Children love to complain, what should I do?

See clearly the psychological needs behind children's "complaints" and give appropriate support.

Children will complain to adults whenever they see others doing something wrong. Parents sometimes feel a little annoyed and worry that their children will be isolated. What should they do?

Guoguo: My brother just robbed my toy.

Mom: Oh, brother, this is not right.

Guoguo: Well, that's right!

Mom: What if I want to play with other people's toys?

Guoguo: Well ... you can borrow it from others.

Mom: What can you do if your brother steals your toy next time?

Guoguo: I want to tell my brother that this is my toy. Can't rob. You have to borrow it from me.

Mom: Fruits and fruits are very good!

It is common for children aged 3-6 to complain, because they initially have the consciousness of judging right and wrong, and their sense of morality begins to develop. However, their judgment criteria are relatively simple, and they will take the words of their parents or teachers as "imperial edicts". When someone violates the standards and rules, children will feel incomprehensible, resulting in "complaints". In addition, because children's communication skills are not strong, sometimes they can't handle conflicts with their peers, and they will also seek help through "complaining".

In the face of children's "complaining" behavior, parents should not ignore it. They should pay attention to listening, understand the reasons for "complaining", give their children a positive response, and then guide them to think about ways to solve problems themselves. The mother in the case first affirmed that it was wrong for the child to rob other people's toys, let the child feel the mother's understanding and support, and then guided the child to think, "It is wrong to rob toys, but I want to play with other people's toys. What should I do?" After answering this question, the child actually knows how to deal with the same problem next time.