What is the appropriate limit in love?

Appropriate restrictions are actually a degree of relaxation in speaking and doing things, and do not cross the line.

Measurement is a principle and a way of communication.

If the distance between people is too far, it is easy to be unfamiliar. If you get too close, it's easy to hurt each other.

Therefore, only through reasonable communication can we get along comfortably and last longer.

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Zhou said: "Appropriate restrictions are a sign of mature love. It knows how to keep the necessary distance between people. "

Once a person loses his "due limit", it is a social disaster.

Some time ago, my cousin got married and had a wedding in his hometown.

When everyone was having a wedding banquet at the table, I watched the bride and groom toast at each table.

Suddenly, my aunt sitting next to me asked me in a low voice, "Do you have a boyfriend?" I smiled and said, "Not yet."

My aunt said solemnly, "You are not young either. You should look, but you have to keep your eyes open.

Be sure to find someone with a car and a house, so that you can save a lot of things in the future. This is all from experience and for your own good. "

I gave a "hmm" cry, smiled, pretended to take food, and didn't want to continue talking with her about this topic.

However, menstruation still stubbornly said, "Oh, let me tell you, are you 25 years old now?"

It's hard to find someone after this age. Use these two years to find someone quickly. Listen to me, it won't hurt you. "

Actually, I just graduated two years ago and my career is on the rise. I don't think about these things yet.

What's more, my parents didn't worry, and they didn't urge me to find someone. But every time I go home, I almost always hear these seven aunts and eight aunts, either asking me to take an examination of civil servants and units or urging me to find someone.

After a long time, it will inevitably be boring. I have to eat quickly and leave early.

We have always paid attention to doing things in moderation, "surplus means loss, modesty means benefit", "clear water means no fish, and people have no disciples."

"If you are badly hurt, you will not live forever" and "Happiness produces sadness" ... This "degree" is actually a measure.

Whatever the relationship, don't ask too many questions. If others don't answer you, it means there is no need to continue this topic.

Therefore, grasping the appropriate boundaries between good people is a respect for others and for yourself!

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As the saying goes, a friend of a gentleman is as light as water.

The most beautiful relationship between people should be like water, which is constantly cut and disordered.

Such a relationship, in daily communication, will inevitably leave three points in the speech, knowing the weight of the speech.

It doesn't look strange, and it won't embarrass each other.

Xue Baochai is such a measured person.

Once at a banquet, Daiyu blurted out: "What a nice day!" " .

But in the feudal era at that time, reading The West Chamber was an unprofessional behavior.

Careful Baochai noticed Daiyu's gaffe, but in front of her elders and a group of maids, Baochai did not point out Daiyu's fault face to face. When the banquet broke up and no one was around, Baochai quietly mentioned Daiyu:

"Men don't know how to read, so it's better not to read, let alone you and me."

Daiyu suddenly realized her gaffe at the party yesterday.

Baochai's move not only reminds Daiyu to be cautious, but also takes care of Daiyu's face, so as not to make a fool of herself in public.

This appropriate restriction is actually the wisdom of speaking. We should always know what to say and what not to say on any occasion.

Think from the perspective of others. This will not embarrass others, let alone offend yourself.

The mastery of appropriate restrictions will make people more intimate, while the mastery of appropriate restrictions will lead to the breakdown of relationships.

Therefore, mastering appropriate limits is also an art of interacting with people.