My son's addiction to games has become inhuman! Should we abandon it?

The whole world has given up on him, and neither can you. Two real cases for your reference. Both children were taken to the game hall by their classmates, and they became addicted to the game. One child is in senior three and one is in senior one.

Every day, the mother of senior three used the meal delivery time to supervise him, used his better dormitory classmates to inform him, and even asked the teacher to help him with his homework. But that didn't stop children from playing games. So one night, the mother chatted with her son all night, crying and expressing her sadness and remorse for her son, telling him that she was not a qualified mother and that there were various difficulties at home, telling him that her mother was unable to help him find a job, and that she had to rely on herself and tell him how good she had been before. That night, my son also cried. It was the first time he saw his mother crying so sadly that his heart was touched. He really changed and was admitted to the university with a low score.

This senior one is addicted to games and doesn't go to class. His father beat the children and took care of them, while his mother doted on them and secretly gave him money. Later, the children didn't listen, so they went to the game hall to play games, not at home, and finally dropped out of school. The father asked his children to take the college entrance examination, on the condition that they would send him to a private university to study computer. After graduation, the child returned to his father's unit and became a temporary worker. The father taught the children the skills of fire welding and became the master of the children himself. The unit often travels, goes to remote places, and can't surf the Internet for several months. The father found a partner for the children. The child suddenly grew up, knowing that he had to earn money to support his family and learn skills from his father. His father bought him a house, and now he has become a young father and finally understands the difficulty of being a father.

Children make mistakes when they are young. You are the only one who can get them out of the abyss. Never give up, and never give up. Especially for boys, beating and cursing can only be counterproductive. Change him as much as possible, guide him and accompany him. I hope you can spend his darkest hour with him. If necessary, you can find an internet addiction expert to give your child psychological counseling.

The child is addicted to games. Do you want to give him up? As an experienced person, a mother who has been fighting the game for ten years, let me answer it, hoping to help you!

Let me start with my son. My son/Kloc-rebelled in 0/967. From junior high school to senior high school, from the sixth grade of primary school to playing games in black Internet cafes, to junior high school and senior high school, he skipped school and went over the wall to play all-night games in Internet cafes, and was ordered to drop out of school. Every Sunday and holiday is a day of extreme fear and worry for me. Because of games, study, fighting with my son and all kinds of fights, I took him to see a psychiatrist. I was going to send him to an internet addiction school, because he didn't study and asked me for money, so I was going to sue him. I left him at the law firm and asked him to sue me. He also ran away from home and threatened to jump off a building, and so on. You can imagine the days when I taught my children. I'm more desperate than disappointed. Really, really want to be like you, just give up and want to sweep him out of the house!

But I can't. I was born by myself. I had to put up with it, transfer to another school and let him continue his studies. Until the last month or two of the college entrance examination, I was ordered to go home by the school. I gave up completely and asked him to go out and look for a job. As a result, he stayed at home for two days and went directly to work at Foxconn. When he came to work, he said to me, "Mom, I still want to take the college entrance examination!" " I sneered at such a case and didn't believe it at all. Only these 200% or 300% masters still want to take the college entrance examination. Don't embarrass me! But I didn't say anything and ignored him!

As a result, I worked at Foxconn for two months and went home a few days before the college entrance examination, saying that I still had to take the college entrance examination. Although my father and I have some expectations, we don't care at all on the surface. Two nights before the college entrance examination, he had a fight with his father! I ran to school early the next morning to take the college entrance examination!

Later, the results of the college entrance examination came out, with more than 400 points. I don't have any expectations for the undergraduate course. It's enough to read a junior college. This achievement was beyond his father's and mine's expectation, but he decided to go to a junior college, and the tuition fee was borne by us, but he wouldn't be given another penny at ordinary times!

My son probably felt something when he was working at Foxconn. Suddenly, he had a lot of income. He went to McDonald's to work in winter and summer vacations. When he was in college, although he still loved playing mobile phones and games, he was a little stiff. I completely let go! Boys, I can do whatever I want, as long as they are not bad in nature and kind in heart!

Well, I'm a sophomore now, and I'm still working as a summer worker this summer. I got my salary, bought a T-shirt for his father and a mascara for me. He knows his mother likes to brag! Although he occasionally annoys me now, on the whole, I am very satisfied, and I am glad that I didn't give him up completely at that time, let him continue his studies and let him take the college entrance examination!

Although I play games now, I basically ignore him now and will not give him pocket money. During the epidemic, I also played games day and night, but I learned to stir-fry and cook.

So, don't give up, even if the whole world gives up on him, you, as a mother's parents, can't give up on him and give him time and space. It is impossible for every child to get ahead. As long as the child is not bad in nature, so be it. Not necessarily one day the child will suddenly grow up! As long as he grows up healthily, he will grow up and be sensible one day!

Alas! Let me tell you something about my personal experience. My son was born in 1986. Primary school and junior high school are bullies, and the senior high school entrance examination is the best one.

I think he is old enough to control himself. Therefore, the supervision was relaxed, but I didn't expect the score of playing games in the first year of high school to fall to the third from the bottom in the class. When I found that I was addicted, I went to school every morning and ran to the game hall.

In order to find him, I drew a map of the city's game halls, riding bicycles one by one every noon. In summer, bare skin is sunburned and fainted due to heatstroke. At that time, I felt dead.

My ex-husband has a bad temper. When he saw his son like this, he either beat or scolded. Father and son don't talk, just like enemies.

As soon as I saw this, I couldn't. I had to suspend my son from school and take him out of Inner Mongolia to Qingdao. The purpose of going to Qingdao at first was to prepare him to enter that school to quit Internet addiction. Later, I sneaked in for a few days and felt that it was not very good, so I gave up the idea. Now that I think about it, it's still right. Some children are destroyed when they are sent in.

Later, my son offered to go home and said that he would come back and study hard! He is a clever boy. Three years after I came back, I was admitted to the 985 key school.

Children playing games is really a headache for parents, but don't give up and don't be radical. Sometimes an idea may suddenly wake him up. Parents should be calm and patient. This kind of experience is hard to remember. I don't want to mention it at all, but it's a pity to see this parent like this in the family line! I hope I can help you a little.

Isn't there an example before? There is a child who likes playing games. His father makes him play games every day. If you lose a game, you will get a big mouth. You must win. Train him according to the pattern of regular game competition. You can try, or your children can become game gods and earn enough money. Either you feel slapped when you see the game, or you feel sick when you see the game.

I have a friend, whose child is also an internet addiction teenager, addicted to games, and his parents are very disappointed, crying in front of me many times!

Under the guidance of a psychological counselor, he took the following measures:

First, on the premise that the child still trusts the Chinese teacher, let him stay at the Chinese teacher's house, live early, study early and run early with the Chinese teacher's son, and let the teacher and his son influence and guide him subtly.

Second, ask him to explain to his family the story in the game, the customs clearance skills of expert players, and his own gains and losses in the game. When he is happy, remind him to sum up experience and lessons, so that he can sell game equipment and learn business skills. Gradually, his interest developed from playing games to doing business, and his interest in the stories and achievements of games declined.

Fourth, take him to some large Internet cafes and Internet cafes to see the advantages of online game guilds, so that he can understand that the online game industry is also crouching tiger, and there are many experts, so that he can understand that it is necessary to learn and struggle to make a living by games.

Fifth, taking advantage of his love for children, my friend gave birth to a second child, a beautiful little girl. Whenever he is free, he will play with his little sister. Couples sometimes deliberately say that they are old and don't know how to take good care of their children in the future to stimulate his desire for protection and enthusiasm for making money to support their families. Slowly, their mentality changed and humanity came back!

Sixth, in order to save children and keep warm, the couple participated in the parents' training camp and WeChat group for Internet addiction children, encouraged each other, shared experiences and lessons, and strengthened their confidence.

In short, it is understandable for parents to see their children learning badly, angry, annoyed and puzzled, but how to deal with it will test everyone's IQ and EQ, and we must not give up easily!

Why give up?

It's simple. Give him a computer, cook and wash clothes for him.

Leave him alone. No pocket money. Earn your own money, I'll give you the computer, play the game as long as you like, and take care of yourself at home. I'm not in a hurry to go to school. I like to go or not.

In less than half a year, he will get bored.

Or what game he plays, you go to that game and find a drag bottle, watch him be abused once and keep chasing him. He gave up in less than half a year.

Many people say that children are addicted to games in the background. When faced with this problem, I said that there is no good way, because you have missed the age of control.

The last resort is to have a special school to quit internet addiction, so that they can live in a closed environment for three months to six months and temper themselves to see if they can quit. Just like taking drugs, it's brain damage. The most terrible thing is the holiday under the epidemic, not because everyone is absent from class, which delays the study of knowledge, but because many children are using mobile phones, which changes their habit of using mobile phones and makes children obsessed with mobile phones. This is a very terrible thing. Please pay attention.

How old is it? Can't you control it?

If the child is young, you should quit the game. Even if I give you a cold war, I can't compromise by crying. Long pain is better than short pain. It's really difficult if the child is older. Because this game addiction is really hard to quit. If possible, I think it may be effective to go to the army to let children exercise after graduation.

First, the troops are strictly managed and disciplined, and there will be no time to play games.

Secondly, indulging in games for a long time is definitely bad for your health. Going to the army to exercise is sure to keep fit.

Maybe there will be unexpected gains, not just quitting the game. Of course, I'm just saying it's possible There is no absolute thing. After all, you have no better way. When you are at a loss, you can consider it and weigh the pros and cons in combination with your family factors. )

Say angry words. Don't! No matter what your child becomes, how can you give up when you say give up?

I remember an educator once said that his child was a failure, playing games all day or sleeping at home. He is an educator who has guided many lost teenagers to find themselves, but he can't let his children go on the right path.

He tried various methods for the sake of his children. The children were helpless, and he wanted to give up. But that's his own child, raised with great pains. How can I bear to see him in my life? Although he was anxious and helpless, he never gave up.

Until one day, his children suddenly said that they wanted to study abroad. He was very surprised. How can a child who never wants to study suddenly find out his conscience and know his parents' earnest expectations and start learning? Will it rain or will the sun rise in the west?

The child said that he once thought that life didn't need to struggle, just eat, drink and be merry. However, when chatting with former classmates, I found out how ignorant and stupid I was. Everyone is running like hell, but he is hiding at home doing nothing. People talk about their wonderful experiences and proud achievements, but he doesn't know what else to say except games. He can't understand what others are saying, discussing hot social issues and imagining the future road, but he can't even get in a word. He finally found himself behind the times, feeling that he couldn't keep up with the times and was abandoned by his classmates. If he doesn't work hard, his life will be over. So, he began to study hard and stood side by side with his classmates, no longer addicted to games and sleeping with his head covered. I studied hard day and night and finally got into a foreign university.

Children are going to study abroad, leaving home to work hard and finally know their responsibilities. The educator wept with joy, glad that he was angry, disappointed and helpless anyway.

He said that when children deviate from the track, they should learn to wait and wait patiently. When he wakes up, he will fly high in the blue sky.

Therefore, children will always wake up and just wait.

There is a real case around me. It's my husband's relative. There is an uncle who has only one son at home. He gave it to his grandparents and gave him some living expenses every month. Uncle and his wife are busy making money every day. When they seldom have a rest, they run downstairs to play mahjong. In short, their educational concept is free-range, thinking that children usually have a mouth to eat, as long as they can bring him up.

Uncle's son has developed many bad habits because he was neglected in discipline since he was a child. And his mind is full of wild ideas, which is unrealistic. On one occasion, he was almost fooled into doing business. This is his first time to go out to work. When he was on the bus, he met a man who asked him to invest in stocks. Then, he doesn't have to do anything. A professional team helps him make money. He just won it. He also believes this kind of nonsense. When he asked his father for money, his father refused and borrowed it from other relatives around him. Later, his relatives told his uncle, who personally found him and forcibly brought him back.

He is 26 years old. He has no job and no girlfriend. He plays games at home every day. He only knows how to ask his parents for money. Before, his uncle asked people around him to introduce him to easy work. He only went to every job for a few days and then slipped away! And if his parents don't agree, he will quarrel directly and even fight with his parents.

To tell the truth, what he is today has a lot to do with the education methods of his uncle and husband. Now, he is in his twenties, and his personality thinking is deeply rooted. It is impossible to change a person's thinking at this time.

Now the relationship between uncles and aunts and their sons is very stiff. They also thought about having another child. The implication is to give up the child. However, it did not come true in the end. First, my son doesn't agree, and second, they are almost 50 years old, and their health is not allowed.

Nowadays, children are very good at electronic products and addicted to them. It would be too much to give up children because they are addicted to games. What you said about playing games is inhuman and the parent-child relationship is poor. First, find problems from yourself, many of which are due to communication problems. If you can find a suitable way and make more efforts in this area, there may be opportunities for promotion!