What details make you feel that the other person is a master of dealing with people?

Knowledgeable, elegant in speech, gentle and refined in temperament, free and easy in attitude, insightful, able to see the essence through phenomena, calm and simple in posture, concise in expressing opinions, not flattering others, and calm and indifferent when alone. Independent from the secular, fearless in the abyss, Qingyuan to Ming. Liu Pu Caotang across the bank, the royal jade across the bank, no worldly fetters, universal kindness. ...

I have a classmate who is doing well in Shenzhen. I happened to go to Shenzhen on business once, and sent this classmate a message saying that we would get together in the evening. It took him half a day to reply to me, explaining that he had to work overtime at the meeting and would go to Guangzhou on business the next morning.

At that time, I thought that he might get along well and didn't want to meet my mediocre classmate. It is very unpleasant to think that the world is cold and friendship is high and low. At noon the next day, he invited me to video with him. I met him at an exposition, surrounded by people and goods. He told me during lunch that he wanted to have a few drinks with me, but for a little money, he turned away all the students who came from afar.

After listening to his words, I suddenly felt very warm. It seems that I am a despicable gentleman. I thought he didn't want to see me. It turns out that he is really working. Then he asked me what to do. I said the flight at eight o'clock the next night. He said he couldn't see me off because I was going to stay in Guangzhou for a few days. Then he asked me the name of the hotel. Is it far from the airport? After chatting for a while, I hung up the video.

The next day, I packed my things and prepared to go to the airport. Suddenly, I got a phone call. This man introduced himself as a friend of my classmate and was entrusted by my friend to see me off. He said his car was waiting for me downstairs. I really didn't know what to say at that time.

We've all had this experience. Sometimes classmates or friends come to find themselves just because their company has something to do or something else, and they feel that they can refuse with a clear conscience, but everyone is selfish. After being rejected, they will think that you don't want to see him, that you are not friends enough or look down on him.

But my classmate told me by video first that he was really busy; Second, he is not here, but he invited a friend to see me off. Two small details dispelled my doubts and made me feel that he was a good friend. This is definitely a master who knows the world. It's strange that people like him can't get along well.

One of my female clients, 48 years old, from salesman to proprietress, has a net worth of over 10 million. I didn't know what a master of dealing with people was until I got in touch with her, which made me feel ashamed as a salesman with 5 years of sales experience. I have to admire her high emotional intelligence. No wonder she can develop.

Sister Lin Li is the only female client I still keep in touch with. She is a noble person and has taught me to grow up.

Five years ago, I worked as a clerk in an underwear factory. Later, the boss's niece had nothing to do after dropping out of school, so she replaced me as a clerk, and the boss asked me to be a sales clerk.

I know nothing about sales. I was assigned to the customer in charge of the western district (the sales area was divided according to the direction of Guangdong), and I happened to take my colleague on maternity leave, so I was responsible for the sales orders in the western district alone. The pressure can be imagined.

Sister Lin Li is one of Xicheng's clients, and I am deeply impressed by her.

Because I am not familiar with my own business knowledge, I quote the wrong price and send the wrong goods, which delays the goods in the warehouse and affects the delivery of others. Every day, a lot of problems flood in, from customers to bosses, which directly affects my performance commission. The boss also talked to me many times, and I said I wouldn't do it at all. I'm too stressed to sleep well at night. But the boss still told me to stick to it. After all, it is difficult to recruit people, and the position cannot be short of people.

When I make a mistake, most customers have zero tolerance for me, except sister Lin Li. Her first sentence in QQ was not to blame and question, but to comfort me and explain me.

After a while, I really couldn't stand the pressure of work and simply resigned. I'm sorry to tell sister Lin Li that I can't give you the best offer in the future.

She also replied: nothing, we met once, and our friendship has always been there.

Half a year has passed, and I still haven't found a job. Instead of thinking at home, I might as well take a short trip to relax. I invited three girlfriends to play in Chaoshan. I thought of sister Lin Li when I was doing the raiders.

Sister Lin Li opened an underwear store in Chaoshan, a famous food paradise, but delicious authentic snacks are hard to find, so I sent a message to ask Sister Lin Li where to eat the most authentic kway teow and seafood porridge. ...

Sister Lin Li briefly asked about our itinerary and said that she would meet me at the appointed time. I thought she was just saying. Unexpectedly, Lin Li's behavior surprised me.

When I got to the local area, I didn't want to disturb her life. I just asked, so I didn't contact again. As soon as we found a hotel to stay in, Sister Lin Li sent a message asking us what plans we had for the evening. I smiled and said, Sister Lin Li, do you want to invite me to dinner?

She asked me to make a hotel reservation. At 6 o'clock in the afternoon, she sent a car to pick up our four girls. I remember that crown car took us directly to a seafood restaurant.

Entering the designated box, I saw Lin Li's sister and husband already waiting. She is well dressed, fashionable and beautiful, and her husband is also very handsome. The jade ring on the thumb is very eye-catching, and a brooch is worn on the chest, which is very delicate. At first glance, it is the extravagance and waste of big boss.

Sister Lin Li has no shelf at all. She rolled up her sleeves and peeled shrimps and vegetables for us, and introduced how to cook each dish. Sure enough, women in Chaoshan are virtuous.

After dinner, she knew that we would wander around here the next day, looking for delicious food. Sister Lin Li said she had a meeting to leave, so she asked our niece of the same age to take us to find something delicious.

The three girlfriends also said with a smile, thanks to me, they can enjoy such thoughtful treatment from Sister Lin Li.

The day before she left, knowing that we were leaving, Sister Lin Li invited us to her house, saying that it was a pleasure to have friends coming from afar and that we could not be mistreated.

However, as luck would have it, she happened to have a tea party with her friends at home that day, but she also invited us to her home. When I arrived at her home, I found that her home was decorated with atmosphere. All the wood in Huang Huali, even the ceiling, door frame and column edge, belonged to Huang Huali. It is impossible to decorate without1100,000, which simply surprises us young girls.

At that time, she was having tea with some boss-like friends, and when she knew we were coming, she immediately called and sat down. Sitting with the big boss I've never met, I'm too nervous to speak at all.

I didn't expect Sister Lin Li to shift the topic to us. What impressed me deeply was that Sister Lin Li said to several bosses: You see, my business started with the help of Xiao Shuang (my name). I used to sell underwear. It's not easy to get here slowly, and it's even harder to find a good source. Now I can get such preferential and high-quality supply, thanks to Xiao Shuang's help, she is my noble person!

I think Lin Li's words are too harsh and make me a little embarrassed. Several bosses nodded their approval to me, and even my three girlfriends looked at me in surprise and thought, You are awesome!

On the day we left, Sister Lin Li arranged for the vehicle to wait at the gate of the hotel early in the morning, and the driver helped us with our luggage. Sister Lin Li sent a message saying that she would go to Hangzhou for a meeting and had no time to see us off. Next time she comes to visit, she must stay a few more days. She took us to eat well and have fun.

When we arrived at the station, the driver also gave each of our four girls a gift from the trunk, saying that it was a small gift prepared by the proprietress, which surprised us again.

On the high-speed rail, we opened it and found that there were precious ingredients such as donkey-hide gelatin, abalone, dried worms and scallops. Three girlfriends once again cast admiring eyes on me: I really owe you a blessing for this trip! !

This meeting made me feel Lin Li's enthusiasm and generosity, and more importantly, I saw how to show her high emotional intelligence.

First of all, I only have a working relationship with her, and I have left my job, so I can't give her a preferential price. It stands to reason that she should please the current sales merchandiser instead of me. Our interest relationship has faded, but she is still trying to maintain it.

Secondly, she gave me enough face, not only flattering me in front of several big bosses, but also recognizing me in front of my girlfriends of the same age, which made my self-confidence explode and eased my sense of loss and frustration that I couldn't find a job during this time. Although it is polite, it will also inspire people.

Finally, Sister Lin Li is very considerate. She did her host's duty by inviting her to dinner. She also called her niece to receive us and prepared gifts for each of us before she left. This series of arrangements is surprising and touching.

No wonder sister Lin Li's business is getting bigger and bigger. It can be seen that her social skills in dealing with people are very strong and the pattern is very large. She won't ignore my existence because I am a small merchandiser, and she is so attentive to a small person like me, which shows that she is thoughtful.

To be honest, my contact with sister Lin Li has had a profound impact on me. She is a master of interpersonal relationships. I have to admire her pattern and emotional intelligence, which is really too high!