A short story of wisdom philosophy: four proverbs

The wise man looked at him with a smile and said, son, I have four words for you. The first sentence is, think of yourself as someone else. Can you tell me the meaning of this sentence? The boy replied: Does it mean that when I feel pain and sadness, I regard myself as someone else, so that the pain will naturally be alleviated? When I am ecstatic, I think of myself as someone else, and those ecstasies will become more peaceful and fair? The wise man nodded slightly, and then said, the second sentence is for others.

The teenager pondered for a while and said that only in this way can he truly sympathize with the misfortunes of others, understand their needs and give them appropriate help when they need it?

The wise man's eyes lit up and continued: the third sentence, treat others as others.

The teenager said: Does this sentence mean that everyone's independence should be fully respected, and under no circumstances can they infringe on the core territory of others?

The wise man smiled and said, Very good, very good. Confucianism can teach! The fourth word is, think of yourself as yourself. This sentence is too difficult to understand. Save it for you to savor later. The boy said: I can't understand the meaning of this sentence at the moment. But there are many contradictions between these sentences. What can I use to unify them?

The wise man said: very simple, with a lifetime of time and experience. The boy was silent for a long time, then bowed his head and said goodbye.

Later, the teenager became a mature man and an old man. Later, long after he left this world, people always mentioned his name. People say that he is a clever man. Because he is a happy person, he also brings happiness to everyone who has seen him!

The wise man answered four sentences, please enjoy it carefully: 1, treat yourself as others 2, treat others as yourself 3, treat others as yourself 4, treat yourself as yourself.

We can understand it this way: 1. When you feel pain, think of yourself as someone else, so that the pain will naturally be alleviated; When you are ecstatic, treat yourself as someone else, and those ecstasies will become calm; 2. You can truly sympathize with the misfortunes of others, understand their needs and give them appropriate help when they need it; 3. We should fully respect everyone's independence, and under no circumstances should we infringe upon the core territory of others; 4. You need to savor it slowly.

The four sentences are contradictory, and it takes a lifetime of time and experience to really understand them.

These four sentences should be four stages of cultivation: 1. Learn to look at yourself from the perspective of others (out of yourself); 2. Look at others with your own eyes (push others yourself); 3. Respect others (independent personality). 4. Pay attention to yourself (personality autonomy)