How to make yourself speak?

How to make yourself speak? We all want to let ourselves speak and let others feel the spring breeze. If you want to talk, you must form a good habit of not caring. Let's share how to make yourself speak.

How to make yourself speak? You can say 1 1. Practice your speaking skills.

In fact, speaking skills can be mastered through learning. As long as you are a serious and responsible person and exercise in the following aspects, you can also become an excellent speaker.

(1) Get ready. Before you speak, try to be fully prepared, or read silently and say it to the mirror. The more familiar you are with the conversation, the better you can speak it and effectively avoid nonsense.

(2) Learn the method of dialogue. When talking with others, listen to their opinions patiently, and don't interrupt or interrupt their conversation at will. You should carefully analyze the gains and losses of the other party's speech, absorb the advantages of the other party's speech and discard the shortcomings of the other party. You must have a clear meaning when you speak. When another person looks bored or upset, you must stop talking.

(3) Speak more and practice more. The level of speaking is not innate, but gradually developed through a person's constant exercise under the influence of the external environment; You should overcome your shyness and timidity and bravely express your views in front of strangers or when there are many people. Although it may not succeed at first, you may even hear others laugh. However, you must not ignore it, but should seriously study the reasons for the failure. In short, we must speak frequently and practice more.

Step 2 eliminate the fear when you speak

Many people have fear when talking to strangers. The way to eliminate fear is:

Take a deep breath before you speak. This method can slow down the beating speed of the heart and reduce irritability.

(2) Often speaking in crowded places is very useful, and many people will eliminate their fears by speaking in this way.

(3) Imagine that you will succeed, and you will probably succeed.

(4) Don't drink coffee, tea and other irritating items before speaking.

(5) Get to know the people you want to contact first. For example, if you want to interview for a job, you must first find out what kind of questions the company will ask, and then try to find the answer.

3. Learn to use the "common language"

In many cases, using a "common language" is very useful. If you are not good at using it, you will often suffer big losses when interacting with people.

"lingua franca" has the following characteristics: let the other party think that you are polite; Your words are elastic; Sounds friendly and easy to use; It makes people feel very comfortable.

Common "lingua franca" are: please; Good morning, good afternoon and good evening; Yes; Too embarrassed; Thanks to you; Forgive me; No, I really don't deserve it; I'm very sorry; Thank you so much; Please give me more advice; please ...

There are countless "common languages" that can be used in daily life. The key is how you use them.

Step 4 pay attention to "pause"

When speaking, "pause" is a necessary skill. Conscious pause can not only make the level of the conversation clear, but also highlight the key points of the conversation and attract the attention of the other party; A proper pause can make the other person understand what paragraph you are talking about and echo from a distance.

If you don't understand that you need to pause in time, others will have a sense of urgency, and as a result, what you say will be "incomprehensible".

When do you need to pause? You need to pause when changing languages or prompting key points and summarizing the ideas of the topic; Pause time should be handled according to the specific situation, with a short time of at least two or three seconds and a long time of no more than ten seconds.

If you want to express the passion in your heart, you must speak in cadence, so the pause should not be limited to the pause of sound, but also be carried out in conjunction with actions or gestures.

How to make yourself speak? 2 1. Be polite, be polite. Basic etiquette is the starting point of good communication.

Everyone wants to have a smooth sailing in interpersonal communication, and everyone wants to make a career and have a successful life, and this premise is to pay attention to the use of "courtesy" in communication. People with "courtesy" will pay attention to image, be educated, not make enemies, be polite, be sincere and modest in speech and behavior, and be generous and decent in treating people. Create a perfect image when communicating, and naturally, communication will be very smooth.

2. Observe carefully and listen carefully.

When communicating, don't rush to speak, pay attention to listen and observe carefully and understand each other's demands. You can ask questions to confirm whether there is any deviation in what you hear.

Observe each other's words and deeds, body movements, micro-expressions, and perceive other people's emotional reactions. Analyze others' words and deeds.

Study the tone and intonation of the other person when he speaks. If the other person speaks slowly and deeply, he may be depressed and heartbroken at the moment. If the other person has a loud voice and a happy tone, it means that he may be very happy and excited inside.

3, speak to grasp the discretion and scale.

Eloquence is of course a skill, and it is also of great help to a person. However, if you can't control your mouth, there is always no proper limit, and you can't grasp the scale well, then you can't be regarded as a smart person with high emotional intelligence. People who can really talk don't always talk, but know when to say, when not to say, when to be direct, and when to be tactful. They will neither get into trouble from their mouths nor offend people easily.

Don't say anything if you can't change the facts.

If you want to find a topic, try to avoid talking about unchangeable facts. Race, age, height, skin, looks, and many other life events that have become a foregone conclusion, such as marriage, having children, buying a house, and even religion, are not easy to change. Don't talk about these things in the way of "if,,,".

For example, the following ways of speaking are easily offensive:

"Sir, if you had taken care of your hair earlier, you wouldn't be so bald."

"You are so beautiful. If only your skin were whiter."

"This dress really suits you, but it's a pity that you are a little short. If you were a few centimeters taller, you would look good! "

You know people's hair can't grow back, their skin is not white, and they don't grow tall. Why do you say that?

5. Don't talk.

When others are talking, don't grab words and interrupt others' words, completely disregarding others' feelings. This is a sign of lack of self-cultivation and grace.

If you have any questions, you can wait until others have finished expressing them. People with high emotional intelligence not only have good communication skills, but also are good at listening and never grab words.

It is impolite to grab words, interrupt the topic, highlight yourself and ignore the overall situation. We should be people with high emotional intelligence and know how to respect common sense of social etiquette.

How to make yourself speak 3 1, dare to speak.

We are often afraid of being teased, and we dare not express our opinions easily under the psychological pressure of being too concerned about others' evaluation of ourselves. It is inevitable for anyone to get stage fright on formal occasions. It is not uncommon for many famous actors to be so nervous that they almost forget their lines when facing the camera for the first time. Famous actors overcome difficulties by strict training on weekdays and accumulate self-confidence from every experience. As long as you are calm and natural, you will naturally speak appropriately.

Step 2 speak with confidence

As long as you have confidence, what you say will naturally appear powerful and weighty. As long as we dare to try and find out the key to success from the results of the attempt, eloquence will naturally become more and more brilliant with practice.

The so-called poor eloquence is just an excuse for not working hard. After many attempts and experiences, you can learn conversation skills, as long as you often think, "This method is not ideal, what is the reason?" ""Is there any other better way? "So, accumulate all kinds of experience. Besides, you can learn speaking skills and improve your expressive ability by reading newspapers, watching movies and listening to others.

Step 3 insist

Even an admirable famous mouth or speaker can't win a full house on any occasion. Speaking, like other talents, is to accumulate over time, not in one step.

People with good eloquence gradually master the skills and constantly improve their speaking ability by observing the audience again and again. Talking is to let others know themselves and gain mutual trust and understanding through talking. If you think the other person doesn't understand you, don't spend time and energy talking to him, which means you don't understand the function of words.

Announcer, presenter, actor, etc. They are all experts in using language, but most of them think that they are not good at words since childhood. So, why can they eat with their mouths? The reason is simple, because they think their eloquence is not good, so they redouble their efforts to improve their expressive ability.

Step 4 speak appropriately

The so-called good eloquence does not mean that you must be eloquent and versatile. Many people always say humorous things when they get together with friends on informal occasions, which is very popular. However, when these people attend some formal meetings, they become silent and answer everything with "yes", "no", "maybe" or "I don't know". In other words, they can't say the right things in formal occasions.