and her nose was bleeding on the ladder. I don't know how long I lay on the ground before I woke up.

We didn't even know about it at first. Mother didn't tell us at that time.

It was many years later, she told me such a life and death experience as a joke, but she said it so lightly.

04.

After I graduated, our village refused to let us go to work, saying that we would have to wait for two years and get 6000 yuan.

At that time, our family was still short of money, and 6000 yuan was astronomical in my family.

Besides, two years is a long time, and my mother is afraid that there will be variables in the middle, so I will not attend classes.

She begged grandpa to tell grandma that she wanted to find a way through layers of contact. Finally, she found out that a relative in our village worked in the Equipment Department of the Education Bureau.

The Education Bureau is more than twenty miles away from our home. In the hot August, she and I rode bicycles, braved the scorching sun and brought meager gifts to the man's house again and again.

Humble and condescending, I smiled at that person and said good things, begging him to find me a school job.

Maybe his mother's sincerity touched him, or maybe he saw that our life was not easy and promised to find me a school.

He didn't break his word. At the end of August this year, I successfully went to work in a rural school more than 30 miles away from home. Only 2000 yuan, no cash, will be deducted from my monthly salary.

This really helped us a lot. Many years later, every important festival, my mother and I will go to see him with gifts.

In fact, there are many things that mom wants to be strong. Only such a strong mother, after my brother and brother got married one after another, only enjoyed our filial piety for a few years, which is our lifelong regret for her.

05.

I witnessed my mother's behavior of treating women as men, taking care of us, keeping the house in good order, and letting my father feel at ease to earn money outside.

While I admire and appreciate my mother, I don't want me to become like her.

Marriage is not a one-man bridge or a one-man show. Men shouldn't be shopkeepers of cutting just because they make money.

Raising children, dealing with trivial matters and endless housework are enough to destroy a woman.

If someone can stop the ups and downs in life for her, she will never sit in the rain and cry. If someone can take the lead for her, she will never fight alone.

So, I don't want to be a woman. I don't want to bear all the helpless pain in my life, but I must force myself to do everything possible to complete it.

I hope all the women in the world can have someone to bear everything for us, so that we can only be goddesses, not women.