Compared with two years old, a six-year-old child is "terrible". Please check the instructions for six-year-old children.

My son is six years old. In the past six months, I found that his mood and thoughts have changed a lot. What he often talks about now is "You are not me", "Why" and "Why". Whenever his parents ask him to do something, he will ask, and then make a decision.

Six months ago, he would vent his emotions directly, but now, he is learning to adjust himself. For example, one day, he and his father were studying English together, and there was a little conflict. He ran into the room at once, but instead of slamming the door, he closed the door gently, which showed that his emotions were not completely out of control.

After a while, he came out, but when his father went to talk to him, he still had some tears in his eyes and didn't want to talk to his father. He ran back to his room as soon as his father came near him. After a while, he came out, his mood seemed to have adjusted, and he began to talk and laugh with us again.

I have been observing his reaction. At first, I tried to comfort him as before, but when I tried to do that, I found that he was not happy, so I stopped trying and let him handle it himself.

At the age of five, he is still a small follower who loves to stick to his parents. He doesn't like going out to play unless his parents take him. At the age of six, I went downstairs to find friends by myself, and I didn't need adults to follow me. Now, for him, communication with friends has become a very important part of his life.

A typical six-year-old child is a small contradiction, which combines two extremes. His biggest distress is to rely on his mother, but he also wants to leave his mother and look forward to independence, so six years old is the starting point for children to truly separate from their mothers.

From about five and a half years old to six and a half years old, many children's behaviors seem to have taken a turning point in all aspects and developed in the opposite direction.

1, full of contradictions, loves to go to two extremes.

A special example of a six-year-old who likes to go to extremes is that when he is reading and writing, he often reverses his strokes. Therefore, if parents meet children who love to write backwards, don't rush to correct them. This phenomenon will change with the growth of children.

2. Think of yourself as the center of the whole world

There is a great distress in the small life of a six-year-old child, which is the relationship with his mother. This parent-child relationship not only gave him the greatest happiness, but also gave him the greatest distress. He loves his mother very much, and he needs her constant commitment to love him, but at the same time he will vent all his dissatisfaction on his mother. On the other hand, his fear of his father will be obvious.

When a child is five years old, his mother is the center of his whole world. At the age of six, he felt that he was the center of the whole world.

He is so dependent on his mother that he longs for independence. These two tangled emotions make him confused and tangled, and make his heart full of contradictions.

3. misconduct has increased.

You will find that a good child at the age of five becomes extremely naughty at the age of six, which is often a headache.

However, what we need to pay attention to is that when a child's behavior is less worthy of praise and approval, the more he longs for the praise of his parents. His seemingly unreasonable behavior is actually due to his lack of security, and he hopes to get the love and affirmation of his parents.

4. Make the home full of happy little cuteness.

Although a six-year-old child will have a daily life that annoys us in one way or another, sometimes he will be beautiful, enthusiastic, loyal and sincerely admire his parents. When he is happy, he will laugh and even dance. His enthusiasm is infectious, and it is also a great pleasure for us to explore this beautiful world with our children.

Children of this age like new places, new ideas, new information and his own new achievements. He is especially good at enjoying happiness. Sending him a small gift, a small surprise, a small compliment and a small snack can make him extremely happy.

Reminder for parents: Have a reasonable psychological expectation for children.

Children's growth is often spiral. He can't always be so clever and sensible, and he won't always be naughty. But no matter what kind of behavior, as long as we know it is in line with his age, we can reduce a lot of unnecessary troubles.

No parenting method is universally applicable, and we need to constantly adjust our coping styles as our children grow up.

1, awesome

Children like praise, and there is no doubt that praise, especially from parents, often has the power to turn decay into magic. Even if children insist on arrogance, a few compliments from parents can calm them down.

Step 2 give it a chance

Many six-year-old children will use "I won't do it" to directly refuse their parents' demands. We can try to respond by saying, "I think you may need me to give you three chances." This will not only give children a chance to say "no", but also make parents not angry because of their children's refusal.

Step 3 count

This is similar to giving a chance. We can calmly say, "I'll count to ten and see if we can start." This is to give children some time to deal with the things at hand. If you find that your child is still procrastinating, you may wish to give your child more time.

Another way is to "set the time", whether it is the alarm clock or the time set on the mobile phone. Tell the child that as soon as the alarm clock rings, he needs to finish what he is doing now and start what his parents ask.

Step 4 avoid its sharpness

Don't confront the children head-on. Instead of confrontation, it is better to simply change the theme or environment, don't give orders directly to children, and give them certain choices within an acceptable range.

5. Accommodate children appropriately.

We need to set boundaries for children's behavior, but in some unprincipled things, we should accommodate children appropriately and give them some flexibility.

6. Cold treatment

Let the children go back to their rooms for a while, or we can go to the bathroom or somewhere else to calm down.

Step 7 look on coldly

In the face of the child's naughty behavior, as long as it is not dangerous and will not cause harm, then we can choose to turn a blind eye and make the child feel boring, and he will naturally not commit it again.

8. Avoid minefields

We need to observe under what circumstances children are most prone to bad behavior. We need to avoid these minefields properly. Mastering the child's "emotional trigger point" can reduce many unnecessary conflicts.

Six years old is the most tangled and immature year for children. It is not easy to be a six-year-old child. The best way for parents to treat their six-year-old children is to tolerate our six-year-old children.

Don't be too picky about his "naughty" behavior, understand his inner conflict more, and let him better receive the signal of his parents' love. After the age of seven, you will find that he is no longer the "little prick" who is always a headache.