What's the difference between a family with a girl and a family with a son when they are old?

Families that raise girls and families that raise sons are very different when they get old. There are too many realistic examples around me. Now let's talk about this topic with the lives of my two closest families.

My wife and three sisters, his second aunt and two sons, the eldest son went out to work after graduating from junior high school, and the family spent hundreds of thousands to build a new house in the village. In recent years, it is difficult for rural youth to marry a daughter-in-law. 29-year-old, it took a lot of effort to give her eldest son 248,000 yuan to marry the girl in the village. Even the wedding cost 350 thousand, but after only 8 months, the woman stopped following and the bride price did not return. To this end, after a lawsuit, I reluctantly returned a gift of 90,000 yuan.

The eldest son spent 350,000 yuan just to marry Luo Zhang, with a bride price of 90,000 yuan and a net loss of 260,000 yuan.

To sum up the lessons of my eldest son, I think it is because my son's education is too low and he has no ability to lose both manpower and financial resources. Therefore, he wants to change the school for his second son.

Originally, the second son didn't study well. He graduated from junior high school and didn't go to high school. His family asked him to repeat the third grade for one year. After graduating from high school, he didn't go to college, and his second son reread in high school for another year. I finally managed to get two books. After graduation, I didn't have an iron rice bowl and went to work in Suchan Electronics Factory. For the second son to marry his wife, the family spent more than 400,000 yuan in the county to buy a hardcover room.

However, the second son is 32 years old this year, and the daughter-in-law has no shadow.

Speaking of his second uncle, although he is a carpenter like me, his craft is harder than mine. He is a master of the main work, and his portrayal is unparalleled. He earns more money than I do in a year. I don't smoke, drink or play cards on weekdays. I don't even wear new clothes all year round. I earn more than 10 thousand a month, and I even hate eating melon seeds. It's a pity to earn more money and spend less, but both sons are in their thirties and have not solved a problem so far! His uncle is two years younger than me, and his hair is 80% white.

Unlike his second aunt, his third aunt has two daughters. Although the eldest daughter got married without a gift, she also received more than160 thousand. Now, the second daughter has graduated from college. Although she has found a job with a low salary, she can give her parents 1000 yuan in change every month. Moreover, a woman carefully calls her parents every once in a while to ask about the temperature, which is in sharp contrast with her two sons.

Judging from the comparison of two aunts' families, it will cost millions of yuan for the parents of two sons' second aunt's family to get married for their two sons. There are also two daughters of his third aunt's family, who received hundreds of thousands of yuan when they got married. This gap of one million yuan, you think about it, how big is the gap between the quality of life of the two peasant families?

These are just economic accounts, and mental stress is a world of difference. His second aunt can't solve the marriage of her two sons. In the evening, the couple were too worried to sleep. During the day, they don't go to many places and don't like to talk when they meet people. And his third aunt, it is crowded there. Like most rural women, she dances in square dance whenever she has time, and buys new clothes after washing them twice without changing color.

There are too many examples of the same situation as the two aunts! Friend, do you think there is a big gap between raising girls and raising sons at present?

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Parent-child relationship is China's thought for thousands of years. With the development of the times, the progress of economy and the improvement of education level, there are fewer and fewer families that prefer boys to girls, and even families in cities prefer boys to girls. Now it is said that sons are poor and daughters are rich. Let's compare families with sons and daughters. What's the difference between them being old?

My eldest brother gave birth to an only son, my cousin, in the 1970s. He is the director of the factory. At that time, he gave birth to my cousin's son in response to the one-child policy. My eldest brother still prefers boys to girls, and he feels particularly proud and spoiled when he gives birth to his son. He fed his mouth since he was a child, reaching for clothes and trying to satisfy everything his cousin wanted. Cousin didn't go to school well and often played truant. My uncle had no choice but to send him to a technical school. After graduation, he went to work in his own factory and became a coolie, which was a stable job. But how could my cousin suffer from this kind of torture? He was lazy when he was young. He is always late for work and leaves early. In less than a year, he resigned. There is nothing he can do.

After my cousin resigned, he either slept late at home or went around looking for friends to eat, drink and have fun. My uncle can't help it If you have no money to spend, go home and ask for it. If he doesn't give it, he will get angry and throw things. This is the result of my uncle's pampering as a child.

My aunt died of illness in her fifties, leaving only my cousin and uncle. Cousin is growing up slowly. My great-uncle asked someone to introduce a daughter-in-law to his son. Because his family conditions are ok, my cousin got married and lived with him for several years. Buying food and cooking, washing dishes and washing clothes are all his business. After retirement, he became a real old nanny. His son never helped him wash clothes and dishes when he was young.

Uncle is 80 years old this year Son and daughter-in-law seldom come to see him. Besides needing money, they will look for him. Usually they seldom go home. In fact, my uncle has been frugal all his life and rarely sees him wearing new clothes. His clothes are washed in white, and even when there are holes, he is reluctant to throw them away. Occasionally, my mother will buy her new clothes, and we will buy some for him. My cousin never buys anything for him. He is always thinking about his uncle. It's ok to climb mountains and play cards with old colleagues every day, but he is alone during the Chinese New Year holiday and takes care of himself when he is sick. An 80-year-old man is still a little pathetic.

Tell me more about my second aunt's house.

My second aunt had a daughter that year. Because of the poor family conditions, my daughter has been hardworking since she was a child. Because in the countryside, she saw that her parents were very hard, and she helped her parents every day after school. She is very clever and wise. She works very hard at school and comes first in the exam every year. Finally, she was admitted to the university through her own efforts and jumped out of the door of agriculture.

After the second aunt's daughter was admitted to the university, she studied hard, worked part-time and earned living expenses. When she was in college, she fell in love with her classmates. After graduation, she found a good job with considerable income, which greatly improved the life of the whole family.

After her daughter married in the city, Er Yi and her husband still lived in the countryside, and they built a small building through their family's efforts, and their lives were very comfortable. Since my daughter joined the work, she always went home to visit her parents with big bags and small bags on weekends. She bought a lot of delicious and second-hand clothes, and the clothes on the couple were bought by her daughter. As long as her family needs anything, her daughter-in-law quickly buys it for them, which is very filial. When my second aunt was ill, my daughter took her everywhere to check and see a doctor, and every month's pocket money was indispensable. My second aunt praised her girl and son-in-law for their filial piety and was too kind to them. Although she is a daughter, her daughter is competitive and filial, which makes her very proud in the village!

Nowadays, many elderly people are ill and hospitalized, and they see more daughters accompanying them. Perhaps in China, because of the different identities of men and women, the pressure on men will be greater. At the same time, most sons are less cautious than their daughters, and their sons are careless, so there are more daughters who take care of their parents. However, it does not rule out that some sons are also very filial, cautious and do well.

Summary:

I think having a son or a daughter has a lot to do with family education. As the saying goes, as you sow, you reap. What kind of person will your child become in the future? It has a lot to do with parents' educational guidance, don't you think? Welcome to discuss.

In theory, raising children is the same, but in fact, most people still have different experiences when they are old. First, girls are more cautious and close to their parents. Second, girls are filial and patient, and are more willing to take care of their parents. They are called parents' little cotton-padded jackets, and boys are more concerned and considerate than girls about their parents' care and consideration for their careers and families. Both boys and girls should be trained to be polite and caring people and know the basic principles of communication with others, otherwise it will be difficult to rely on.

It's easy for people, but it's hard to tell. As long as the retirement salary exceeds 10,000 yuan, sons and daughters are all the same. Or raise a son or daughter, or what?

Families with girls are generally happy. Girls are more sensible, obedient and take care of others. They are more considerate and friendly to their parents than boys, making their families feel warm and happy. Boys are selfish, taking more than giving.

On the contrary, I don't think there is much hope for my son. It would be better to raise a daughter, because the daughter knows that it hurts people.

My son is CCB and my daughter is China Merchants Bank.