Being cool and indifferent is the most important thing. Making yourself happy is the most important thing. Can you tell me?

To be honest, I have always asked for it. So today I want to talk to people who are pleasers from another angle, how I ask for things from my friends. Of course, the so-called asking for money does not mean asking for nothing without paying, but that we are based on equal equality. When it comes to giving, I will ask for it under certain conditions.

First, I am a person who doesn’t think about others very much, because I will think about one thing: “I consider you, but how many people in this world will consider me? What’s more? I'm very busy, how can I have the free time to think about your feelings and your emotions?" Some people may think it's a little indifferent, but let me tell you, I not only make others feel awe of me, but also feel that they have to give me good treatment. I socialize, and I feel happy. I make others feel good, am I living this life for others to see? I have made others feel good, who can make me feel good? I'll be honest, I don't pretend to be that big-picture person.

Second, I will ask for love generously from those around me. When I was broken up in love, I would tell my friends that I was unhappy and needed small gifts. Life was miserable enough. Please treat me to a meal. I really can’t survive alone. Can you stay with me? It's so lonely. At this time, someone said that I would reach out to the party, so how miserable is your life? Are you undedicated to your friends? I don’t even dare to express what I want. You really shouldn’t be afraid that he owes you favors and consumes your friendship. In fact, the person who is really good to you really wants to pay attention to and help you at that time, but he doesn’t know how to help you, so you need to be more direct and tell him directly that you are How can I feel happy?

Third, I would rather ask first and then be grateful. You don’t want to please first and then worry about it. When I ask for the charm of nature, I will sigh that the world is really good. When others help me, I feel that I What a blessing. What kind of virtue did I accumulate in my previous life? You love me so much. So, I only think about how to give back to this wonderful world and people. But what do most people like to please? I always think about why you are so good to me even though I am so good to you, and then I fall into this vicious cycle and get angry myself. Let me tell you, you just have the wrong start. Really, we don’t want to do things that blindly impress ourselves and then think about how others will give back to us. How tiring it is.

So please support yourself and be kind to yourself.