Grandma, please don't be too kind to me.

? I don't remember where I read that my husband can choose from thousands, but what kind of mother-in-law he meets is all luck. I think I'm really lucky because I met my mother-in-law. That I asked myself many times before I was going to write this article: "Is it too ignorant?" However, after several hesitations, I still want to talk about what I have always wanted to say, but I didn't say it.

? Many people say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always the most difficult of all relationships in China, and even think it is an unsolved problem. However, this seems to have never been a problem in my family. It's not that there is no contradiction between us, but that I snuck it out when the contradiction was just budding, because my mother-in-law was too kind to me and I couldn't bear to hurt her.

? I remember the first time I went to my husband's house before I got married. When I first saw my mother-in-law waiting for me at home, I felt very special when I smiled at her for the first time. I can't tell you the specific reason, but I just feel that just by looking at her, I can see the hardships and sufferings of her ups and downs for half her life, and I can feel her kindness and love from the bottom of my heart, which makes people involuntarily put down all their guard ...

? In the first few years after marriage, we didn't live together for a long time, and basically we only went back for a few days during the Chinese New Year. But every time I go home, I clean it up. The fire in our room is burning brightly, the kang is hot, the bedding is flat, and the room is warm. And there are always steaming meals waiting in the kitchen. Although the small family is poor, it exudes the unique warmth of home everywhere because of her mother-in-law.

after going back several times, my careful mother-in-law remembered my various preferences, especially my favorite meals, and she would prepare them in advance before I went back! Those are local snacks, which I can't name. They are delicious, but they are particularly laborious to make. Some of them just listen to the procedures, and I feel so troublesome! So I always eat it in my mouth and keep it warm in my heart.

What impressed me the most was that once she learned that I didn't like fat meat, she deliberately cut her own pork without any fat meat, fried a lot for me alone, packed it and took it with me when I left. Every time I think of it, I am particularly moved!

our real life together began in the spring of 213. I was going to work, and no one picked up my daughter who was still in kindergarten at that time. My mother-in-law came over to help us pick up and take care of the children. At that time, I just went to work in my current unit. Because of various reasons, I can't take my children with me for the time being, so I will stay here from Monday to Friday, and take the train for about an hour after work on Friday afternoon plus an hour to go home by bus. So tossing and turning, I often get home at 9 o'clock at night, or even later.

I remember running around like that for nearly half a year, and in that half a year, no matter how late I went back, my mother-in-law would have prepared the food in advance and waited for me without eating. I remember one time I delayed the train I often took because of something, and it was already eleven o'clock at night when I got home. My husband took me back from the bus stop. As soon as we opened the door, we saw the already-served food neatly placed on the table. The child said, "Grandma said she would wait for her mother to come back and eat together!" " My eyes were moist at that moment. Although I always told her not to wait for me and eat by herself, she always waited so stubbornly. So later, I hurried back as soon as possible every time, lest the whole family should be hungry for too long.

After I moved, my mother-in-law and I began to get along day and night. Since then, as long as my mother-in-law is here, I have a steaming breakfast before going to work every morning, unless she is sick, it is really unable to support. At first, I told her many times that she didn't have to get up so early, so I left early for work and just went out to eat. But she said she was not at ease if I didn't eat. I know that although it may be simple porridge, it is full of mother-in-law's love.

On weekdays, my mother-in-law is very clean and diligent. As long as she has nothing to do, she cleans the room, washes clothes and cooks all kinds of delicious food for us. Many times, she took the clothes I had changed and had not had time to wash to prepare for washing, but I stopped them again and again. Seriously, I couldn't bear it, and I was even more embarrassed. Sometimes I get up late in the morning and worry, so I leave without folding the quilt. When I get back from work, she will fold it neatly for me. Later, no matter how late I got up, I would fold the quilt myself. If there were any special circumstances, I told my mother-in-law never to fold the quilt for me. Because I am already a mother, I really can't let an old man do this for me.

I often hear a lot of daughter-in-law complaining about her mother-in-law's bad behavior during confinement. I can understand the psychology of that special period, and I also understand how destructive it is to leave bad feelings in that situation. I sat for two months, and both times I was taken care of by my mother-in-law.

It was the first time that my mother-in-law and I lived together after giving birth to my daughter. Coming from two places and living in different environments, we have many differences in life and don't know each other's preferences at all. Therefore, it was particularly difficult to communicate at that time, and there was a lot of running-in. But in any case, I can't deny her heartfelt desire to be nice to me, which makes me feel reluctant to say anything.

When I was confined after giving birth to my son, my parents-in-law, who had been living together on and off for several years, saw that I was weak after giving birth, and they asked around about cooking all kinds of soup. I remember that once I just bought mutton and cooked it, and I heard that I couldn't eat mutton too early for caesarean section, so I immediately rode an electric car to a far-away market to buy chicken and buy various Chinese herbal medicines. After I came back, I quickly cleaned the chicken soup. As for other things like taking care of children, I don't have to worry about them at all, and my in-laws and husband have all arranged them properly. Therefore, after confinement, my face turned sallow, and it turned red and ruddy.

There is another thing that has moved me many times, though it is not big, that is, my mother-in-law often gives me money when I go out of town or go back to my mother's house. Although it is not much, I can't bear to shirk her determination and sincerity. Although I bought her clothes or something later, this feeling of being loved has been deeply branded in my heart. As far as I can remember, I haven't taken money from my parents and elders since I graduated, and I have always regarded myself as an independent adult. No one has touched me in this way except my mother-in-law in these years!

I've been married for more than ten years, and I've called my mother-in-law my mother for more than ten years. In recent years, we have been living together, and I have been enjoying all kinds of care and love she has given me. There are too many details and little things that make me moved and moved. It's just that after a long time, I gradually found that many things made me not know what to do.

? For example, when we first lived together, if my mother-in-law cooked, she would bring the family's food to the table without speaking, and then ask us to eat when we were doing other things. Seeing her cook a meal and serve it to our younger generation, I feel indescribable awkward. I told her that when the meal is ready, she would call us to serve it, but she still does this every time. No way, I specifically told my daughter to take the initiative to serve rice in the kitchen, and when my mother-in-law cooked together or I cooked alone, I deliberately asked my husband and daughter to serve rice. It took a long time to change this thing, and my mother-in-law really had a leg pain before she finally changed a little.

But get ready for dinner. My mother-in-law always sits in the corner farthest from the meal, even though we remind her to sit closer again and again. When you eat, you always pick the dishes that are not delicious and nobody eats, or you just eat the leftovers. No matter how much we discourage it, it's useless!

after having a son, every time the family sits around for dinner, her mother-in-law will ask her to take care of her grandson and not eat first. No matter how I insist, she is indifferent. Later, I saw that I had no choice but to eat quickly by myself, and then I took care of the children. But the food is often cold, and it makes me sad to see her eating it bite by bite.

Because I have two children at home, I still go to work, and my husband is often too busy to go home, so my mother-in-law has a very hard time cooking for the whole family, cleaning, taking care of the children, washing clothes and so on. So I try my best to help her share some housework every time after work. But she refused to let me do it, saying that she would do it later and let me rest. After a long time, I will be a little angry even if I can't tell myself why.

once when I came home from work at night, my mother-in-law had steamed the steamed buns. After we ate them together, I went to the kitchen to prepare to wash the pots and bowls. But she rushed into the kitchen and refused to die! Most people know that after steaming steamed buns and steamed buns, there are a lot of things that need to be cleaned, which is very troublesome to clean up. I saw that her waist ached and her legs ached, and she looked tired. Suddenly, she was angry from her heart, and then she blurted out: "Mom, do you particularly like to work?" Are you not tired at all? Then you work hard and I'll go to bed! " When the mother-in-law saw it, she quickly released her hand and went out with a limp. Looking at her back, I feel a little regretful that I am outspoken and a little helpless!

There are many similar things, which have made me angry for many times. I really feel sorry for her, and I really hope that she will not be too good to me, but be better to herself, because she has been very pitiful and difficult for the rest of her life.

? According to her mother-in-law, she lost her father at the age of two. Then, at that time, my grandmother, who was always starving to death, pestered her little feet and raised her four brothers and sisters. In the era of lack of food and drink, it is really hard for us who have never been hungry since childhood to imagine the hardships of orphans and widows in the extremely difficult environment of our hometown.

? Later, she married her father-in-law, who was away from home all the year round. She took care of three children and the elderly at home alone, farming, feeding cows, cooking, making clothes and shoes ... In that era when food and clothing were all made by herself, all the housework imaginable was done by her mother-in-law. Especially in the mountainous area of my hometown, relying on the weather to eat, extensive cultivation and thin harvest of dozens of acres, is extremely hard. I once went back to watch her pull weeds for potatoes, and all of them knelt in the ground and moved forward ... Many of my mother-in-law's illnesses were pulled down in this way. The most incredible thing for me is that my mother-in-law said that she gave birth to her husband immediately after carrying a bag of potatoes home and putting them down ...

? If it's been safe all the time, it's ok, but "there are unexpected events, and people are in trouble." Later, because of unexpected changes, the originally well-off family fell into the bottom, and the subsequent human sentiment was even more heartbreaking. However, her mother-in-law who has been too tolerant, paid too much and suffered a lot of grievances between her sisters-in-law finally fell ill in the face of various pressures. Although my father-in-law overcame all difficulties to give her various treatments, she still fell behind the root cause of depression.

? Now she is really full of diseases and pains. The depression that has never been cured has also made her take medicine all the year round and suffer. Seeing that her children and grandchildren are old, she should have enjoyed her old age, but her health is finished.

I often think of my mother-in-law who has suffered and suffered all her life. People who have endured humiliation for decades should really let go completely, eat and drink whatever they want, and pour it out when they are upset, instead of keeping it in their stomachs. Sometimes I really hope that she will do less work and care less. As long as she is in good health and good mood, she is better than anything else. But I know that's just my idea, and she can't do it.

Now, I am the mother of two children. The older one is over ten years old, and the younger one is almost two years old. They are all growing up and sensible day by day. The old saying "Be grateful to your parents and hold your children in your arms" also made me gradually ponder another kind of helplessness and heartache. Therefore, I can't enjoy my mother-in-law's excessive kindness with peace of mind. Because I know that people are lazy and have bad habits, I am afraid that I will get used to her efforts and her goodness for a long time, and then gradually become the heartless person I once hated and the one who made her sad and disappointed.

In addition, as a mother, I hope I have enough confidence and attitude to face and educate my children who are growing up day by day. I hope I can grow up as soon as possible, become a mother who can take good care of and protect the children, and also become the reliance of the old people. Instead of hiding in the comfort zone built by my mother-in-law, I lost my fighting spirit and courage. After all, some hardships can only be eaten by yourself, and some tiredness must be suffered by yourself. Only then can we have a different understanding and understanding of this world and have enough capital to manage the sweetness of life.

? So, mother-in-law, please don't be too kind to me, ok? I hope you are healthy and happy. Life is so long, and you have given us a lot of love. Leave some for yourself, live a peaceful life in a down-to-earth manner for a few days, and enjoy all kinds of beauty in this world, okay? !