How to improve your self-cultivation?

? First, elegance: the charm capital of women

1、? Ten standards of elegant professional women: intellectuality, tolerance, gentleness, fashion, exquisiteness, independence, wisdom, wealth, rationality and Shu Xian.

2、? Psychologically explain temperament: it is the dynamic psychological characteristics such as strength, speed, stability and flexibility that people show in their psychological activities or behaviors. Not only in the speed of emotional production, the intensity of emotional experience, the stability of emotional state and the range of emotional changes, but also in the speed and flexibility of behavior, action and speech.

3、? In aesthetics, temperament is defined as follows: the so-called temperament refers to a person's style, demeanor and style.

4、? Elegant temperament is based on a person's cultural accomplishment, civilization, ideological quality, personality orientation and lifestyle, and also depends on her attitude towards life.

5、? Facing the reality, they combine their wishes with their careers and earnestly practice. It is full, energetic and radiant, giving people a feeling of vitality; In the face of adversity, I am always tireless and persistent, giving people the feeling of self-improvement.

6、? Weakness, innocence and self-pity are the destroyers of women's elegant temperament. Women in this mental state are mostly characterized by strong dependence, self-satisfaction and self-abandonment. At most, it can win people's sympathy and pity, but it can't win others' appreciation.

7、? Zheng Mingming, an international beauty expert, tells the true meaning of makeup. She said: "The highest level of makeup can be described in two words:' nature'. The most subtle makeup technique is to make everyone look as if they have never put on makeup, and this makeup matches the identity of the owner, which naturally shows the personality and temperament of that person.

8、? For intellectual women, the pressure of occupation and career is a challenge and a social disease, which is the natural enemy of elegance. Just think, how can a woman with great pressure in her life be free? How can we be happy? How does a tired face synchronize with elegance?

9、? In daily life, everyone has depression and fluctuation of psychological emotions, which is not only related to internal factors such as personal character, physiological cycle and endocrine state. And very vulnerable to the pressure of work, career ups and downs, love and family misfortune.

10, an elegant woman's character should be soft inside and rigid outside, with a strong heart beating under the gentle appearance. Elegant women are no longer the childishness of fanatical women, nor are they formidable women. Elegant women deeply understand that the deliberate pursuit of tenacity is too different from the real inner world of women, and it is very hard without tenacity.

1 1、? However, sex appeal and sensibility are often brothers and sisters. A pair of charming eyes, sometimes like a dreamy and confusing disturbance of nature, sometimes childlike, sometimes sexy, sometimes quiet and gentle. This is the real woman in reality.

12, no one can stop the passage of time, and the charm of youth and beauty will not last forever. Only the rich cultural connotation and elegant temperament endowed by experience is the unparalleled lasting charm, which increases with the superposition of time.

Second, elegance: from a better life

1、? Beauty is pleasing to the eye, elegance is exciting; Beauty is the external landscape of matter, while elegance is the fragrance emitted from the inside out by an invisible spirit.

2、? The charm of personality is embodied in women, that is, tenacity. Toughness is another manifestation of a woman's charm, which is reflected in her temperament, that is, elegance.

3、? Self-esteem is a high threshold. If a woman doesn't have some lofty ideals, it may be difficult for her to keep her self-esteem all the time; But if a woman is too lofty, too condescending and looks down on others, then she will either lead to vanity or become vulgar, vulgar and vulgar. Therefore, people should not be arrogant, but not arrogant.

4、? Learning to respect others requires understanding and tolerance; Learn to respect yourself, and sometimes you need to tolerate loneliness and poverty. So "people are as pure as chrysanthemums."

5、? Self-confident woman, calm and generous, writes freely, with quiet, peaceful and firm light in her eyes.

6、? Believe that you can be elegant and often elegant. This is human psychology at work. People's thinking has two main parts, namely consciousness and subconsciousness. When the consciousness makes a decision, the subconscious makes all the preparations. In other words, the consciousness decides what to do, and the subconscious will sort out how to do it.

7、? Young and beautiful women are certainly attractive capital for women, but what always attracts people is their elegant taste in life. Elegant taste life is a woman with culture, accomplishment and interest, and her charm can last forever.

8、? In the same life, men don't expect women to keep pace with the opposite sex in all fields; What men long for is that seven lonely days have the same or similar life interests. Like watching football and playing chess.

9、? An elegant woman is a woman with a strong thirst for knowledge. Books, movies, information discs and the Internet will be their best partners.

10、? Making friends is also a feature of broad interests, but only by making more friends can we create opportunities for ourselves to cultivate elegant interests. The so-called black near the ink, black near the ink, this is the truth, never underestimate the subtle role.

1 1、? Never frown when you are in adversity; Don't get angry when you are unhappy. When adversity and disappointment appear, smile at life, which is what elegant women do.

12、? In sports, we should improve ourselves and surpass ourselves, so as to achieve the eternal unity of inner beauty and outer beauty. This is the standard of modern beauty.

Third, elegance: lovely image.

1、? Leonardo da vinci, a famous Italian painter and anatomist of human body, put forward that the proportion of all parts of human body conforms to some "golden section laws", that is, the head length should be 1/7 of the body height, the shoulder width should be 1/4 of the body length, the body length should be reduced when kneeling 1/4, and the body length should be reduced when lying down 1/4. The front width of thigh should be equal to the width of face, the distance between eyes should be equal to the length of one eye, and the length of ear should be equal to the length of nose.

2、? If you want to be fashionable, instrument decoration is essential.

1)? Pay attention to fitness, and the decoration should be suitable for appearance, body shape and personal temperament; It is necessary to coordinate with one's own identity and occupation, conform to and embody one's own identity characteristics, and show inner beauty.

2)? Attention should be paid to the integrity, and the revision of each part should be coordinated with the whole.

3)? Grasp moderation, grasp discretion, be natural and moderate, and pursue the effect of carving without trace, whether in the degree of decoration, the quantity of decoration or the skill of decoration.

4)? Grasp the principle of change, and require the instrument decoration to change with the change of time, place and occasion.

3、? A good communication image should have calm, kind and thoughtful eyes, and at the same time, make a positive response at any time by nodding, smiling, gesturing, staring and posture, and show your thoughts and feelings.

4、? Speak as calmly and kindly as possible, which will make the other person feel that you are sincere.

5、? Men's years pass without losing their luster, while women's beauty fades but their charm remains.

6、? The gentleness of modern women is not the kind of submission and acceptance in the past, but a tacit understanding full of honey, which is gentleness, thoughtfulness, tolerance and gentleness based on equality.

Fourth, elegance: the beauty of posture

1、? The main points of elegant standing posture are as follows:

1)? Head up, chest out, eyes looking straight ahead, chin slightly closed, lips slightly closed, smiling, peaceful and natural movements.

2)? Relax your shoulders, press down your internal qi, feel upward and breathe naturally.

3)? The trunk is straight and upright, and the center of gravity of the body should be between the legs to prevent the center of gravity from shifting, so as to hold out the chest, abdomen and waist.

4)? Relax your arms, droop naturally, and bend your fingers naturally.

5)? Keep your legs straight, keep your body upright, and keep your knees and heels together.

Single training method: back against the wall, heel 3cm away from the wall, hip, shoulder and head against the wall, inhale hard, abdominal muscles retract strongly, so that the waist and back are against the wall. Keep training every time 15 to 20 minutes.

2、? Summarize the gait essentials of ancient and modern beauty: lightness and quickness, quick foot lift, small steps and light landing. It makes people feel that they are like a gentle spring breeze, which is wonderful.

The realization of light gait should pay attention to the following aspects:

1)? Move your feet with your belt, move your center of gravity, and take your waist as the center.

2)? Keep your neck straight, your eyes straight, your chin inward and your face smiling.

3)? Keep your upper body straight and your waist back, but they are flat.

4)? Knees straight, heels naturally raised, knees crossed. Touch each other

5)? Walk rhythmically, relax your shoulders and put your fingers together.

Walking speed refers to the distance between two feet when walking. The general standard of stride length is that the distance between the heel and toe of the other foot is exactly equal to the length of one's own foot after one foot comes out and lands. Step position is the position where the feet should be placed when landing. Rhythm is also important. When walking, your knees and ankles are full of elasticity, and your shoulders should swing naturally and easily, so that you can walk at a certain rhythm.

3. Elegant sitting posture:

1)? Smile, look straight, lips slightly closed, chin slightly closed.

2)? Stand up straight, hold your chest out, and your upper body is naturally straight.

3)? Relax your shoulders, bend your arms naturally and put them on your knees, or put them on the armrest of a chair or sofa with your palms facing down.

4)? Knees are naturally close together, legs can be put down or sideways, and feet are close together or overlap.

5)? When you speak, you can concentrate a little. At this time, the upper body and legs turn to one side at the same time.

When sitting on the sofa, don't sit too far back. You can put your left leg on your right leg, and the two calves are leaning against each other, and the legs are parallel, which looks noble and elegant. But it is not easy to be too high. You can also put your legs together and your knees together, and then tilt your knees to the person you are talking to according to the height of the sofa. However, the angle between thigh and upper body should be the principle to show women's light and exquisite female beauty. The other two knees are close together, and the legs are tilted backwards as far as possible, so that the thigh and your upper body form an angle of more than 90 degrees, and then the left foot protrudes from the right foot, so that the external lines of the two feet are close together, so that your figure becomes S-shaped, elegant and beautiful. (perfectionist)

3、? The posture of entering and leaving the seat also directly affects the elegance of sitting posture. When you sit down, you should be light, slow and steady, with gentle movements and a calm mind. People should go to the front of the chair, turn their backs on the chair and sit down smoothly. If they are far away from the chair, they can move their right foot back half a step and sit down.

4、? If you need to move the chair, you should first move the chair to the seat you want to sit on, and then sit down. It's impolite to move around in a chair.

5、? Feet forward a little, and the back of one foot is elegant at all. When sitting, it is natural to make a peaceful and natural transition to leaning. Sitting straight for a long time will naturally adjust your body to sit comfortably without affecting your appearance.

6、? Squat gracefully. Requirements: one foot in front, one foot in the back, two legs together, front foot on the ground, calf basically perpendicular to the ground, heel up, sole on the ground, hip down. Be careful not to bow your head when taking a squat posture, let alone bend your upper body and hips.

7、? When going up the stairs, the body should be naturally straight, the chest should be slightly upright, the head should be straight, the hips should be closed, the knees should be bent, and the center of gravity of the whole body should move together; When you go downstairs, you'd better stop first and then go upstairs. Sweep the stairs for a while, grasp the walking speed with your own feelings and go down the steps.

8、? When you get on the bus, you should get into the car sideways, and never use advanced methods; When you get off the bus, you should lean sideways and move close to the door, then put one foot on the ground, keep your eyes on the front, and then move the other foot with the support of your hands to let your head stick out naturally. After getting up, stand firm and leave slowly. When a woman gets on the bus and takes a seat, she should sit on the seat gently first, and then put her legs together.

9、? When you take something, you should pick it up with both hands, put your fingers together, put your arms in properly and reach out naturally. Hold your hands on your chest when handing things. Don't point the tip of things at each other, don't hold them with one hand, and don't throw them directly into each other's hands.

10、? When picking up a low object or something on the ground, don't just bend your upper body and hips, but squat and bend your knees, with your feet slightly apart, stand next to what you want to take or pick up, slightly bend your upper body and pick up the object.

1 1、? Women who put their right legs on their left legs are more educated and conservative. Because they are overly rational and introverted, they try to suppress their admiration for the opposite sex without being known, so they are a little arrogant. Women who put their left leg on their right leg are the opposite. Because of their adventurous nature, they are active and bold in their careers and are standard women of the times.

12、? A woman is sitting at a table near the door, a firm and active person. The woman sitting at the middle table is competitive and conceited. The woman sitting in the corner by the wall is narrow-minded and easily sad. The woman sitting at the table by the window likes to be cheerful, straightforward and considerate.

Five, elegance: polite praise

1、? Handshaking posture: when shaking hands, you must swing up and down three to seven times, and you can't swing left and right. When you meet a familiar person or close friend, you can reach out and shake hands in order to achieve some emotional effect.

2、? Shake hands with your right hand. Shaking hands with palms up shows a person's humility and integrity.

3、? If you reach out and pick it up, it will be more enthusiastic and respectful. However, shaking hands between men and women, or shaking hands with elders and distinguished guests, must follow certain etiquette norms.

4、? When shaking hands, we should not only look at each other and smile, but also pay attention to reaching out to the elderly, VIPs and superiors first. If you are too active, it is inappropriate and elegant.

5、? When shaking hands, lean forward slightly and can't stand out. The old man reached out and stepped forward in an emergency, holding each other's hands with both hands and greeting warm words such as "Welcome" and "Nice to meet you". When two couples meet, they should shake hands first, then shake hands and finally shake hands.

6、? Traditionally, whether to shake hands or not should be a woman's initiative. Especially in some special occasions, such as the host of a meeting and the hostess of a dinner party, it is more important for a lady to shake hands. We should not only show initiative and enthusiasm, but also lose dignity, stability and elegance.

7、? The depth of the bow depends on the degree of respect for the person who receives the gift or is greeted. Generally, the expression of gratitude is about 15 degrees, and the expression of sincerity and apology is about 30 degrees. Under special circumstances, such as wedding, funeral, apology, etc., only 90-degree bow is applicable.

8、? Pay attention when bowing: 1) Keep your feet together and don't separate. 2) The head should be straight, naturally downward, the body downward, and the neck should not be stretched too long. 3) Look at the recipient naturally, and don't take the opportunity to look around when saluting. 4) When bowing, put your hands together. Put it in front of you naturally and bend down. 5) When wearing a hat, you should take off your hat and bow. Hold the center of the brim with your right hand, take off your hat, and your left hand will naturally droop.

When the recipient returns the gift, he can bow instead of bowing.

9、? Introduce each other: be intimate. If you introduce yourself, you should be modest, use appropriate words and don't brag about yourself. If I hold a leadership position, don't brag about my title when introducing, just say that I work in a certain unit.

10、? As a middleman, when introducing, we should add some compliments to both sides, mainly praising each other's abilities, specialties, achievements and contributions. Pay attention to the order of introduction. Generally, the younger generation should be introduced to the elders, the younger generation to the younger generation, and the man to the lady to show respect for the elders, the younger generation and the lady.

1 1, when speaking, try to let the other person finish, and don't interrupt or interrupt easily to show respect for the other person. If you want to interrupt or interrupt the other person's conversation, you should first ask the other person's consent and use the tone of negotiation and request.

12, eating: Be careful not to eat too fast and too hard, don't make noise when chewing, and often wipe your fingers and mouth with a napkin. If you need to leave during the meal, you should greet the guests next to you. If you go to the bathroom, you must say go to the bathroom or wash your hands.

13、? Hand over business cards: Be careful when handing over business cards. It is best to get up and give the front of the business card to the other party with your hand or right hand. When receiving business cards, lean forward slightly with your hands and read them carefully.

14, dress etiquette: 1) hats and gloves. On formal occasions, ladies can wear hats indoors and outdoors, but the brim should not be too wide. 2) clothes and skirts. You should wear an elegant suit. 3) shoes and socks. Women can wear any kind of shoes except sandals and slippers in social occasions.

15. using the telephone: except for urgent matters, it is generally not appropriate to make a phone call before 7: 00 in the morning, during dinner or after 10: 30 in the evening. The duration of a telephone conversation should be 3 to 5 minutes. If the other party is an elder, superior, foreign guest or female, you should hear the other party put down the phone before hanging up.

16、? Job hunting: If you want to be an elegant job seeker, you must be careful, pay attention to details, dress appropriately and talk elegantly in the process of job hunting. Be punctual for appointments, and don't keep the people who meet you waiting. When the interviewer asks you to sit down, you can sit in the designated position, which is generally opposite. Pay attention to the correct sitting position. Dress dignified, neatly, comb your hair and shine your shoes. Don't go to the interview together, even if the company wants to recruit more than one person. Bring your resume, certificate, letter of introduction or recommendation letter and other necessary materials. Be sure to take out the required materials quickly without rummaging through the cabinets when meeting.

Speak with confidence, answer questions in as much detail as possible, but don't expand. Talk according to the interviewer's topic and boldly ask questions about future work.

Be polite to others, always abide by the etiquette rules during the interview, shake hands with the interviewer when leaving, smile and thank the foreign secretary and other staff. After the interview, if you think the company can do it, you can write a thank-you letter to the interviewer, which is not only polite, but also can deepen your impression.

17、? It is impolite and uneducated to whisper and laugh with your companions in full view.

18. If a man accosts you at a banquet, you must keep a natural and graceful attitude and answer a few simple words.

19. Elegant women are lively and enthusiastic. Often talking and laughing with men, chatting, going to dance halls, going out to play, etc. It is natural and polite, while tolerance and helpfulness are a manifestation of self-cultivation.