Should people compare with others?

The so-called comparison psychology is a psychological state of deliberately comparing oneself with others in intelligence, ability and living conditions, hoping to surpass others.

The origin of comparison psychology is the same as that of life. There is a saying: "People are more angry than others." In fact, it doesn't matter if people are more angry than others. People who get angry more easily than others often have an inferiority complex because of their own personality and psychological defects. Differences in life are everywhere, and the heart of comparison is so difficult to overcome that it often gives a lot of discounts to the happiness of life.

Revision of comparative psychology

Rational analysis of life, people will find that, in fact, throughout their lives, life is fair, just and impartial to everyone. Life is a short and long process from the beginning to the end. In this process, everyone has and bears the same joys and sorrows, love and hate, and they are equal. This is the law that nature endows life and life endows life, but everyone enjoys it.

Comparison is something you don't have to care too much about, and people don't have to feel inferior or satisfy their vanity in front of comparison. As long as you realize this, you will be surprised to find a trick: you only need to know a lot of things, and you don't have to worry about it often. Instead of keeping up with everything, it is better to go your own way and let others keep up!

Indeed, due to the different social division of labor, there are objectively various differences in people's social status, and material differences directly open up people's comparative space. As an objective existence, comparison psychology and comparison behavior are not at fault. The problem lies in the guiding ideology, starting point and content of comparison.

Comparison belongs to the psychology of normal people, because there is comparison to make progress, and there is goal to make efforts. Positive comparison is good for health and work. However, negative and pathological comparison will bring bad consequences: some people will cause emotional disorders and complain, and always feel that society is particularly unfair to themselves, thus losing their sense of fairness and causing psychological symptoms such as anxiety and depression; Some people are in daydreaming's fantasy state because of blind comparison, and they are not motivated for a long time, divorced from reality, and finally accomplish nothing, causing great harm and frustration to themselves; What's more, comparison is the main cause of crime. In order to enjoy luxury like others, many people go astray and roll in the abyss.

In short, comparison is often material, but it affects people's physical and mental health.

In reality, everyone will have a psychological comparison at different stages of life. Then, what should I do when blindly comparing with others brings me endless troubles?

First of all, don't always compare yourself with material conditions, and don't expect too much of yourself regardless of your actual ability. Everything should be done according to one's ability.

Secondly, we should adjust our ideals, lower our expectations and understand our weaknesses. In this way, what kind of enjoyment can you get from your own efforts, and you can achieve psychological balance. We can't ignore the influence of objective conditions. Never be discouraged by what you can achieve through hard work in the face of reality, and wait for opportunities unconditionally, so as to maintain a balanced mentality when encountering setbacks.

In addition, you can develop your interests, relax, exercise and improve your physical fitness according to your personal situation, or take a long vacation when you are extremely tired, or simply change your job. At the same time, let yourself relax and learn to face the reality with a peaceful mind. When you feel great psychological pressure, sadness, anger, resentment and other emotions, you should be brave enough to talk to your relatives and friends to eliminate bad emotions. In addition, if the stress is already considerable, symptoms of neurasthenia or anxiety (such as persistent sleep disorder, emotional tension, palpitation, etc.) appear. ), and you feel that you can't adjust, you need to see a psychiatrist. Because psychologists can carry out individualized treatment according to the condition, they can take some anti-anxiety drugs to relieve symptoms when necessary.