People who chat in groups every day must be very lonely.

Human beings are social animals. Most people always like to get together to eat, drink and chat during holidays or weekends.

But Zhang Ailing said: "I am full of joy of life when there is no communication between people."

Lao Wu felt that this suited him deeply, and he always It's about interacting warmly with people, always maintaining a positive attitude, and pretending to be an interesting person.

But in fact, he does not need friends and companionship in 95% of his life. He does not like to chat with anyone alone or ask friends to play ball or clubbing. He even does not like to participate in various activities during holidays. A form of family gathering.

I have been living together with Lao Wu for more than a year. Lao Wu is an elite IT man who is very successful in the workplace and has a handsome appearance that can destroy a lot of girls. I heard that many beauties approached him and proposed in-depth relationships, but they all backed away due to his proficient roundabout tactics.

I’m confused about why singles are always reluctant to fall in love in an era where single people are so attracted to evil. I often tease him. There are not many strong men like him who are positive, like to tell jokes, like to make fun of themselves, and also like to laugh. They will get moldy if they are single for a long time.

At this time, Lao Wu often just laughed and led him away.

There is a girl and a guy living together. We are all of the same age and happen to be single, so we have a good relationship. Everyone created a WeChat group, and the name of the group chat is "Lao Wu's Relatives and Friends Support Group." A large part of the reason for this name is that Lao Wu is the most active in the group.

One day when Lao Wu was about to get off work, he shouted in our roommate group that he wanted to eat hot pot. It was rare that everyone was not very busy with work recently, so they all agreed. Lao Wu quickly assigned us tasks in the group, fully demonstrating his leadership ability.

Another girl and I were responsible for washing pots and dishes and preparing ingredients, while two boys were responsible for shopping in the supermarket. After a while, the table was filled. Lao Wu carried two bottles of beer, and he looked like he would never get drunk again.

After everyone sat down, Lao Wu raised a glass of wine in front of him. Just as he was about to say something, the message alerts on the mobile phone on the table rang one after another. We teased him that Mr. Wu was really busy.

Old Wu smiled bitterly, it was just a group chat.

After three rounds of drinking and two beers, the two boys were obviously too drunk, their faces were red and they were giggling.

After laughing, the atmosphere suddenly became a little subtle. Lao Wu slowly said to the air: "I don't want to laugh often, but I can't cry either. I often feel that I am very boring and very Indifferent, I don’t like to go out for barbecue with my former rivals in the company, and I don’t like to drink red wine. I don’t want to wear a suit and tie and interact with unfamiliar people like a robot.

I don’t want to waste time and energy on things I don’t like.”

The other girl and I laughed helplessly, laughing at his pretentiousness, but I felt really sorry for him in my heart.

People who pretend to be gregarious and like to chat in groups are really pitiful.

“I want to live alone in a strange city, find a small house, raise a lazy fold-eared cat, and find a job I like. The salary doesn’t need to be too much, just enough. Then I will wait for the girl I will regard as my life to appear."

Old Wu smiled again, with a lot of bitterness in his smile.

I think it’s not that he doesn’t want to fall in love, it’s that he doesn’t want to make do with it. Sometimes it’s cute for people to have a little bit of mysophobia in their relationships. Two people don’t fall in love because they “should” fall in love. We got together because we wanted to fall in love with this person, that would be perfect.

How many of us are suffering from the sequelae of "useless social interaction" or "coping-style love", and are able to navigate the crowd in all directions to find a sense of existence. When we return home, we will always be greeted by a huge surprise. emptiness.

Another boy said, I like reading very much, and I also like chatting in the company’s or former classmates’ WeChat groups. Everyone talks to each other and feels that they are part of a group. They can make suggestions and laugh at other people's jokes. It is so lively.

I have many WeChat groups, and I think I have many friends. Every time friends come to this city, I will take the initiative to treat them to some specialties. When we go out to play, these friends will call me, but whenever I want to When I went out to play, I opened my phone and looked through the address book for a long time. In the end, I could only lock the screen and go out by myself.

In fact, I don’t have any friends that I can justifiably disturb. Everyone can chat and laugh in the group chat, but in private they are so strange that they don’t even know each other.

Sometimes I have insomnia at night and I toss and turn. I open WeChat and browse for a long time. Except for a few group chats with small red dots, there is no one who comes to me alone. And I didn’t know who I could take the initiative to chat with, so I could only scroll through my friends circle and find a movie to spend the night without any intention of sleeping.

I have always been curious about why other people have friends they chat with in the middle of the night. Later, I figured it out. I have been alone for a long time, and if I really want to chat with someone all night, what can I talk about.

After he finished speaking, he glanced at Lao Wu, his eyes red, and the two men raised their glasses in tacit agreement and drank.

I find that many people are chatting enthusiastically in WeChat group chats nowadays, making appointments to have dinner and hang out, but when we really get together, everyone talks less. Most of them kept their heads down and played with their mobile phones silently. Occasionally they raised their heads to chat a few words, look at each other and smile. They still think mobile phones are fun.

Some people seem to be very outgoing, but in fact they seldom interact with others in private. They are good at interpersonal communication and have many "friends" who are familiar with them but are not familiar with them most of the time. Lonely as a dog.

On the surface, such people like group chats and appear to be very gregarious, but deep down they like to be alone. They are not really lonely, but they choose to be lonely.

Loneliness is the norm, and it means rejecting "ineffective companionship". You can choose to get together, choose to party with a group of people, but you are willing to be alone, because you know that low-quality companionship is not as good as being alone. Whatever you do, you won’t be lonely for too long. The job you like and the person you like will always appear.

May you have precious years to look back on, and may you have someone you love to grow old with.