How do you feel after reading the first half of my life?

With the strong recommendation of my friends, I finally watched the TV series My First Half Life starring Jin Dong and Ma Yili. In addition, readers have been leaving messages asking me to write an article about this drama, so I am thinking while watching it, what is marriage? This TV series tells the story that Luo Zijun, a housewife, indulged in a pampered life all the year round, was suddenly interrupted by Xiao San and lost a perfect marriage. Later, she entered the workplace with great fanfare and embarked on the next wonderful journey of life in the process of self-growth.

In this TV series, we can see many points reflected, whether it is about love, marriage or the independence of personal personality, which is worthy of our repeated thinking and exploration, and this is also the greatest success of a TV series. In any case, I always believe that people must move forward and go up. Marriage must be mutually fulfilling, providing each other with a loving environment, and then both parties can extend and develop themselves in this environment.

So in my opinion, marriage is actually an art, an art that makes both husband and wife better, has a more perfect personality and a more complete and beautiful life. People are eager to get the "two in one" fit, but at the same time they don't want to lose the independence of "self". Once lost, this marriage relationship will face imbalance and even collapse.

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Luo Zijun in the play is a living example. She has been a housewife all the year round, and her husband has completely divorced her from society. Over time, two people's spirits and souls cannot achieve a high degree of harmony. When the spirit can't be synchronized and the soul can't cause a collision, this relationship will tend to be slow and even difficult. Getting married is actually not easy in life. Need to find a teammate in the same boat. If one side falls behind, the two sides will definitely be out of balance. Just like the little sister Gu I once wrote, she became a housewife after marriage, and gradually, she became farther and farther away from herself. She said that after marriage, she didn't know what happiness was like. Without a job, there is no source of income. Without source, there is no master in life. Without domination, there is no ego.

I have nothing to say to my husband more and more. Watching him rise to the top of the world, beautiful women are around, but there is nothing he can do. He is always busy, his time is always so full, and he has never been alone in all his travels. Marriage at this time, in fact, there is already spiritual inequality. Only equal love can make you not humble, let alone look up. It is not the attachment of the weak to the strong, nor does it need to belittle each other and brag about themselves to achieve parity, but two people shine on each other and at the same time.

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The best intimate lovers I have ever met are Qian Zhongshu and Mr. Jiang Yang. There is a saying in the Bible: "Sometimes, the fate between people is only this side, because you know, she was your lover in a previous life." Mr. Qian Zhongshu and Mr. Jiang Yang, a literary couple, responded to this sentence. In China in the 20th century, Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu were a match made in heaven. Hu Heqing once praised: "Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang are a pair of famous swords in contemporary literature. Qian Zhongshu is like a heroic sword, often out of line, which sounds amazing; Jiang Yang is like a female sword with green light and hidden treasure. "

In such a simple and warm family of scholars, the two lived a besieged life of "playing the piano and harmoniously, and the husband and wife sang together". They understand each other and chase each other at the same time, because they are equal, so no matter how they run, they will not lose to each other. Because we are evenly matched, we can compete with each other, stimulate each other and make progress together.

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So is the movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith. It tells the story of a couple who are killers but don't know each other's identity. It's just that the couple never imagined that the last thing they wanted to do was the other side. Love is like a battlefield. We kill each other and are evenly matched. The fiercer the struggle, the deeper the understanding and the deeper the love; I even appreciate your gesture and affection at the moment you killed me. Finally, we touched each other's scars and knew that this was the person I was destined to meet in my life. Julie said: Do we practice hard to marry a good man? No, we practice hard so as not to need men.

I am infatuated with this movie, because it can make me think deeply about love, marriage and family. They fought bravely in pursuit and got along well with their enemies and friends. Those passions and happiness, as well as tacit understanding, are not given by an unequal relationship of infinite self and infinite dedication. Because they are equal and evenly matched, they will only become more invincible when they form a strong alliance.

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In an animation in Miyazaki Hayao, there is a scene where a woman is sitting in the back seat of a man's bicycle. When the man is struggling to step on the bicycle uphill, the woman suddenly jumps out of the car and helps push the bicycle behind. The man was surprised, and the woman said, I can't be a burden to you, but I will work hard with you. For a long time, I was moved by this picture. The most touching love I can think of is nothing more than mutual achievements when I was young; Help each other when you are dying. I am willing to bear all the storms for you, to be the most powerful arm to protect you, to see all the pain you go first after a hundred years of contracting, and to bear all the weight without you.

But when we are still together, I hope you and I are both highly self-centered. We got married because we wanted to make life more perfect and beautiful. If two people living together will make each other more tired, then such a marriage means nothing, and a good marriage will definitely make each other better people. May you and I encourage each other.

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