What do you mean, "sixty doesn't pay, seventy doesn't stay overnight, and eighty doesn't leave a meal"? Does this make sense?

This sentence means to be very careful with the elderly.

The story of grandma next door tells the story of Li Nainai next door. This time last year, Li Nainai just moved to this city with his grandson. I live comfortably in the community, but my feet are a little inconvenient. There is an elevator in the community, which can go directly to the door. Grandma sometimes goes downstairs for a walk by herself.

But once, when I went to the toilet, I sat in the toilet for a while and suddenly shouted that I couldn't stand up. I was so busy that my grandson rushed her to the hospital. I didn't know it was osteoporosis until I checked it. The thigh bone is cracked, and the risk of surgical recovery is high. For people of the old woman's age, insurance treatment is recommended. When you are old, even with surgery, it is difficult for bones to re-bond.

The grandmother behind her can't take care of herself because of a fracture. At this time, her friend's mother came to take care of Li Nainai. Li Nainai is old, and his heart seems unhappy. In this way, there are always complaints from friends and mothers and growls from Li Nainai at home.

Think about it, just going to the toilet will lead to fractures, and we can know that the bones of the elderly are sometimes very fragile. If this happens in someone else's house, it may be troublesome. When you meet a reasonable person, you will say something. When you meet someone who is unreasonable and has a hot brain, it will be endless.

The story of grandma Hu in her hometown. There is also a grandma Hu in her hometown. She lives alone, and she is over eighty years old. She has a strong constitution. Sometimes I go to my neighbor's house and only drink boiled water occasionally. I won't eat other people's food, nor will I eat anything else. I haven't been out much recently, so I just sit at home and occasionally move at home.

Maybe she knows better that she is old and doesn't want to cause trouble to others. I know how to measure myself. Sometimes, there are some happy events in the village that she will never forget; She was always afraid of causing trouble to others and refused. Many people who are outside will go to her house when they go back. Grandma Hu can still grasp her own discretion when she is old, which shows that this "60 don't hand in words /70 don't stay overnight /80 don't leave meals" is reasonable.

Summarizing the meaning of the old saying is probably the same. Don't talk too intensely with the old people, and don't go against their wishes. It is best not to spend the night. Older people, don't leave their meals easily. Eating inappropriately will cause some headaches and old fever. That's what the saying means, and you don't have to get to the bottom of it, you have to say that number; Just worry.

The complete sentence of this proverb is: "Fifty don't pay, sixty don't pay, seventy don't stay, eighty don't stay, and ninety don't sit." So, what exactly does it mean? Does it make sense? Below, let's analyze it in detail:

First, "60 don't talk"

Second, "70 don't stay overnight" Third, "80 don't stay overnight for dinner"

In the old society, the average life expectancy of people was relatively short, so this conclusion drawn by the ancients is not suitable for today, at least now the age of each sentence should be pushed back. Generally speaking, this proverb has a certain warning function, but it also has some biased meanings. Nowadays, the elderly who are healthy, open-minded and full of vigor and vitality are very common. Some 70-and 80-year-olds travel around the world, so the above proverb can only explain one-sided reasons and is not completely correct.

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Sixty is the age of sixty, and it is almost difficult to make intimate friends again; Seventy don't stay overnight: life is 70 years old, and it is best for the elderly not to stay overnight; Eighty-year-olds are called octogenarians. Don't force others to eat in their host's house. In rural areas, there is a popular saying for those elderly people: 60 don't keep their promises, 70 don't stay overnight, and 80 don't stay for dinner.

Of course, this proverb is not made up by ordinary people casually, but a wise summary of the long-term life experience of working people.

First of all, let's talk about this "sixty words don't pay".

Sixty years old, also known as sixty years old. When a person crosses the threshold of 60 years old, he has entered the old age stage in his life in physiology and age. So, what is "sixty words without payment"?

"Communication" can be mainly interpreted as "communication" here. The meaning of the whole sentence can be understood as: in the face of the elderly aged 60 and above, we must master certain communication arts in communication, avoid speaking out of proportion and not screening the conversation content.

The reason behind this is actually easy to understand. People often say that there is a generation gap at the age of three. Therefore, the most direct conflict between young people and old people is the generation gap. People who have grown up in different times have great differences in values and behaviors.

Talking too much or speaking too bluntly can easily lead to such a situation: in front of unconventional young people, many concepts and practices of the elderly seem old-fashioned; In the eyes of the elderly, these new generations, no matter their lifestyles, ideas or behaviors, are more or less inconsistent with the code of conduct of the older generation.

Therefore, this kind of communication can easily lead to unhappy life and disharmony in family atmosphere. This is also an important reason why contemporary young people choose to separate from their parents after marriage. Sometimes, too much communication does not bring warm family style, but the bondage and bondage of values between them, which leads to the escalation of contradictions.

Therefore, it is not unreasonable for people to say "60 words don't pay". Although there are "forgetting to make friends", there are few practical examples in this regard. Especially for contemporary young people, it is particularly important to master the art of speaking without words and without words.

Secondly, let's discuss the knowledge of "seventy don't stay overnight".

Speaking of "seventy don't stay overnight", I think of a real case I saw in the village when I was a child.

When I was a child, there were not many people in our village, only a few families. At that time, in the countryside, both transportation and communication facilities were still quite backward, and many people didn't even have telephones. At that time, I remember that there was an old man in our village who was over 70 years old. People call him Lao Gao. He is smart and kind. Unfortunately, his wife died young, his children worked outside, and he lived alone all the year round.

One Mid-Autumn Festival, the uncle in the village next door, who used to have a very good relationship with Lao Gao, saw that he was too lonely and invited the old man to his house for the Mid-Autumn Festival.

Because of the excitement of the festival, the two had a few more drinks happily, and Lao Gao didn't come back that night. Who knows that the next day, the uncle ran to our village in a panic and told everyone that Lao Gao's heart was failing and suddenly left. For a time, everyone called for help and contacted the old children. They were all frightened and busy.

The sudden death of Lao Gao undoubtedly brought great shock to the old man and a lot of trouble to him. Later, it was said that the old man was sued by his wife and daughter, and he was miserable.

Seeing this, we have understood the truth of "seventy don't stay overnight". After the age of 70, the function of the body has begun to weaken, and a series of dominant or recessive diseases have appeared. Moreover, many sudden diseases, such as heart disease, cerebral hemorrhage and asthma, are unpredictable and can cause diseases in a short time. Old people of this age are facing physical difficulties and tests anytime and anywhere.

Therefore, when the elderly reach this age, they should be conscious and try to avoid staying in other people's homes to avoid more trouble when accidents occur. At the same time, young people, except immediate children, try to avoid being with the elderly of this age.

Finally, the truth of "80 don't stay for dinner" is actually very close to "70 don't stay for the night".

An 80-year-old man used to be considered an old man. Of course, the elderly in this age group also face many physical tests. For example, tooth loss and digestive system failure will bring them inconvenience and some pain. Therefore, eating has become a big problem for many elderly people of this age.

If you invite elderly people of this age to dinner, it is natural to make some psychological preparations in advance.

For example, young people have relatively good teeth, while old people often face the problem of tooth loss. At the dinner table, they can only eat some soft and rotten food. Some elderly people also suffer from high blood pressure, hyperglycemia and other symptoms, and they should control oil, salt and sugar in their diet. Of course, this is contrary to the dietary preferences of many young people. Therefore, the choice of food will become a big test for the elderly to eat.

Secondly, as mentioned above, for the elderly with weak gastrointestinal digestive function, improper food can easily cause gastrointestinal discomfort, and even cause sudden situations such as choking cough, which has certain risks.

Therefore, it is reasonable not to invite the elderly to dinner easily, which is worthy of reference for young people.

Summary:

The age of "60, 70, 80" in this proverb is actually not a real reference, but refers to the elderly to some extent. In fact, this is also a set of life-getting-along mode summarized by our predecessors for our younger generation, that is, don't talk too much, don't stay, and eat easily.

In China, where family values are deep, this view may make people feel that it hurts the elderly too much. Moreover, with the progress of society, people's average life expectancy is generally extended and their education level is improved. Some of the first three points may not be applicable to all elderly people.

But the author still believes that everything that exists has its rationality. The above views are only for young people to learn and refer to.

End.

The elderly are a vulnerable group in society, from ancient times to the present. When the elderly get older, their physical functions will go backwards, especially in ancient times when medical technology was underdeveloped. Generally, living to 60 is a long life. The ancients often said, "Fifty don't pay, sixty don't pay, seventy don't stay, eighty don't stay, and ninety don't stay." Let me explain the specific meaning to you.

First of all, not paying money means not borrowing money, which is out of personal interest. Put yourself in our shoes. We often have memories of running away, especially for the elderly. If we meet some unreasonable old people, maybe the money will go straight to Shui Piao. 50 years old, seemingly young, but in ancient times, it was already a long life, and there was danger of death at any time. If the old man dies suddenly, it is also a loss.

60 not talking, this is targeted, does not mean not filial to the elderly, not communicating with the elderly. Because there is a generation gap between ages, on the one hand, the concept of the elderly is relatively old, and if instilled in young people, it may bring bad influence to society. Secondly, the old people will react slowly or speak slowly, and they may not express their ideas, which may easily lead to emotional riots with the old people and hurt them. This is also a kind of protection for the old people. Although ancient medical skills were not well connected, diseases were connected. If the old man gets angry while talking to him, it is inevitable that nothing will happen when he is excited. Maybe he will be convicted of intentional homicide in ancient times, and the loss outweighs the gain.

There is an idiom "sleeping". The longer the time, the more problems. It's easy to have an accident if you suddenly change the environment for the elderly. It is risky to let the elderly stay in their own homes rashly. Didn't they die suddenly when they were asleep? Although it is a small probability problem, the consequences are also very serious, and most people are unwilling to take risks.

Eighty not to eat, first of all, involves a problem of eating. Everyone has everyone's eating habits and tastes, and the elderly and children should pay special attention to their diet. There are many accidents at the dinner table, eating allergic food and accidentally getting stuck while eating. These simple questions can kill an old man. Another possibility is that because of some economic problems, the old man's mouth is not good, and it is definitely more difficult to eat coarse grains. At this time, it is necessary to get some flour and rice, which was also very precious at that time. Presumably, people with thin family background will not be too happy. Moreover, it also involves a traffic problem. If there is any accident on the road, the impact will not be very good.

You don't leave 90, which is easy to understand on the basis of the above. The older you get, the more fragile you become. Accidents often happen inadvertently. You never know what will happen in the next second, and so do the elderly. Moreover, it will also face some traffic problems. This stumbling old man was a little dangerous in ancient times without traffic lights.

Of course, we don't deny all the old people. Some of them are well-educated and conform to the trend of the times. We should take the initiative to communicate with them at any time to gain the wisdom of our elders.

China has many aphorisms, which are the crystallization of working people's life experience and wisdom. These epigrams are catchy and meaningful.

Among them, "sixty don't talk, seventy don't stay overnight, and eighty don't leave food" is about how to treat the elderly. If you have a book today, I'll talk to you about what this sentence means and whether it makes sense.

1, "60 don't talk to anyone": it means that when you meet an old man in his sixties, generally don't talk to him too much.

In the past, people's life span was relatively short, especially when New China was just established. The average life expectancy of people is 40 or 50 years old. People who live to 60 years old are already long-lived old people.

At this age, people's physical functions are already very old, and they generally rely on the old to sell their old age and refuse to listen to other people's opinions.

If you have an argument with him because of some problems, he gets sick in a rage, or there is a more serious death, then you can't get away with it. It is very sad to think that talking to the elderly will have such serious consequences and bear the corresponding civil liability.

Besides, old people of this age used to feel a little deaf. When you talk to him, he usually can't hear clearly. Therefore, when I met an old man of this age before, I generally didn't have to say hello, just nodded at him. This is polite, avoiding the embarrassment that you say hello and he can't hear or hear it wrong.

Of course, with the improvement of people's living standards and the improvement of the medical system, people's life expectancy is getting longer and longer. At the age of 60, people are still relatively strong, and 60-year-old people in rural areas often go to work in the fields.

Moreover, 60-year-olds are not as stubborn as before, and young people don't have to worry too much about talking to them.

Like Shu Jun's uncle, he is sixty-two years old and strong. Moreover, he also works as a seedling broker in the village and often goes out by high-speed rail to talk business with people. Millions of running water are in operation every year. Therefore, it is a bit inappropriate to use the sentence "60 won't compensate you" on uncle.

2. "seventy don't stay overnight": it means don't leave the elderly over 70 at home for the night.

This also made sense in the past. There used to be a saying that "it's hard to get to 70 years old." It means that people who live to 70 years old are quite old.

The body of an old man of this age is like a lamp holder fire, and he may fall down at the slightest sign of trouble.

If an old man of this age is allowed to stay at home, he is likely to have an accident because he is not familiar with the living environment. Or because the tiles on the ground fell smoothly; Or get up at night and knock, it will be in trouble.

Once these accidents happen at this age, it is difficult to return to the original state.

Maybe even bedridden after a long illness. In that case, people who spend the night will be guilty. Therefore, even relatives, don't let the elderly over 70 stay at home.

You Shujun lived in the countryside, and her grandmother, who was in her seventies, came to my mother's house.

Grandma was walking in the yard when a dog from the pigsty suddenly jumped out. Although tied by a dog rope, I was still shocked. Grandma will fall down soon and can't move. Later, he was taken to the hospital and was diagnosed as a pelvic fracture by a doctor.

Grandma was in good health, and the doctor operated on her, but later her movements were not as comfortable as before.

Until grandma died at the age of 88, the two uncles and aunts still mentioned from time to time that grandma died soon because of that fall.

Although my mother treated my grandmother with the most money and took care of her most, she still blamed herself when she heard some complaints from her brothers and sisters.

Therefore, there are really many unpredictable risks in leaving the elderly at home. Now, although people in their seventies are much stronger than those of their previous age, it is better to be careful.

3. "Don't eat at 80": It means don't leave the elderly over 80 at home for dinner.

In the past, even fewer people lived to be eighty. An 80-year-old man who has lost his teeth can only eat thin and soft food. And the stomach is not good, cold, hot, sweet and spicy can not be eaten.

If an 80-year-old man comes home, you are not familiar with his eating habits and characteristics, and you cook a meal that he doesn't like or can't eat. Because of his face, the old man was embarrassed to say it, so he just managed to eat some.

If you have gastrointestinal diseases after eating it, you will be in trouble. Old people of this age are prone to illness, and a minor illness may kill them.

Therefore, it is not worth the loss to get into such trouble because of raising an 80-year-old man to eat a meal.

In fact, "60 don't talk, 70 don't spend the night, 80 don't leave the mouth" basically follows the law of life and is a warning to people. Old people over 60 and 70 should not be dissatisfied with their old age, so it is better to be careful in life; Young people, don't take it lightly, respect the routine of the elderly and prevent some accidents.

In fact, some scholars still hope that the society will continue to vigorously carry forward the good fashion of respecting the elderly and loving the young. I especially hope that our elderly friends can be treated gently by this society and let them spend their last days happily.

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This sentence is just a popular sentence in rural areas before, which is generally a summary of people's life experience. It has the characteristics of the times and customs. In fact, "60 people don't talk, 70 people don't stay overnight, and 80 people don't leave meals" is incomplete.

The full text is this sentence: "Fifty don't pay, sixty don't pay, seventy don't stay, and eighty don't stay." It used to be said in the countryside, so what does this sentence mainly mean? In the former countryside, the economy was backward, the living standard was poor and the medical conditions were not good. For a long period of history, people's average life expectancy is very short, with an average of 30 to 40 years old. When they live to 50, they are regarded as old people, and few people live to 60. That's why there is a saying that "life is seventy years old and rare", which has some truth.

These proverbs are still on the lips of some rural elderly people, who often remind and educate their families, but they also hear some helplessness from this sentence.

Mainly because people warn people around them how to "avoid the risk of getting along with the elderly" in order to avoid trouble, but in fact, as an elderly person, they have to endure this helplessness of being avoided by others.

"Don't pay back at the age of 50" means "if an old man over 50 comes to borrow money from you, don't borrow it, because he can't afford it himself, and his family may default. "Because in ancient rural areas, a 50-year-old man can't earn money and his family has no economic strength, so don't have money exchanges and disputes with him.

Now this situation is almost impossible to happen again, because people aged 50 (that is, those born after 60/70) have just started their careers and become the mainstay of society. It is these people who hold the main resources of society.

Therefore, this sentence has no practical significance and reference value today, and should be treated correctly and reasonably, or even eliminated.

Don't talk to people who are sixty. There are two reasons for this,

First, don't exchange ideas with 60-year-old people. They have passed the period of hard work and are very conservative. Moreover, young people are still in the enterprising stage, and communicating with them will affect their enterprising spirit.

Second, 60-year-olds are often slow-witted, stubborn and extreme, and have no scruples. It is difficult to have the same language with them, and there will be contradictions in communication.

There are many such examples in life.

Seventy not staying overnight means not letting the elderly stay at home, for fear of physical accidents, which can't be handled and explained. If you don't deliver food at the age of 80, you are old, and eating and drinking water may cause problems. Besides, your living habits are quite different. Ninety years old, I can't even sit down. It is better to leave quickly, because once 90% of the old people sit down, they may never get up again. These are actually telling non-elderly people how not to take responsibility and avoid unnecessary troubles. It is a reasonable epigram!

If you are over 60 years old, you should know this yourself and take the initiative to become a qualified old man!

When we understand these old sayings, we should understand them from the perspective of both sides, otherwise it is easy to misunderstand, that is, the old sayings passed down from generation to generation. Generally, it is based on goodwill, that is, goodwill, which implies concern and respect for each other.

These old sayings cannot be implemented unilaterally and absolutely, but should be treated differently according to specific phenomena. Today, people's life expectancy has been extended and their health level has been greatly improved. The age limit in these old sayings should be pushed back, but on the whole, these words are reasonable.

The enlightenment of proverbs to today;

So the meaning of this sentence to me today is "If you want to help others better, you should first consider how to avoid responsibility."

A popular event now is that some elderly people "touch porcelain". When helping others, we should first consider avoiding responsibility and danger. After all, respecting the old and loving the young is China's traditional virtue, but we should pay attention to protecting ourselves when doing good deeds.

These old sayings are advice to the younger generation in the past. Just because you don't talk at the age of 60 doesn't mean that people after 60 don't talk. It means that people after 60 should stop exchanging ideas. Young people are still making progress, but people after 60 have passed the age of making progress. At this time, they are conservative, and young people exchange ideas with them too much, which in turn will affect the enterprising spirit of young people.

70-year-old people don't stay overnight, that is to say, people over 70 try not to stay at home for the night, because you are not his relative after all, and you don't know his physical condition. If something happens at night, you can't afford it. Besides, people over 70 urinate too much at night, so it is possible to get up at night and touch or knock at the door in a strange environment. In order to avoid unnecessary trouble, but also to protect guests.

80-year-old people don't invite them to dinner at home, because their teeth are all gone when they are old, so it is inconvenient to eat. You don't know what they can and can't eat. If they don't eat well, it's not good for the elderly. Some elderly people spit it out and swallow it because of bad teeth, which will also affect the appetite of others.

When we understand these old sayings, we should understand them from the perspective of both sides, otherwise it is easy to misunderstand, that is, the old sayings passed down from generation to generation. Generally, it is based on goodwill, that is, goodwill, which implies concern and respect for each other. These old sayings cannot be implemented unilaterally and absolutely, but should be treated differently according to specific phenomena. Today, people's life expectancy has been extended and their health level has been greatly improved. The age limit in these old sayings should be pushed back, but on the whole, these words are reasonable.

Thank you for reading.

I am a country boy moving bricks. I'll answer this question.

1, the meaning of this sentence

This sentence means that for the elderly over 60 years old, when you speak, you should coax and say, remember not to argue; For the elderly over 70, try not to spend the night at home, and for the elderly over 80, try not to eat at home.

2. Why do you say that?

In ancient times, limited by nutritional factors and medical conditions, people's average life expectancy was very low, and people over 60 were considered old people. We all know that old people are inferior to young people in physical function and other aspects. If they are not careful, problems will happen. If there is an argument when talking to him, or if he stays at home for dinner, in case something happens to the old man suddenly, it may cause unnecessary trouble to himself.

3. Real cases

There is a story circulating in our family. The general content of the story is that decades ago, people's lives were still very hard and they often couldn't eat. Once a family in the village married their son, and they invited an old man from the village to sit at the table. The old man hasn't eaten enough for a long time. Seeing that the food at the wedding banquet was so delicious, he ate more bowls. As a result, my stomach ached to death that night because of indigestion. The old man's family and their host's family had a fight, insisting that there was something wrong with their food, and finally it was very unpleasant.

4. Does this make sense?

Is this sentence reasonable? Actually, it's hard to answer. This is a matter of opinion, just as everyone is telling each other not to help the old man who fell on the road. Do you think this is reasonable? I'm afraid it's hard for everyone to say clearly. Under normal circumstances, the old man fell, and he must be helped, but some people helped the old man out of kindness and were wronged in the end. Of course, this kind of thing is only an example after all. After all, there are many good people in this world.

Summary: Some widely circulated proverbs are the experiences summarized by the older generation according to their own life experiences. Some of these experiences can guide people's life and behavior even today, and some are just a view that different people have different views. How to choose depends on ourselves.

Tell the truth: this is some common experience in rural areas before, and it has certain objective rationality. Explain the meaning of this sentence first. To tell the truth, don't quarrel with people in their sixties, don't leave people in their seventies at home, and if they are in their eighties, don't invite others to dinner. The reason for this seemingly inhuman statement is mainly based on risk considerations.

Because as far as various conditions in rural areas are concerned, if a person reaches the age of 60, basically all kinds of potential diseases may be aroused at any time, such as cardiovascular disease, which has the greatest impact, and one of the most important preventive measures for this disease is not to get angry, otherwise it will be easily induced and lead to life-threatening. Therefore, if you quarrel with a 60-year-old man, it will easily lead to the other person's anger and illness, and the responsibility will still be borne by yourself. This is because of the small loss.

Similarly, 70% don't stay overnight, and 80% don't stay for dinner. Essentially, it is because the old people are old and then need to be taken care of. If they don't take good care of them, they may have an accident, faint in their sleep or choke on food. These are big problems that ordinary families can't bear.

Of course, the old people here mainly refer to unfamiliar people. Some people may wonder why these things happen when they are unfamiliar. This is actually based on the hospitality of the countryside. In the past, even if a stranger came to the village and asked for a bowl of water, it was okay to eat with one mouth open. But now rural thoughts are gradually influenced by cities, and the distance between people is gradually alienated. There is no distinction between good and bad. It can only be said that the society has developed to this extent, so it is safer to come.

Of course, in the end, I also hope that everyone can pay more attention and be more careful in the process of interacting with people, especially strangers. We should have good intentions, but we should also take preventive measures. It's really easy to say when a lot of things don't happen. Once it happens, it's really unclear.

Finally, I hope everyone will stay at home and do a good job in epidemic prevention during this critical period.

Well-founded, tell the truth, pay attention: the truth. Let's look at the world from a rational point of view.