Talking about Cultivating Good Children

1, I want to encourage and praise children more than criticize, blame and blame them. Because only encouragement and praise can bring confidence and strength to children. Criticism, accusations and complaints are just venting emotions and will hurt children's hearts.

I want to influence my children with actions, not with words. Because children's behavior is not formed by simple language preaching, but by subtle influence and edification.

I want to listen to the children's voice more, instead of rushing to judge whether the children are right or wrong. Because listening is the best communication, I want to be my child's best friend and closest partner in his life.

I want to love the "truth" of my children unconditionally, not what I ask. Because that is my selfishness and ego, and it is my wishful thinking.

I want to learn to communicate with children on an equal footing, not commanding them. Because forced suppression will only bring more intense rebellion and resistance to children.

6. I want to accompany my children with my heart and infect them with love, instead of perfunctory them absently. Because only true companionship can make children feel the warmth of love.

7. I want to control my emotions and deal with everything quietly and peacefully with my children, even the smallest thing. Because losing temper and domestic violence can't solve any other problems except my incompetence and harm to children.

8. I want to find out my own problems and correct myself through my children's problems. Because all children's problems are parents' problems, I am the root of all problems. If you want to change your children, you must first change yourself.

9. I want my children to thrive in society. I can't treat them as my own private property. Because children not only belong to me, but come to this world through me to complete their dreams and missions;