I don't know why I always think a lot of things. Very annoying. You can't persist without a goal.

I don't know why I always think a lot of things. It's disgusting. You can't persist without a goal. I used to be confused. I can't set goals for you. But I'll tell you a story, hoping to inspire you.

A man went to the temple to worship Guanyin, but he saw a woman who looked like Guanyin worshipping Guanyin. He said to the woman, "Aren't you Guanyin?" She said: Yes, I am Guanyin. "The man said," Great, can you help me realize my wish? " Guanyin said, "I can't help you. I have problems to solve myself. Or ask yourself. I'm begging myself. "

So God helps those who help themselves, and their fate is in their own hands. If you want to have a successful life, you must be responsible for yourself first, otherwise no one can help you. Please stop complaining and start with the little things around you, and you will succeed one day.

I don't know why I can't concentrate when I study. Most people do. People are growing and their thoughts are growing. If they think too much, it is difficult for them to concentrate. Unless they are interested in the content of learning, they can fully understand and learn.

When I was young, I learned everything by rote. When I grow up, I learn things through understanding.

I don't know why I always think so much … many things always happen to me. The easiest way is for you to talk to her and tell her what you think. In addition, if there are contradictions, don't solve them the next day.

I don't know why I always call the police when an exhibitionist threatens you. Harassment is a crime. The more you are afraid of something, the more you will push your luck. Relax psychologically. So is the primitive society.

Why can't we always insist on doing one thing well and break this goal down into several small goals? When you accomplish a small goal, give yourself an encouragement and motivate yourself to move towards the next goal. If you accumulate more, there will be qualitative changes. Don't set your goals too far and too high.

Adopt it

I don't know why I don't take the initiative to encourage many things and people, but encourage them in time when children behave well. Help him learn the ideas and methods to solve problems, keep a healthy attitude, and tell him that making mistakes doesn't mean being stupid. As long as he studies, everything will be solved.

Communicate with children of the same age, let him learn to integrate into the team, understand others, be kind to others, and keep a sunny attitude.

Don't worry, everything will get better gradually. As parents, the most important thing is to be patient and set a good example. Children will record our words and deeds, be strict with themselves, and the children will be fine.

I don't know why I can't always express my true thoughts. This question covers a wide range, but there is definitely something wrong with your expression ability, so there are many reasons, such as your small vocabulary or shyness when getting along with people, your small social circle, your inability to exercise, your strong accent, or your previous experience that makes you afraid to express yourself too much. . . And so on. These reasons are various.

But I want to know why I always screw up many reasonable things. It's okay to screw up one or two things. Who hasn't done anything wrong The point is, after screwing this up, you have to think: OK, I screwed up now. I can't keep denying myself because of this. I want to know where I made a mistake and how to improve it next time. In this case, it will get better and better. Don't let failure deny yourself.

Why is my self-control so poor that I can't persist in many things? I hope the following methods will help you.

Firstly, several basic concepts about enhancing self-control are introduced. They are:

This concept may sound contradictory, but it is the key to enhancing self-control. The reason why self-control has become a heart disease for many people lies in the word "self-control". What does the word "self-control" mean? It means "self-control", specifically: one part of oneself should control another part of oneself; More specifically, we should control the part that we want to do something to delay the part that we don't want to do. When we say "control", we pay more attention to our opposites or enemies. In this way, you artificially create divisions and infighting in your body and begin to devour your energy. The most important thing is that whenever you want to "control the enemy", he will resist. The more you control, the more he will resist, so that your heart will never be peaceful, your energy will be consumed indefinitely, and your self-control will completely collapse. This is exactly what we see in many people. Therefore, to enhance self-control, we must first give up control and turn to acceptance.

Simple action starting inertia

This method applies the principle of inertia in physics and is also based on the idea that doing anything is better than sitting there worrying about what you haven't done. This is a very quick and effective method, and it is also a necessary method to enhance self-control.

A clear decision to regain control.

This law is based on the principle that the key to enhancing self-control is to regain self-control, even a little bit. It doesn't matter whether you do something or not. What is important is that it is better to make a clear decision than to let it go.

Get rid of "the idea of escaping from life"

Many people have repeatedly suffered setbacks in the journey of enhancing self-control, and can't help but sigh: "How is it so difficult to enhance self-control?" Among many factors that affect self-control, the most fundamental reason is that self-control violates human nature. Dryden and Jack? Gordon said that in everyone's subconscious, there is an idea of escaping from life-"I don't think life should be too difficult. If it's too hard, I might as well escape. I can't endure temporary pain for long-term happiness. " It is precisely because of this deep-rooted concept that we are working very hard on the road of strengthening self-control.

Stop criticizing yourself.

People often blame themselves for their lack of self-control. Are you the same? When people criticize themselves, they don't realize that they have created a fatal obstacle to enhance self-control and the growth of life-the loss of self-confidence and self-esteem. Self-confidence and self-esteem are the core of self-control and life. If people lose self-confidence and self-esteem, everything will be ruined.

Freud, a famous psychologist, said: People do anything, either to pursue happiness or to escape pain. This is the ultimate driving force of all human behaviors. By using the power of pain and happiness, you can immediately and permanently change your behavior and pursue your dream life. However, if you don't know how to use this power, the future is doomed to be out of your control. If you eat something that causes severe diarrhea, you won't continue to eat it, will you? Because you have experienced great pain. If you burn your finger on a red-hot stove, you won't touch the stove again, will you? Because you have experienced great pain. If we want to change our behavior, we must associate our old behavior with pain and our new behavior with happiness. Otherwise, any change will not last. As long as the power of pain and happiness is connected with anything, we can change our thoughts, behaviors and habits immediately.

Why can't I always stick to a healthy life! If you want to have a healthy living condition, you must have a healthy living environment and a good attitude.