Do you think it is appropriate to give a huge cash bride price at the engagement ceremony of a villager's daughter in Poyang?

A villager in Lutian Township, Poyang County, Jiangxi Province placed a large sum of cash on the table of the bride price at her daughter's engagement ceremony. Some people sent this video to a short video website, which caused an uproar. Many people think that doing so has actually brought a very bad influence.

Nowadays, the huge bride price has become a social problem, and it is still so ostentatious, so ostentatious, but let everyone see that this is likely to trigger a series of comparisons and make it more difficult for older young men in rural areas to get married. I personally think this view is correct, but have we ever thought about one thing?

The villager didn't violate any laws. The bottom line of this society is the law. We can think that this villager's behavior is inappropriate, but we can't maliciously speculate on this villager's practice. The sky-high bride price should indeed be resisted and abolished, but is this the case?

The bride's family did not ask her husband's family for the bride price, but the husband's family took the initiative to give it to her family. They just want to reassure her that after your girl is married to our family, our son will be kind to your girl, and her in-laws' parents will treat your girl as their own daughter. Treating the bride price is just a gesture. No one can deny the existence of this situation.

Then, as a woman, what's wrong with putting the bride price given to her by her husband's family in the most conspicuous place for the people in the village to have a look? This is the freedom of others, and the behavior may be inappropriate, because the negative impact that this kind of thing will bring to the public and society is not considered.

But if this video wasn't put on social media, what would it be? I'm not accusing the video maker of doing anything wrong here, but the video maker doesn't know the cause and effect of the whole thing, and he doesn't know whether these so-called huge cash gifts are in the form of gifts or wanted ones, so he sent this video. Should such behavior be condemned? Should we also consider whether this behavior is reasonable or illegal?

I still want to emphasize here that many pure loves have been destroyed, and two young people who love each other have been destroyed. However, this custom exists in some places, and it is established by convention. Both men and women accept this custom and there is no great contradiction. So sometimes we should deal with these things as appropriate, instead of looking at the problem across the board. It is the most inappropriate way to deal with problems simply and rudely.