How to evaluate the life value of a full-time wife

As a stay-at-home mother with children, I envy ladies and mothers who have aunts to cook and nannies to take care of their babies. ...

To tell the truth, taking care of children is really tiring, not out of hobbies, but out of a sense of responsibility, which is much more tiring than going to work. I used to stay up late and work overtime when I was doing development, and I was not so tired with my children. If someone can help change hands, the mother will have a chance to catch her breath and adjust her state, which will make it easier to keep a good mood and have a better influence on her children.

Well, envy is envy. Let's talk about how to evaluate the value of full-time housewives.

It is also full-time, and there can be great differences between people.

Aside from family management activities such as housework, just looking after children can be roughly divided into several grades.

1。 At the primary level, as long as children are well fed and warm, they can grow up safely. Although children eat and drink Lazar every day, they don't have much emotional communication with their children, and they don't understand or care about their development.

2。 Higher is to take care of children with love. Although I don't know about children's development, I will pay attention to children, not only their physical and physiological needs, but also their psychological needs. I can interact with children effectively, thus promoting their emotional and language development. But without the blessing of scientific knowledge, it is possible to go in the wrong direction with love.

3。 Further up, we should know some knowledge about children's development, understand their physiological and psychological characteristics and development needs at all stages, and know how to provide children with an environment that meets their development needs, when to guide, encourage and help children, when to strictly discipline children, and when to let children explore and discover themselves. Love and know how to teach students in accordance with their aptitude. Of course, it may also be the lack of specific parenting skills, so you may not know how to deal with specific problems and contradictions.

4。 The most advanced thing is that you have love for children, are familiar with their development, and have mastered a considerable degree of parenting skills. It can not only provide a good environment for children to grow up, but also effectively deal with various specific problems encountered in the process of children's growth. Many of the knowledge and skills mastered here can be transplanted to other interpersonal relationships, such as husband-wife relationship and mother-in-law relationship.

The above is only a rough division, not absolute. In the same person, there may be various levels of intersection. Within the same level, there are also high and low points.

The more you go up, the more effort and brain power you need. Therefore, the greater the positive impact on children.

Generally speaking, the job of a nanny is 1. Even if you do your duty, a good nanny can do 2. Old people at home can generally achieve 2, and it is rare to go up again. (Not without it. I have met old people who have received higher education, love learning, are open-minded and have advanced educational ideas. They don't give much to their children. This aspect does have the influence of family culture inheritance. As a mother, if you are willing to invest time and energy in your study, it is entirely possible to reach the level of 3 or 4. Working mothers may not have so much time and energy to study systematically and take them on weekends.