Stop yelling at the children, you don't know how much it will affect you.

Stop yelling at your children, you don't know how much it will affect you.

Being a parent, you have to work every day and take care of your children by yourself. Work and life are all on your shoulders, which is very stressful! ! ! Once a child is disobedient, "roaring" has become our most commonly used way to vent emotions. For children, mistakes are inevitable. Just like us adults, we have made mistakes and grown up all the way. Therefore, when a child makes a mistake, don't yell at the child. You can handle it more gently, so that your words can guide the child to introspect. "Are you going to eat or not?" "Can you write your homework quickly!" "If I tell you to sleep, you can sleep. What are you playing?"

As a result, the self-esteem of introverted children is deeply hurt in the yelling of parents again and again; Outgoing children are "thicker and thicker", and later they will show indifference to the same mistakes. When you think you have used the most "fast, accurate and ruthless" weapon to control violence-yelling, but you didn't expect that not only did you fail to educate your children effectively, but the idea of "I am a bad parent" would also pile up into heavy guilt after getting angry.

There is no doubt that "no yelling" is the most important education method for "growling parents" at present! "Stop yelling" is a shortcut for parent-child communication, and it is also the first step for parents to move towards correct family education.

when you are calm, think about it, even if the child is naughty, it will be hundreds of times softer than the troubles at home. Then, in the face of the most "sweet burden", we must learn to control our emotions and provide a relaxed growth environment for our children with soft words.

In the parent-child relationship, you need to try and change gradually to control your emotions. Now provide three effective methods:

introspection after anger. What is the situation, why and how often? Write down the reason, the process and the child's reaction that makes you angry. Although the child is still young, your education method will accumulate in his heart and have a far-reaching impact on him.

pause for three seconds before losing control. Think about what makes you angry. Are you asking for attention? Is there not enough care for him? Did the child not learn? Are parents not guiding enough?

let the children solve it themselves. Let the child clean up the "mess" himself, and he will know the seriousness of the matter. Don't think about letting children solve problems quickly. It is difficult for anyone to think when they are extremely nervous.

Time is the best channel to relieve emotions. This time is the time for parents to communicate with their children. It is the time to try various methods to solve problems with children; When you stop yelling, you will feel that "everything is under control" because you are not out of control. You and your children will have more opportunities to understand each other's thoughts.

Children will feel more stable because of this. You will also have more energy to feel that your child is full of love for you.

The final exam is coming soon, so our parents should "stop yelling" and reduce the "blow index" to their children in daily chat. Create a relaxed learning atmosphere and living environment for children. At first, most mothers tried to control their temper and coaxed each other, but if the children didn't listen, they suddenly felt furious and shouted at the children. If the children still turned a deaf ear, they could not help hitting them. After the fight, calm down and look at the child's tearful face, and you can't help but blame yourself.