How do two children with two treasures at home adjust their relationship? -"Brothers and sisters" became relatives.

The son is seven years older than his daughter. If the two had relatively few disputes at the age of seven, the brother and sister should be very close. However, my son and daughter don't seem to be like this. When they were children, they quarreled and fought, although the frequency was not particularly high. But because of the great personality contrast between the two people and these unpleasant experiences, I later found that they were gradually alienated. The son seldom teases his sister, and the daughter seldom goes to play with her brother.

With the growth of age, there is almost no conflict between the two, but it is obvious that the relationship between the two children is a little distant. During the holidays, both of them are at home, doing their own things in their own rooms, and there is little overlap. You do your thing, he does his thing, and they don't interfere with each other, don't bother each other, and live in peace.

But brothers and sisters shouldn't do this. At the beginning, I wanted two children to take care of each other and care for each other when they grow up, so that one child would not be so lonely. Now fortunately, not only is there no brotherhood, but he is almost a stranger.

When I found signs of two children, I didn't do some work for my mother to bring them close. Isn't it a waste to raise two children and I work separately from them?

First, my daughter and I started my work. When I was with my daughter, I talked about her childhood intentionally or unintentionally, especially recalling that my brother was very close to her when I was a child. My daughter remembers coming home from her grandmother's house once when she was a child. It's a little cold at night. The younger brother took off his coat and let the younger sister put it on. When my sister can't walk, my brother and mother switch back to my sister and go home.

Another time when we came home from grandma's house, my daughter said that she couldn't walk. I wanted to hug her, but I couldn't walk in high heels. At this moment, the son spoke. He said, "Mom, you wait here. I'll go back by car. "

After a while, my son got on the bus. He helped his sister into the car and then pushed his daughter forward.

When my daughter can think of these things, I will tell her all kinds of kindness of my brother, including that my brother always helps my mother drive her to the remedial class during the holidays. Daughter's acceptance and prejudice to her brother is getting less and less, and she is more and more willing to be close to her brother.

Next, I found an opportunity to chat with my son, first to understand the child's mood and feelings. Only after talking to my son did I know that my daughter was born, which caused great losses to my son. Especially when my daughter was young, I took care of her more, so my son often felt that his mother didn't love her. The result is that sometimes when he is with his sister, he will be in a bad mood, and his daughter is a particularly strong person, not to be outdone. In this way, it is particularly easy for brothers and sisters to "love each other and kill each other" to produce various contradictions.

After learning the son's voice, telling the child that his sister was born will not only reduce his mother's love for him, but also give him an older sister who loves him. To solve this problem, you must untie the bell and the person who tied it. Since the contradiction is caused by your son, as a boss, you also have the responsibility to make adjustments and changes from yourself first.

So, I told my son to create more opportunities to talk to my sister at home, make her happy, buy her something every once in a while, and so on. When the child's consciousness is established, he will buy something small for his sister from time to time, sometimes a cup of milk tea, sometimes a loaf of bread, or a sushi. My sister is also very happy to receive something from my brother. At my sister's place, I will say with envy that my daughter is really happy to have such a good brother.

Slowly, I found that the energy field between two children began to change, and I felt closer and closer. The daughter will sincerely say, "Mom, I think my brother loves me!" " . After her son went to college, her daughter said several times that she missed her brother. Today, my son came back from winter vacation, and my daughter will be late for school in the morning. She also reminded me to remember to leave the key with my brother, so that he could not enter the house when he came back. When he came home at night, he saw his brother and gave him a hug. When my brother came back, he didn't forget to buy two loaves for his sister. He went to her room and asked her about her recent study.

I am particularly pleased to see the two children getting closer and closer. There are two treasures at home. If two children can get along closely, it is naturally the best. But if the two children are not so close and have a lot of grudges with each other, as mothers, we must be a peacemaker who adjusts from them, and be a mouthpiece to convey love and let love flow.

Slowly let the brothers and sisters establish close brotherhood. After all, children also have love in their hearts, but sometimes they don't know how to get along and how to resolve conflicts. At this time, parents can guide and intervene in time, and children will become more and more intimate. Those who turn against each other when they grow up, or become strangers, actually have love in their hearts, but the blocked passage is not opened, and parents are the best candidates to open it.