Why are some mothers beautiful and fashionable, but their children are not good at their original character?

Some mothers are beautiful and fashionable, but their children wear rustic clothes. This phenomenon is very common in life. As the most important person in a child's life, parents' cognition of the world determines the child's cognition of the world.

On the one hand, the pressure of life is increasing, and the couple give their children to their grandparents for care. In the past, a popular joke on the Internet was the comparison of photos taken by mom and grandparents, which also explained some disadvantages of grandparents in taking care of children from another side.

On the other hand, children's personality problems. Parents are children's first teachers, the beginning of life, and they are kind by nature. Children from babbling to eloquent, from ignorant children to sensible teenagers, are just a process of continuous learning, and the most important thing in this process is parents' words and deeds. I also see many polite children in my life, but I think their parents must have a good education in their children's life and treatment.

Parents are the children's first teachers, and the problem of dressing is secondary. The important thing is that the child's character is gradually cultivated, and this aspect should be well educated.

I am a second-born mother. I usually pay great attention to my children's words and deeds and dress. It doesn't have to be fashionable, but cleanliness is a must.

I have a neighbor in the same situation. His family is a boy, five years old this year. Every time I see a child, I feel so sad. I looked down and fiddled with the corners of my clothes. Only when my mother gives the order can I raise my head and timidly call someone. He is a bully when his mother is away. He grabs whatever he sees, no matter whose toy it is, as long as he likes it.

Why is mom fashionable, takes care of children and has a bad personality?

Family environmental impact

We all know a saying: "The golden jade is out of it, but it is out of it.". In other words, don't just look at the shiny surface, but look at the inside. Usually, children only care about themselves, but not about children, especially their words and deeds. There must be such a growing environment, and the physical and mental health of children is also worrying.

Busy, busy.

Taking care of children is a busy thing. I can't wait to break into 48 hours a day. Before going out, I only care about myself and forget the children. After becoming parents, others can see their parents' conduct through their children. Don't use busyness as an excuse.

Strong suppression

I'm in charge. I can do anything. I'm your mother. I believe that there are not a few parents who have this idea, but in the long run, this is wrong. Respect the child, guide him and be his compass instead of the decision maker.

In short, parenting is a kind of practice. If you are on the way to practice, you should accept those selfish and lucky feelings, grow up with your child and make him proud every time he mentions you. This is the best education.

A beautiful mother may not have a good personality, and a fashionable mother may not have good taste. It is said that mothers have a greater influence on their children than teachers and others. This sentence is particularly reasonable! Take the example around me as an example ~

The neighbor's young mother is very fashionable and beautiful, and she wants to be glamorous when she goes out, and her figure is particularly good. But her children, like children without mothers, often have two strings of snot and their cuffs are black and shiny all the year round. She hardly takes her children out, even if she does, she should keep a certain distance. Let's talk about her personality again. She is usually very generous to outsiders, but she has a particularly bad temper when she comes home. The children are either naughty, abusive or beaten. The children throw them at grandma all day, and she often goes in and out of the mahjong room …

Her children are typical bullies who are afraid of hard work. Young, dirty mouth, dirty exit. They are particularly sensible in front of Ta's mother, and they are particularly naughty after turning around, feeling so scheming.

My best friend looks ordinary and usually dresses very simply, but her two children are often kept clean and tidy by my best friend, which has a feeling of tide. From my long-term observation, my best friend is really accompanying her children with heart. No matter how hard she eats and wears, even in front of the children, she will try to control her bad mood. Wherever her children go, people praise them for being sensible, and they are particularly clean and tidy. It makes people feel particularly comfortable at first turn.

It is said that the more beautiful the mother is, the more confident the child is, but the beautiful mother only cares about dressing herself, ignoring the child's character cultivation and appearance, which is particularly unfavorable to the child's physical and mental health development!

Such a mother may care too much about herself and spend too much time dressing herself up and not paying attention to other things.

I have met several such mothers. One is the mother of my college classmate. When I saw my classmate just now, I thought her mother was ordinary, because my classmate was simple and dressed in neutral clothes. Later, when I met her mother, I felt incredible, because her mother was very young and dressed in foreign style, and mother and daughter were not a painting style at all.

Another is my former colleague, who wears different clothes every day. If it is summer, it feels normal. The key is that winter coats and down jackets are different every day, so how many pieces are needed, but that's the truth. She said that she bought clothes when she was in a bad mood, and she wanted to buy them for her daughter, but her daughter was not interested in dressing up, saying that just a few sets of clothes would be fine, and there was no need to be angry with her all day like a flower. ...

Actually, I think it's a good thing that mom loves to dress up. If she is in a good mood, it will also have a positive impact on her children. But don't go too far. It's not good to neglect children because of dressing up.

Thank you for inviting me! To tell the truth, this question has no connotation. Why do you say that? Mengbao's mother will tell you something!

First of all, a child's personality has nothing to do with his parents' clothes. You don't have to dress beautifully, so your children are fashionable. They have good upbringing and good personality. As the saying goes, you can't judge a book by its cover, which proves that your experience is superficial!

If the parents in a family are highly educated, at the same time, they are not arrogant and have no superior views, then the children they teach must be excellent. Children's best teachers are parents, and what parents have to do is the power of example. If you look down on others in the street, so will your children. Although you wear a famous brand and live in a luxury villa, you have no culture.

You can see that some children from big families have higher IQ, EQ and education than ordinary people, because they have been trained by several generations. It's not just clothes that precipitate it! These all take time.

Maybe my opinion is a little biased, but it's all true! What opinions can be discussed below!

Second, neglect education. It is said that women are the source of everything in this world. If a mother has anything, she will have a daughter and a son, and she will not be educated at ordinary times. They will dress up beautifully when they go shopping, but they will get dirty when they go shopping, and then their mothers have no patience to educate them when they see this situation. What you do will be to educate your child by beating and cursing, which will leave a big shadow in your child's heart, and your child will also have a kind of resistance, which will form a kind of rejection over time.

Third, the family environment. Because of the fast pace of life and busy making money outside, many parents go home to play mobile phones and do their own things. They educate their children casually, and their parents are their first teachers. What their parents do and their behavior will affect their children's mental health and future behavior. Moreover, many parents often quarrel at home, which will have a great impact on their children's lives, because in their minds, parents also quarrel.

Attention should be paid to the education of children from an early age, because it is difficult to educate children after their character is formed. When they grow up, whatever you say will be annoying and even more rebellious. By that time, all education will be late. For Ma Bao's fashionable clothes, but the children's clothes are very rustic, that is, Ma Bao's EQ is very low, and many Ma Bao's EQ is relatively high, and they all set off their pursuit of clothes by dressing up their children.

I am also a mother, and I love dressing up. But I really don't dress up my children. First of all, because he is a boy, I personally think that a boy should be a little man. The simpler the better. Inch plate with long hair and long sportswear. It's really comfortable, and children also have an important identity as students. Boys and girls should be clean, simple and comfortable. How can you get good grades when you dress strangely during school? Of course, as a mother, since you are already a mother, try not to show off. It will make people feel that it is not appropriate to wear heavy makeup. It's really beautiful to wear light makeup.

This problem can be viewed from two aspects:

First of all, from the mother's image, this mother is beautiful and fashionable, which shows that she has certain aesthetic ability and knows how to match and dress up. As a woman, I know that beauty and fashion need money and leisure, and I need a lot of time to buy fashionable clothes and accessories. Usually it takes time to match, and it takes at least half an hour to make up every time, which requires a lot of time and energy. At the same time, money is needed to buy clothes, ornaments and cosmetics. As we all know, beautiful clothes and cosmetics are expensive. The mother spent a lot of time, energy and money to maintain her image.

Let's talk about the problem that the child brought by this mother has a bad original character. Let's talk about the rusticity of children first. This mother has a certain aesthetic ability, but the child is rustic, which only shows that the mother has not put her mind on the child, even a little, and all her concerns are on herself, so the image of the child is rustic, but the mother doesn't know it.

In terms of bad personality, children's upbringing needs careful care, especially before the age of three, which is not only a critical period for intellectual development, but also a critical period for children's personality development. People around you will have a great influence on children, especially mothers, who can feel the mother's response to her concern and capture the information of love from her words and deeds. If the mother is a solipsist and has no children in her eyes and heart, then the children will become indifferent and sometimes deliberately rebellious.

Tell me about my mother-in-law and her two children, my husband and brother-in-law!

My mother-in-law belongs to the kind of person who is particularly confident, that is, the kind who always feels that she is a peerless beauty. After giving birth to her second son in her thirties, she stopped working and specialized in dressing up, dancing, playing mahjong and shopping.

She is 62 years old, still wearing tights and short skirts, and her thighs are leaking all the year round. She is confident in her figure (I just described it, not said it badly).

In order to keep fit, she seldom eats and certainly seldom cooks. My husband and his brother, growing up, ate more than half of a meal: instant noodles, bread, sausages …

So I can imagine what my husband and his brother were like when they were children.

There was a mother who was in high spirits and had a lot of operations on her face, including egg white, big flowers and short skirts.

There are two boys, 9 years apart, who have never helped wash clothes and cook … My brother makes instant noodles for my brother every day after school.

And my father-in-law … is 150, working three jobs, raising a queen-like wife and two sons …

Seriously, if I could understand this situation before I got married, I would never marry such a family even if I was single all my life. ...

Before I became a mother, I especially liked to dress myself up. Later, I gave birth to a daughter. First of all, my figure has changed a lot. I used to be cruel and degraded, but I still like to dress myself up as before. I think women should feel beautiful and clean. My daughter, I also like dressing her up, but I don't like dressing her up as an adult. Children should be so cute. Every time we go out together, it's wonderful! My daughter likes me to pick her up from school best, saying that I look best with lipstick and my mother is the most beautiful in her heart. Ha ha laugh