Those relatives (grandma and aunt)

I am one year older than my brother. When I was eight, my sister was born. At that time, because of family planning, my sister was taken to menstruation's house and kept secretly. My aunt just gave birth to a cousin, one month older than my sister. She temporarily fed two babies together to keep out of the wind. At that time, I only knew that my parents would go out every once in a while, and later I learned that I was secretly visiting my sister.

Now my mother often says that at that time, she often went to Hebei (the general direction of menstruation's family) after she got pregnant, and when she went there, she washed clothes and changed diapers for adults and children in piles. At that time, children used diapers, and those two children changed more than 20 diapers a day. She is a clean person, so she washed her clothes immediately after she changed them. Moreover, because of her youth and the recent winter weather, cold water is washed directly on the big iron plate in the yard, and the washed hands are very painful.

Speaking of my second aunt, the elders in my family are angry. She is good at sewing and cooking, but her marriage is unfortunate. The old man said that she did it all by herself. When I was young, I was introduced to the media. I married a young man in the surrounding village, quarreled and fought every day, and divorced in a few years. It was a disgraceful thing at that time, but it "disappeared" after staying with my grandmother. In those days, grandma was busy during the day, turned off the lights at night and sat under the kitchen stove niche crying hysterically. At that time, my parents had moved out, and my brother and I often lived in grandma's old house. Grandma's old house is full of earth walls, with two black wooden doors open, a wooden threshold under it, and a small house on the left and right. There is a black rectangular wooden cabinet on one side, facing the door, which is a heatable adobe sleeping platform. On the side of the kang facing the yard, there is a window with a black wooden frame, which is covered with paper all the year round, two thin black wooden doors with a door bolt at the back. One side of the courtyard is a step leading to the inside, and there is a seepage well (that is, a small well in the water) in the center of the courtyard. On the inside is a small house with the same pattern, opposite the kitchen. Before turning off the light and crying, don't forget to bring me the things in the wooden basket cage hanging in the middle of the kitchen (to prevent mice), then hold me in your arms and put me on her lap.

Grandma lost her parents when she was a child and lived with her brother at their uncle's house for a while. Although she has not experienced war, it is difficult for her to have no food in poor years. It is said that she often walks dozens of miles to other relatives for help when she meets a wild wolf wandering around. She used to drive it away with acne. I listened to her story like a story and asked her if she was afraid. She said she was scared, too. She used to listen to her stories about wolves taking children. In those years, she had to work during the day and light kerosene lamps to spin at night. My aunt, who often teaches her work, often beats her, but she doesn't resent it at all. She said it was because people were teaching her. Therefore, in my memory, my grandmother often visited relatives' graves in Tomb-Sweeping Day or on the first day of the 10th lunar month. Usually she will go a long way, and sometimes she will take me with her, but I never thought about going again, because she always sits in front of the grave and cries for a long time like this night. I didn't know if I was scared or infected, so I cried with her. At this moment, I heard someone knocking at the door.

Later, I learned that my second aunt "eloped" with the adopted son of an old lady named Sanlao in our village. I don't know if this word is appropriate. Three old ladies and a foreigner married a retired worker in our village and adopted a daughter. She didn't call her Gu according to her seniority, and she was in my class. Maybe she took on family responsibilities too early, or maybe she is a few years older than me. She always feels that she is more sensible, more mature and takes good care of me. A few years later, Sanye died, and she and her daughter built a two-bedroom earthen house in the low-lying area near the village. In fact, that place used to be a brick kiln. All the young people in the village worked there, including my parents, and later they all quit. A few years ago, all the married and separated men in the village moved to that place to build new houses and settle down in new homes. At that time, there were two directions for getting married and going out to build a house, one was to the low-lying area in the west of the village, and the other was to the south of the village near the 3 12 national highway. History has proved that the more convenient the place, the faster the development. For example, in our family, there are others who moved out closer to or even on the edge of the national highway, and those four or five families who are low-lying in the west of the village have all abandoned and built houses on the edge of the national highway.

The three old ladies met a young man who worked in our brick kiln in Hebei. He has no father or mother, so he recognized him as an adopted son and introduced my second aunt to him. Knowing that grandma didn't agree, she "encouraged" them to leave, but she pretended not to know. Grandma has been living in Lacrimosa. She is also a well-known, kind and strong woman in the village, as if my father had looked everywhere. A few days later, menstruation came back, and it was another scene of grandma's concierge swearing and crying. After some questioning, I realized that it was that person who brought my aunt to their hometown, and I learned from my elders that she was also a particularly poor family. We have a flat terrain here, and there is a deep ditch in the north. The lowest point is the perennial dry river. We climbed across the river to the other side, which is called Hebei land. It may be because of traffic problems, or it may be because it is far from the county and provincial capitals, so it looks poor. When it comes to going there, people on our side feel far away and poor. I think this may be the reason why grandma doesn't agree. Who knows if the second aunt will go all the way? Fortunately, the young man was very kind and filial to his grandmother, who was a bodhisattva and agreed to his affair with his second aunt.

My second uncle is really good to my grandparents and my second aunt. After getting married, I have a son and a daughter. In those years when my grandmother was hemiplegic because of hypertension, whenever he came to our house, he took care of her like a son, washed her face and combed her hair, but their lives were always very poor. In the words of their parents, Er Yi and his wife are sincere, which is not difficult to understand, but compared with my parents and elders.

The ill-fated second aunt experienced another disaster in her life the year after her grandmother died. Her second uncle found out that she had liver cancer and died a year later, leaving a pair of children, a 6-year-old daughter and a 4-year-old son. Aunt is unfortunate, but she is also very happy. She has brothers and sisters who worry about her and take care of her and her children. In the first few months, my aunt and her children lived in our house for a while. Her parents were very kind to her, but after a long time, her mother became unhappy and said nothing, but the quarrel with her father increased obviously. Once after her parents quarreled, I heard her father reluctantly ask her to clean grandma's house and go there.

After my father and uncle got married, they should be divided according to our custom, but they have no property. Mainly to discuss with grandparents, uncle takes care of grandpa and dad takes care of grandma. However, when my uncle was young, he went out as a worker in Tongchuan coal mine. After a few years of marriage, he took his aunt out and was not at home all the year round. As a matter of fact, my parents take good care of him. My parents split up and moved out to build a house two blocks away from grandma's old house. A few years later, at the request of my uncle and grandma, at the west end of our street, which is next to Mr. Wang's house I mentioned earlier, I asked my father to take care of it and built a new house for my uncle, which is a porter, two bedrooms, a kitchen on one side and a big wing for my uncle and aunt to live in. I used to live with my grandparents, and my uncles and aunts occasionally came back to live for a few days for the New Year. During primary school, because my parents lived in the apple orchard, my brother and I basically lived with my grandparents, which was convenient for school.

Just as my second aunt was packing, she was stopped by her mother. They are all true and kind people, who say malicious words but have no intention to act. Later, my relatives advised me to take a step forward. A woman with two children lives a sad life. Today's children are still young, and it takes a lot of time to learn when they grow up. My second aunt was soon introduced to another divorced man with a daughter. After spending some time together, she is ready to get married. My second aunt discussed it with her father, and put her daughter in my house, go to primary school with my sister, put her son in her sister's house, and go to preschool in her village. In this way, the second aunt and the other party, the other party's daughter and the other party's mother lived for less than half a year, just like a single woman, they also broke up.

After that, I took my child back to my uncle's hometown, where the child's roots, the smell of the person she loves, and the embarrassment of relying on others. So I took my children to live in my own home, went to work in the fields, and provided their children with schooling ... In my second aunt, I deeply realized what it never rains but it pours. In addition to the unfortunate marriage, the children are not in good health, and the daughter is often sick. The most serious hospitals require blood transfusion, but only after that. It is said that sorrow is not long, but it is difficult at present. Looking back later, I found that time passed too fast. In an instant, we all grew up, and so did my second aunt's children.

Introduced by others, my second aunt works in a hotel in our county, cleaning the bath hall and charging. She has been there for more than ten years, and her boss has always taken care of her. She was allowed to do this for food and shelter, and people became more westernized. During this period, someone introduced her to the owner of a photo studio not far from the same street. Her children have all grown up and talked with her aunt for a while. Later, I didn't know whether it was emotional discord or children's opinions. They broke up anyway. That is, I have been educated in the county for more than ten years. My second aunt also applied to buy a low-rent house and has her own home in the county.

This is not the godfather's fault. The two children of the second aunt's family talked about marriage in adolescence, just like the second aunt, talking about marriage, pregnancy, marriage, childbirth and divorce. Up to now, one person has a child, and the second aunt is crowded into a small house with two rooms and one living room. Relatives are not satisfied with the two children, especially my cousin, who was originally introduced to a family in Yangling, and her family conditions are not bad. As a result, my cousin went out to work and mixed with workers much older than her, and came back for a forced divorce. To this end, the other party also asked her menstruation for compensation. Anyway, she and the man went to his home in other provinces and gave birth to a son, but they were still not liked by the other parents, so they kicked her and her children out, and her cousin lived here with her children and aunt. Relatives often ask my second aunt to drive my cousin out, let her learn to be independent and retreat, or persuade her cousin to give her children to each other and let her take the next step alone. Perhaps it is right for elders to consider their own side now, but they are always selfish. If they didn't participate, they wouldn't understand people's pain in this matter. They said that the second aunt was too laissez-faire with her children and didn't raise them well.

In fact, my parents often tell our brothers and sisters that my second aunt helped our family do a lot of farm work after she separated from our family before going out, especially when my sister was born. My second aunt and uncle helped us to the end. Now that we have bad karma, we should be kind to her.

Grandma has always trusted others, neighbors, relatives and her children. She works hard and is very warm-hearted. In the words of her father and elder sister-in-law, she belongs to the prodigal gang, that is, people who want to lend their master's money to help Xi 'an without anything. There is a temple in the north of the village. Before dawn, she began to sweep the house, the yard, the gate, the road to the ground, the husband's house and the temple. She will be the first person to clean the road after it snows. On the fifteenth day of the first month, she will never miss kowtowing. She will help every wedding in the village to the end, and she will never ask anyone who returns. Serve your own brothers and sisters, grandpa's brothers and sisters, serve your niece, niece, your own children, and take care of several grandchildren. Everyone who knows her gives a thumbs up.

Be strong all your life, do good deeds all your life, and work hard all your life, but in the end it can't be regarded as a happy ending. In those years of hemiplegia, grandma could not speak or act, but as we all know, she was most worried about her second aunt. Fortunately, most of menstruation's life disasters happened after her death. She always thought that her aunt's family of four were poor, but they still lived happily. Fortunately, now, with the two children of the second aunt's family sensible, a family of five is crowded in a small low-rent house, and three adults are working, supporting one child to go to school, and the family's life is also easy. My sister went to their place years ago and came back to say that everything was fine.

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