Quotes about life between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law (the reflections of a middle-aged daughter-in-law who is hard-spoken and soft-hearted)

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The quality of a marriage is composed of the synergy of multiple relationships, not just A simple put together by two people. For example, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law plays a very important role in marriage.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also the most difficult to get along with. Although they still call their mother-in-law "Mom" after marriage, without the connection of blood relationship, the establishment of this kind of family relationship is much fragile.

That’s why there are so many conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

She is 47 years old and has been married for 25 years. Her marriage has been stumbling along the way. No matter it is good or bad, it is almost like this now. She said that she didn't get divorced when she was young, and she doesn't think about those things anymore at this age.

Although she often talks about divorce. Her husband, according to her description, has a lot of shortcomings. He is lazy, doesn't make much money, doesn't care about the family affairs, is selfish, and only thinks about himself.

When she talked about her husband, she had a tone of resentment, but when she talked about her mother-in-law, she was filled with indignation.

When she reached middle age, her relationship with her mother-in-law seemed to have improved, but in fact she was not very happy in her heart. She said: "It's not because she is old and can't do things now. "You have to rely on your son to talk to me properly."

She said that her mother-in-law has always disliked her, and this has been the case since she got married. When she was young, she was a rather temperamental person. Less than a month after getting married, she had a quarrel with her mother-in-law.

In fact, it was all trivial matters in the family. Her mother-in-law asked her to go home for dinner and gave her a bowl of leftovers. She felt very uncomfortable, thinking that she had never eaten any leftovers at home, so why should she let her go? Does she eat?

When she was thinking this way, she said what was in her heart, and her tone was not very good, and then she filled another bowl. The mother-in-law murmured in a low voice, saying that it was her who ate it before, and the leftovers were not poisonous. This was incredible, and neither of them gave in.

Later, after this incident, her reputation for having a bad temper was established.

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In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the most feared thing is the comparison between the two daughters-in-law.

Her mother-in-law has two sons in her family. She married the eldest son of the family. Later, the younger son also married a wife. They have two completely opposite personalities from her. They speak in a low voice and are very disrespectful to her mother-in-law. Respect.

She said that since she got married, she and her husband have separated, but the younger daughter-in-law and the others have been living with her mother-in-law. Although her mother-in-law likes to be nosy and talks a bit too much, she is indeed quite capable.

She still admitted this. She said that her father-in-law passed away early at home, and it was not easy for her mother-in-law to raise three children by herself. Therefore, it also resulted in her mother-in-law's relatively strong character.

After the younger daughter-in-law gets married, she listens to her mother-in-law for almost everything at home. Her mother-in-law also prefers this younger daughter-in-law, as countless examples can prove.

She told an incident that still bothers her. When she was pregnant, one month before giving birth, she was still working in the fields. When it was dark, she passed by her mother-in-law’s house. Met them eating.

The younger daughter-in-law saw her and invited her to eat with her. The mother-in-law stood aside and never said a word from beginning to end. She was also stubborn, thinking that if I didn't eat your food, I would starve to death, so she went back alone in anger.

As for my mother-in-law’s daughter-in-law, she stopped letting her do anything once she became pregnant. She rested at home and cooked delicious food every day. And from the time she was pregnant to the end of confinement, she only ate two eggs from her mother-in-law's house, and nothing else.

When my mother-in-law talked about her, she directly used her name, but when she talked about her youngest daughter-in-law, she added the word "my family" in front of her. The difference was obvious. And she took her stubbornness to the extreme. Due to various reasons, she refused to call her mother-in-law "Mom" for many years.

Because she refused to be called "Mom", her mother-in-law was even more critical of her.

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After so many years, she and her mother-in-law have always been like this, but they still maintain a superficial politeness, but she often talks about the past things, and at the end there is something Feel sorry for yourself.

But that’s all. As time went by, I discovered that she was a typical woman with a sharp mouth and a cruel heart. Although she was unforgiving, she didn’t have any bad intentions. Even towards her mother-in-law, she Still filial.

Complaints are complaints. Every time she visits her mother-in-law, she will buy her things. She will also take money during holidays. Sometimes she will ask her husband to visit her mother, but she still won’t tell her. nice words.

I would like to use the word "hard-tongued but soft-hearted" to describe her, which is more appropriate.

She used to just feel that her mother-in-law was partial, but she never understood why she was partial. It wasn't until her mother-in-law became ill that she realized one thing: When getting along with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, she should also say more "nasty words" .

My mother-in-law fell ill very suddenly. She was fine in the morning, but suddenly fainted at noon. When my daughter-in-law came back from get off work, she saw her mother-in-law lying unconscious on the floor and quickly called her. She immediately called her husband and asked him to come over.

Because they were not far apart, her husband drove over and took her mother-in-law to the hospital in about ten minutes. She later took a half-day off and made soup at home in the afternoon to send to her. Unexpectedly, her mother-in-law kept saying that it was thanks to her daughter-in-law this time.

She felt very uncomfortable, saying that two of her family members were not at work because of her, so how come it was all the daughter-in-law’s fault in the end? This is also true for many things in normal times. For example, she bought so many clothes for her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law didn't say a word. The younger daughter-in-law bought her a hat, which she wears every day. When she meets people, she always says that the younger daughter-in-law bought it for her.

However, before she could get angry this time, a voice came from over there: "Mom, it's thanks to my eldest brother and sister-in-law this time."

She said what she wanted to say After swallowing the words, she also admitted that her mother-in-law's daughter-in-law was very good at talking. Although her mother-in-law was partial, she never had any objection to this sister-in-law because her words were really pleasing to the ears.

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Not only does my mother-in-law like people who listen to her words, she also likes them in her heart. She said that at this age, sometimes when she thinks about it, she doesn't want to have any more conflicts with her mother-in-law. If she can get along well with her, then she can get along well with her.

She also wanted to learn to speak "nasty words" like her mother-in-law's daughter-in-law, but when she opened her mouth, nothing came out. To be precise, I'm embarrassed to say it.

However, she said she would still tell her daughter at home not to be like her when getting along with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the future. If a woman is "hard-spoken and soft-hearted" in marriage, it is really easy for her to be thankless.

When it comes to filial piety, she actually does a better job than her younger daughter-in-law in many cases, but because she doesn’t listen to her words, the relationship with her mother-in-law has always been tense. Her mother-in-law also commented on her as having a bad temper.

Sometimes, problems that can be solved with a kind word become very difficult for her, and can even make the matter serious. Therefore, when she was young, she often quarreled with her mother-in-law.

She recalled that the first conflict between her and her mother-in-law was over a bowl of leftover rice.

Later, after the younger daughter-in-law got married, her mother-in-law also let her eat it, but she did not refuse. She just said that her stomach felt uncomfortable after eating. The next time there was leftover food, the daughter-in-law continued to prepare it, but her mother-in-law took the bowl back and said that she had a bad gastrointestinal condition and should not eat it in the future.

But the younger daughter-in-law said: "Mom, I can eat the leftovers." Later, the mother-in-law still ate, but even so, the mother-in-law still praised the younger daughter-in-law for being smart and capable.

In many cases, saying one word that is on point is more effective than doing ten things. This principle also applies to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. After all, everyone feels comfortable listening to nice words, and they feel happy even if they suffer a loss.

Therefore, you should avoid this detour in your marriage and don’t be the thankless person.

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