How to quit masturbation

The real core of abstinence and its inertia.

In fact, when I quit color for 200 days, I wanted to write an article to teach new people how to quit color and what old people should pay attention to. But due to the recurrence of symptoms, I was delayed. Now that my body is better and my consciousness is improved, I decided to write this article about abstinence from color. Thanks to the people who helped me, and thanks to Brother Fei for taking the ring as a good medicine.

Title: First of all, the real core of abstinence is to cultivate the mind. The so-called mind cultivation is to control the mind, that is, to stop thinking. But for me, there is also a concept of spiritual cultivation, which is kind cultivation.

Similarly, abstinence from color can be divided into two systems: theoretical knowledge and practical thinking. It's like taking a driver's license. You passed the written test, but failed the second test. Can I get a driver's license? In the same way, everything about abstinence comes back to actual combat. No matter how much theoretical knowledge, failure in actual combat will also break the precepts. Many people will say, I actually know all the commandments about abstinence, but that's just a false understanding. The so-called understanding doesn't even have110. Even if I really understand, failure in actual combat is also a violation of the precepts. However, there is a make-up test for the driving test. If you can't quit, you will break the rules.

From the above, it can be seen that actual combat is more important than theoretical knowledge, and according to my observation, many people in Lust, Caution circle only attach importance to theoretical knowledge and not to actual combat. But their theoretical knowledge didn't even pass the passing line, let alone actual combat, and it was a mess. Who can blame such a layman for abstaining from color and breaking color? Breaking the precepts is inevitable, and the more you break the precepts, the more difficult it is to quit. The more you break the precepts, the more they affect each other, so don't underestimate every time you break the precepts, and don't underestimate every desire. The more you break the precepts, the greater the inertia and the greater the difficulty, so please take every desire to come in seriously. I hope you have a correct attitude and make up your mind to quit! Therefore, from now on, learning to stop thinking and pay attention to actual combat is the first step and the core step to quit color!

Now let's talk about another core of abstinence: cultivating kindness. With it, the color withdrawal is definitely more powerful. Many people will definitely think that abstinence from color has something to do with cultivating kindness. Actually, it matters a lot. First, abstinence and other behaviors are actually negative energy. Don't deny this. Everyone has seen such things as * * * vibration. Your whole body is excited by negative energy (* * * vibration), which can explain why people who manage things often make mistakes. After all, they inspired it themselves. Who can you blame? Simply put, negative energy is one of the chief culprits of breaking the precepts, so we should also cultivate kindness.

Then the topic is coming. What should be used to resist negative energy? The answer is already obvious, that is, positive energy, so what can be done to have positive energy? Is to implement a "good" word, the so-called good is Yang, Yang is positive energy! Well thought, well done, well said. In life, you should be kind to others, be kind to others, think of others, put yourself in others' shoes and treat others as yourself. These are the realms of the best.

Let me give you some simple examples of doing good deeds. For example, when the old man plays table tennis and the ball flies to you, please don't be stingy and bend down to pick it up. Others will definitely say thank you! The cyclist can't go up or down the slope at the turning position. Please give him a push with a smile. These are all manifestations of doing good with fate, and I have experienced them personally. I don't know if this move will warm others all day, but when others thank me, I am really warmed. This is the power of reaction, so why do old people who give up color often say that they should help others more? Is it nonsense? Helping others is helping yourself, which is actually the truth. So, for abstinence and a happy future, why not practice charity with fate? Don't do it because of small goodness, and don't do it because of small evils.

In fact, there are two things that newcomers and shunza must consider and solve. If they don't think and solve, they will break the rules. (1) they won't let themselves into a state of desire; 2 How to resolve it in the state of desire! The first point is to nip in the bud, so as not to be passive. The second point directly determines whether you will break the precepts, so it is also very important. How to solve problems in a state of desire depends on your own thinking, for example, you have to think and practice by yourself. After all, everyone's effect is different, and you have to experience it yourself to know whether it is useful or not. When the desire is successfully resolved, consciousness and self-confidence will be improved, so the more you quit, the more brave you will be and enter a virtuous circle. To put it bluntly, you will break the rules, that is, you don't take this problem seriously. Who can you blame for breaking the precepts? Therefore, it is imperative to think about and solve the second point first.

The butterfly effect of abstinence, a little change, may change a lifetime, so a little degeneration may also lose a lifetime! Often when doing a big thing, you need to do it bit by bit, so don't underestimate that "little bit". This is the most important first step to change your life. If you go out, it may change. If you don't go out, it will never change! This "little bit" seems very common, but in fact, the role behind it can be more than a little bit. Just like dominoes, if you push down a domino, there will be a chain reaction behind it. Whether life can change depends on this little bit of "little bit" that you don't think.

However, breaking the precepts is often due to a "lazy inertia" and a "last lie", so that you can't get rid of the cycle of breaking the precepts, because breaking the precepts again and again greatly reduces your confidence, and the inertia will increase. However, every time I use the lie "This is the last time", I will give myself an excuse, a step, an increase in inertia+a decline in confidence+an excuse.

The more you break the ring, the harder it is to break it, and the more it will be broken. The more difficult it is, the more you will break them. They all interact with each other. In this vicious circle, unless you take a good step in a virtuous circle, it is difficult to change them, so don't underestimate every desire and every break. It is 65438+. The best policy is not to let yourself enter the state of desire → the premise is not to touch the stimulus → the ultimate idea is to avoid color like an arrow and avoid color like a tiger. We must reach the realm of these ten words in order to avoid being stimulated and thus avoid entering the state of desire.

To sum up the above contents: the core of abstinence is to cultivate mind = stop thinking+cultivate goodness.

Lust, Caution can be divided into two systems: theoretical knowledge and practical thinking, and practical thinking is above everything else!

Think and solve two problems: ① Don't let yourself enter the state of desire; (2) How to resolve it in the state of desire.

Butterfly effect, a little change may change a lifetime, so a little fall may also lose a lifetime.

The more you break the precepts, the harder it is to quit. The more you break the precepts, the more you break them.

Two ideas: don't let yourself enter a state of desire, avoid color like an arrow and avoid color like a tiger.

In short, if you want to jump out of the cycle of breaking the precepts, don't give yourself a "final" lie when your desire comes, it will only make you fall into the cycle of breaking the precepts, and try to defeat your demons! ! A "small" change begins with reading this article, breaking through difficulties and getting yourself into a virtuous circle!

Count the real reasons why you broke the precepts.

I have been abstaining from color for nearly five months, and I am quite confident about my experience. The following insights are the summary report of my practice. Tell me about my situation. I didn't break the precepts in this practice, but I had a nocturnal emission! This is a qualitative change compared with the past. I have initially realized the highest state of mindlessness, that is, observing the mind, knowing what is not and knowing what is broken. The key lies in one word, which is why I insist on reading the formula every day; I also understand the abstinence truth that many senior brothers don't understand. In fact, the ultimate goal of abstinence is to surrender their hearts, not their thoughts, and we just want to surrender the thoughts of demons. This can actually be trained. How to train? When you want to eat what you like, the greedy devil has come out. At this time, you have to tell yourself that I just won't eat. What can you do with me? In fact, this process is to subdue his heart, and there are still many trainings in life that can subdue his heart.

Why do you always break the rules? I found that there are five reasons for breaking the precepts.

Too lazy, too many bad habits, don't want to change the status quo.

I haven't made up my mind.

(3) the injury is not deep enough.

(4) Don't think about how to quit color.

The method is not suitable for you, or the general direction is right, but the method or practice is wrong.

In fact, ① ② ③ are connected together. It is because the injury is not deep enough and bad habits such as laziness that I have never made up my mind to quit. ④ ⑤ In fact, it can be connected. Let's start with a case. I heard a recording a few days ago, which probably said that a college graduate believed in Buddhism and was doing it, but it would still break if it broke. I analyzed it. In fact, his general direction is right, but something is missing, that is, the last step is missing. At this time, it is up to the brain to figure out how to quit color. What is not done well enough and what needs to be corrected must be considered. To put it bluntly, many people just don't have to think about it, what to do when the demons come and what to do when the desires come. It is a misunderstanding for newcomers to say that they want to quit color, but they don't know how to quit color. That's why they quit and break again and again!

There is another situation that I find that many people have not noticed. For example, you will break the rules in the early morning or tomorrow, so what are you talking about? The most important thing is to solve why you don't break the precepts in the early morning. That's what you need to do now, right? This also needs to be thought with your head. Doesn't mean that everything will be fine if you worship Buddha. You still have to solve the current problem! (Editor's Note: Learning Buddhism cannot stay in the external form. You must learn to cultivate your mind and learn to subdue it. )

Newcomers who have just quit color have great desires and many evil thoughts, and are particularly sensitive to that aspect. My advice to the newcomers who quit color is as follows: ① Cut off all things related to color, don't say, don't do, don't want to, don't watch or listen; Try to be a vegetarian, because eating meat has many evil thoughts. I think that my willpower is extremely weak and I will not stop thinking. If you still have so many ideas, it will be a miracle if you don't break the precepts. 3 don't eat too much and think about lust; 4 learn to stop thinking; ⑤ Keep your eyes on things you shouldn't read, especially online news. This is the fading way in the early stage of fading. These are all done. There will naturally be less evil thoughts behind, and it will naturally be easy to fade. This is my advice to newcomers. Of course, there are many ways to quit color, and the one that suits you is the best!

Again, learn abstinence first, that's what you need to do now. Abstinence from actual combat is the key to determine whether you will break the precepts, so abstinence from actual combat is above all else, and you will definitely break the precepts, so cruel and simple! I summed up three swords: ① learn to stop thinking; ② line of sight management; ③ Stay alert. These three points are how I broke the precepts with myself and others. The conclusion I got from them is that breaking the precepts is nothing more than these three points. If you understand them, you are not far from the success of abstinence! Abstinence is king. Many people ignore the importance of abstinence. Doing good deeds is really important, but it should be based on abstinence. Otherwise, what can we talk about doing good if we break the precepts? The core of abstinence is abstinence. There is no shortcut to abstinence in actual combat, so you can only practice hard every day.

Finally, I wish everyone can get rid of lewdness and bad habits as soon as possible and find back the lost beauty. Abstinence from color is a lifelong matter, even if you get married. All you need to do is "surrender your heart". Thank you teacher, thank you brothers, I hope everything goes well and you are healthy! This is my feeling of abstinence. I hope those abstainers who have repeatedly given up abstinence in abstinence can see clearly why they have given up abstinence and use their brains to think about how to give up color! Come on!

The importance of abstaining from color and clearing the way in actual combat

Recently, I have seen many friends breaking the rules, and I feel sad. I want to show you the way. Let me talk about the specific methods below, because I have recovered from my illness at first, and although my condition is not as good as the peak period, I will try my best to help you quit your friends.

Anyone who has read my post knows that I am a doer. I seldom talk about theory, but I talk about the core of abstinence. Many people say that I read abstinence articles every day, but I still can't beat my demons and break the ring. In fact, there is a similarity here, that is, the actual combat is poor, and the theoretical knowledge learned has not been applied to actual combat. In fact, a key point of abstinence is how to apply the theoretical knowledge learned to actual combat.

When you first come in, the newcomers in abstinence bar naturally need to read more abstinence articles to absorb theoretical knowledge. When you feel that you have learned enough theoretical knowledge, you should turn your attention to actual combat, use your brains to think about applying what you have learned in life to actual combat and overcome your demons. In the final analysis, abstinence is the most important thing. If you can't do this, it's easy to break the rules.

Next, I will talk about specific methods. First of all, look at your state. At first, you had a lot of inertia, desires and evil thoughts, and you were extremely sensitive to that aspect, with little experience in abstinence and poor practical thinking. In this extremely unfavorable state, you haven't made up your mind to give up color. Can you not break it?

First, there is no graphic mode. All browsers should be set to no graphics mode. If necessary, some software will even be banned. There are many mines on the Internet. Basically, any web page is a mine. If it's not broken, it's a miracle Abstinence from color can't wait for miracles. We should keep our eyes open and watch porn.

Secondly, vegetarianism, according to my own test and the experience of abstinence experts, vegetarianism can reduce the frequency of evil thoughts. I experienced vegetarianism personally, and there were few evil thoughts at that time. If you can't be a vegetarian, try to eat less meat.

Third, learn to stop thinking. Look at Brother Feixiang's stop thinking formula more than 500 times a day. When practicing conditioned reflex, you must watch the 99th season of "Abstinence as Good Medicine". I call it the ultimate way to stop thinking. This is where my sudden awakening began, and it was out of control. The core of precept is abstinence, that is, actual combat thinking, and it is inevitable to stop thinking.

Fourth, cultivate goodness. In fact, abstinence from color has a lot to do with cultivation of goodness. Doing good and accumulating virtue is like adding wings to a tiger!

The above is the specific method to stop color. Do as I say, really don't think too much. Wait till you do it. I can't guarantee that you 100% will quit smoking successfully, but I can guarantee that after you do what I do, your consciousness will definitely improve. I can guarantee that.

Final conclusion: From the moment you decide to abstain from sex, you should know who the enemy is, and you must distinguish them. Evil thoughts like Lu Guan are not the real you. Remember that all this comes from the devil, not the real you. When the desire comes out, you have to think "this is not the real me". The real you want to quit sex and return to a better life. This is the real you. You must recognize yourself and see through it.