Lack of self-control makes you feel irritable and lonely. I feel like the road ahead is unclear and I can’t stick to my established goals. How should I change myself?

The above two answers seem to be reasonable, but when you analyze it carefully, they say nothing. I am a person who has been through this, and my experience is basically the same as the original poster, but now I am completely different from before. It’s because I was lucky enough to learn something. I’ll share it with you below, and you will definitely get what you want from it.

First of all, why does a person lack mobility and self-control? What/?Here we want to discuss, what is the fundamental driving force that affects a person’s destiny or character? That is to pursue happiness and avoid pain. For example, you make up your mind to recite a hundred words at night. When you start to prepare to study, you suddenly find that you want to drink water. Unfortunately, there is no boiled water, so you prepare to boil the water before studying. I have boiled water, but I feel uncomfortable again. I plan to watch a movie and listen to music before studying.

After listening to the music, I feel sticky on my body. I think it’s not too late to take a shower before studying, or think of QQ You haven't contacted the little girl you met for a long time, so you can chat with her for a while, so you use various excuses to waste your time all night. When you go to bed at night, tell yourself that you must complete your homework tomorrow or something like that. .

The situation is still the same the next day. In the long run, you will naturally lack confidence and feel that you are a failure.

The truth of the matter is: because you subconsciously feel that reciting words is a tortured and painful thing, you can't help but avoid it, and you get all kinds of excuses and reasons. This is an escape signal sent by your subconscious mind. So if something makes you feel painful, you will definitely not be able to do it.

On the other hand, if you go on a date with the girl you like, no matter how difficult it is, you will remember it There are many ways to overcome it, and in the process of overcoming it, I feel very energetic and powerful. Why is this? Because dating only brings you happiness and no pain, if something can bring you happiness, then you are more likely to succeed.

These are the two driving forces that influence human behavior. We must be good at using these two forces, so that we can become powerful.

How do we change the use, that is, use Linking the things we don’t want with pain can prevent us from doing it again; linking the things we want with happiness can always motivate us to move towards our predetermined goals.

I have summarized this after taking a 30-day course on Potential Explosion. That course is indeed very effective and can change people’s personalities very quickly. If you have time, go to Taobao and get a pirated version to learn it. It is guaranteed to surprise you. It also surprises the people around you

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