Why excellent colleagues are excellent.

Qiqi, it depends on your understanding. Some people have different personalities from most people, so talking and doing things makes people feel wonderful; Some people are wonderful in the eyes of others because of their extreme self-awareness. Let me talk about my great colleagues.

One of my male colleagues, just call him Shan Ge. Why do you call him brother? It's because he is really like big brother sometimes, and he is good at taking care of people. Because he takes care of people, everyone calls him brother. What does it have to do with Qiqi? Look down.

Shan Ge is in the habit of making his own decisions. For example, he suddenly sent a message in a small group after work, saying, I will order that barbecue and don't be absent at night; Or have nothing to do today Friday. Let's sing. I have made a reservation in advance ... * * * It's embarrassing every time these years. Because I never say hello in advance, it is difficult for two colleagues with families to do it. Obviously, it's hard to go to work, but I have to take care of Shan Ge's face after work. You might say, can't you refuse? One of our girls refused once, and Shan Ge was depressed all night. The next day, she made a special trip to buy gifts to apologize to the parties, which was particularly grand and embarrassing.

If we want to add a boundary and an appropriate boundary to the sense of distance of social people in the workplace, Shan Ge will always exceed this boundary, which makes people feel very helpless. For example, one day he was sorting out the bureau again. As a result, one of his colleagues said I couldn't go. My grandmother is ill. I'm going to the hospital to take care of her. Shan Ge went on to say, is your grandmother dying? Suddenly, the air became very quiet and everyone stopped talking. Shan Ge has done this kind of verbal deviance many times, but he never feels that he has offended others, and there is nothing we can do.

Another point is that although Shan Ge's starting point is good, he is sometimes naive when he does things. For example, he didn't ask everyone to eat in the group, but he would inform them one by one. If the person who didn't notice didn't attend, Shan Ge will talk about this person all night, saying that he (she) has changed. He won't look down on everyone, pay attention to everyone, not himself, and then introspect all night, but he doesn't get to the point, saying that I am just too kind and kind to others, and I didn't expect to be so sincere to others. If his colleagues hadn't known his character for a long time, it would have ended in discord. It is precisely because of this that there are always so few people in the circle of friends that newcomers will be scared away when they come in.

Finally, I actually have some reflections. You can't mold a friend's good character without yourself. If we were not afraid of offending people and didn't know how to refuse others, Shan Ge wouldn't have gone further and further on the dead end, right?