After becoming a civil servant, how to deal with complex interpersonal relationships and gain a firm foothold?

Recently, I read a book recommended by the newspaper, saying that many local leaders recommended it to their subordinates, and it was listed as a required reading, called "Sesame Official Understanding". It should be helpful for you to find it, and there is a classic post circulating on the Internet recently, which I think is a must-read for all new civil servants. It's really great.

After seven years as a civil servant, many things are not as complicated as we thought, but they were not simple at first. I dedicate them to friends who are willing to take the public examination. ! !

20 10-04-20 15:27| (classification: public examination)

First, the day when the university will graduate.

I studied accounting, and I was an angry youth. When I was fooling around at school, I thought about finding an enterprise to be an accountant after graduation, preferably a foreign company or a firm, so I never applied to join the party, and later I realized I regretted it. This is another story. I went to Shenzhen with 52 resumes in 2000. I am not a famous school, and my grades are not good. I just didn't make up the exam, so I became the deputy director of the propaganda department of a department at school. I put out 26 applications, and finally only three companies came to me for an interview. The most vivid memory is that a company wants to recruit three financial management positions. When I entered the interview room in the morning, I found nearly 50 people waiting, and this was the first batch, and there was a second batch in the afternoon. The result is finished, finished. But what I didn't expect was that the civil servants who entered the exam in confusion in May 438+10 actually passed the written test. I ran to the interview with a glimmer of hope. After the interview, I actually passed the exam in a daze.

In this way, I watched my senior three classmates looking for jobs next semester, playing StarCraft and CS all night every day, and then I graduated and reported to the unit. In fact, I didn't want to be a civil servant at first, because I thought that kind of work was too boring and restrictive, and I was a cynical person. At that time, I took it for granted that civil servants ate the food of ordinary people and didn't work for them, but I really couldn't find a job at that time. Now I have a high (self-righteous) salary and a very easy (self-righteous) job. Why don't I go? In this way, I became a civil servant in a daze.

Second, the income you care about most.

After I started working, I was assigned a dormitory by the company, with six people in one room and nothing. I thought of bad conditions. Pay a salary, yes, my annual salary of 0 1 is nearly 5W, while my classmate's salary is less than 3W when he enters a better unit in the mainland, and I suddenly become the highest paid person in our class.

Here's a digression. Discuss and compare the income of civil servants, not monthly salary, but annual salary. They are all compared according to the time of 200 1 year-when I first joined the company, I got 3,300 per month, and my buddy in the lower berth got 1200 per month when he entered a bank in Anhui, but my annual income was less than 5W, and my buddy's bonus and commission were actually spread out in 4W faster (he borrowed money). I was also a dormitory classmate and went to Qingyuan Finance Bureau for only one year. A high school classmate of mine works as a software engineer in Shenzhen. His starting salary is only 2000 yuan a month, but he actually gets 20W a year. In 2008, we made another comparison-I was a junior, just transferred to another school (you don't agree, because I am awesome, speak slowly), for a whole year 10W, my monthly salary soared to more than 8,000, and then I had nothing. Don't make any noise. After reading countless posts, no one believed me. You said I'd get double pay at the end of the year. To tell the truth, sunshine wages have little effect on Shenzhen. It seems that if it is smaller, it will collapse in Guangzhou and be cut in half. If you don't believe that Guangzhou civil servants earn 4,000 yuan a month and then have nothing, I don't care. This is a fact. As for my classmates in that bank, they are now one year 15W. A classmate of mine who works in software has stopped working in software, because his hair is half white and he is too tired. In 2005, he took dozens of W's to Hangzhou for stock trading, so I won't mention the loss. Guess for yourself. The classmate of Qingyuan Finance Bureau is poor, and he is still in his early 2000 s every month after one year.

There are many digressions. Let's get back to the point. Anyway, after I entered the company, I didn't feel so tired as a civil servant. Don't tell me about overtime work in enterprises. Laozi's overtime work is incalculable. When I went to the government office to be a bankrupt accountant, I never thought I would be so tired. Before graduation, I followed an accounting firm for March audit from February to May. Although I am too tired, I bow my head too much every day and my neck hurts, it is good to work overtime, and continuous assessment is much better. I became a regular employee 1 year, minored for 3 years, and became a regular employee for 3 years, which can be described as soaring (luck is also very important, there are no young people in our department competing with me). I am a full-time professional, earning more than 8,000 yuan a month. If I can't mix well, I'll still be a clerk, at least I'll lose 1000 yuan a month.

Third, the mental journey

I digress again. Let's just say that in the first four years, I completely regarded this job as a job to support my family. I am cynical, and I am strict with myself. I must not be the civil servant I imagined. Do things with heart, responsibility and professional ethics. I'm really trying. Now that you have entered this industry, you must do well. Moreover, as far as I can see, those bosses who joined the company in 1999 and 2000 are all working hard. It must be better than some people in the jar who look down on corporate civil servants.

In 2005, my mind changed greatly. I want to be an official. . . . . . I want to be an official because * *, who is about the same age as me or younger than me, started to be my leader. That feeling is really bad.

The following is very important, my personal monologue:

Anyone who does any job must have the idea of being an official. The so-called officials not only refer to officials of civil servants, but also include people who are in a leading position in any unit. My old man came to Shenzhen to work in the early 1990s. At that time, he was only 12W 65,438+00 years later, which was still a share dividend. The people who came with him, one became a minister, now 24W a year, and the other was a vice president, 60W a year. He also wants to be an official in the enterprise. A deputy boss goes out, a group of people are around, and. When I was young, I always wanted to do my job well, not to be a corrupt official, and not to do specific business after becoming an official, wasting my professional skills. Now it seems really fucking bullshit, childish, so childish! !

What are the advantages of being an official? First, money. Second, high status, whether it is civil servants or enterprises. I've only been in the Big Four for a year 10W, and I'm as tired as a dog. The one who went to the bank is now transferred to the office of their bank headquarters as a small head, and the level is considered as a deputy section chief, nearly 20W a year, not counting bonuses. When you say where you are wandering alone, it's all about getting ahead and finding a job with easy status and more money. Get all this, just two words-be an official.

Fourth, how to be an official?

With a goal, I will work hard, but I haven't taught it at home. I used to be very lofty, thinking that my business ability was strong, my unit could not do without me, and I didn't give gifts to my leaders, but it doesn't matter, can't I learn?

However, I found that we didn't use these methods in the previous four years, and now it's not like that. Why? I want to have a cup of coffee first. In the past, we didn't have much communication and interpersonal relationships, nor did we flatter ourselves or give gifts. Now you have nothing to say and invite everyone to dinner. People look at you strangely and give gifts to the big leaders. No one else wants it at all. Why? I thought you had something to ask him. There is no big excuse to invite the big leader to dinner. The level doesn't correspond to you at all, so I have to turn back to the right path and work hard. Actually, everyone watches this thing. At least I have been transferred to a full-time department, and I am not allowed to be promoted next year. If nothing else, at least I will arrange other people's work and not do it myself. At least I am not so tired at work.

According to my observation, at least in my unit, most of the young people promoted are still talented, hardworking and reliable, and they are not said to be promoted by flattery. As for you saying that others give big gift packages, I don't know Anyway, our big leader said something very intriguing: you want me to promote you, then think about what help you have given me in recent years. I'm in charge. I have nothing. I can't write materials, summaries or speeches. I can't organize a reception meeting. There is no room for others on the wine table. I can't help the leaders stop drinking. . . What is the use of being an accountant? You're just bookkeeping. Okay, what's the use of a penny? You just work overtime. What's the use of Excellence? The state paid me a salary! ! ! No matter how well you do your work, it has nothing to do with your promotion. The state pays you and owes you nothing. Just like the company is not satisfied with your resignation. If you want to be promoted by the leader, you must be able to help the leader. It's that simple. If you think you are awesome enough, you can compete for the post yourself. But in the final discussion, let's go back to this. What about the test score 100? Can you take charge of this work? Can you help the leader? If not, go and make soy sauce.

5. What I want to say to those young civil servants who want to take the exam, civil servants who muddle along and civil servants who resign.

Personally speaking, compared with our civil servants in 1999-03, the quality of young people is getting worse and worse now. I'm not afraid of what you said about the post-80s generation. This is a fact, and there are several fatal shortcomings: the most terrible thing is that you are not taken seriously, and you are careless and unreliable, followed by limited laziness and many ideas, and the third is impetuous and unpractical, and you respect yourself too much.

That's what government agencies do. Some people are exhausted from work, while others are drinking tea and reading newspapers. This is a question of post setting. The leader is also very busy. What are you busy with? I know you all say that being an official is nothing more than writing a word "agree", having a meeting, eating and drinking, but it is not. The leader is very tired. Why? He should be in charge of the overall situation, have a sense of responsibility, take care of all trivial matters and be conscious. In case there is a leak below and someone cheats him, what we do is that we are tired, my hair is a lot gray, and the leader is tired. He has to keep thinking about problems, so why always have meetings, brainstorm, weigh the pros and cons, analyze the details and balance the relationship? Some time ago, the leader gave me the opportunity to organize a meeting, and I realized that the meeting was so complicated that many details I didn't expect were pointed out by the leader. For a meeting, you should make a list, send a notice, pick up and drop off people, stay, eat, arrange the meeting place, write a leader's speech, visit the route and guide. Don't say that public funds buy meals and travel at public expense. Many large-scale meetings involving food and travel are held by the above talents, so we can have the meeting directly in the conference room. I made this meeting thoughtful and decent, saved money, and I was very satisfied with him. His face has face, which is a help to the leader. It's easy for me.

Always digressing and scribbling, you just look around and go back to the last one. I brought some young people. Basically, everything after 2004 is unreliable. You told him one thing several times, and sometimes it was wrong. Best of all, you told him several times to finish a job before a certain time, and he casually perfunctory me. In the end, he didn't do it at all. My lungs were about to explode. Others saw that everyone was busy and couldn't finish the work. He said he had something to do at night, but he just didn't want to work overtime. I know there is no overtime pay, but I have worked countless classes over the years. Have I got any overtime pay? I haven't worked hard yet (explanation: civil servants, soldiers, farmers and nannies are not legal objects of the labor law, and there is no such thing as overtime pay). On the contrary, Lao * * often works overtime. Although I don't know much about computers, I just feel at ease as a typist. You teach them to do it, and they will do it according to your requirements, and they will be very careful. Old * *' s business level is not much higher. At least others have a work attitude and a stronger sense of responsibility than you. Several times, old accountants from other units came to see us, and when they saw that we were as busy as a bee, they sat down to help us fold, type and get information. Young people see that we are busy, but we run fast.

I have been a civil servant for seven years. I used to simply regard being a civil servant as a job to support my family. Now I have gradually transitioned to this job as a career. To tell the truth, I have an intermediate accounting certificate, and I am also a graduate student (I can't pass the exam, so I don't have time to give it to my children now). If I don't work as a civil servant, I'll go to the enterprise to get used to working as a corporate accountant for a few months, and it's no problem to find a job with a monthly salary of more than 6 thousand in Shenzhen. Seven years of work experience is not available to all college students, but to be honest, it is good in the enterprise. Many of my classmates now earn more than me. Some good companies only pay 4000 yuan a month, but the bonus at the end of the year is 4-5W, and there are quarterly bonuses. If anyone enters middle management, his annual salary will double (I only know 1. . . )。 But my current thinking is that if I want to resign, unless I find a better income, better development, or the government reduces my salary. In this society, sometimes wages are not as important as interpersonal relationships. Why do many people work as civil servants all their lives? He has no external relationships. He wants to quit his job and find a job, and who to ask for help. And civil servants have no social security. What should they do if they resign at the age of 40?

6. People who are dissatisfied with civil servants say.

Some people always feel that they are awesome in the enterprise. Argument, analysis and decision-making are all nonsense. To put it bluntly, it is a meeting. We worked overtime until the wee hours. To tell the truth, I think the post-90s generation in our unit will get ahead wherever they go. If you want to engage in scientific research, don't compete with civil servants. There is no comparability. Actually, I envy doing technology. If you think of anything, it's achievement. At least you have a sense of accomplishment. For us, it is estimated that pol.ice has a great sense of accomplishment in solving the case. Most people have really worked for n years without any sense of accomplishment, that is, they have completed their jobs.

Many civil servants are pitiful. I am still a deputy director in my thirties, and I am half tired. Leaders emphasize service every day. Those who sit outside the window always sit on the stage. You said that the younger sister of the expressway toll station, the traffic police who eat ash on the road, the acceptance window of the Land and Resources Bureau and the tax return of the tax bureau are smiling at countless people every day. I am an accountant. My wife said that every day before I entered the company, I had a smile on my face. Now every day is a pig's waist and face. I am tired. Can I laugh? I'm not kidding. Mainland civil servants are better, at least the city has a small population. Shenzhen has a permanent population of over 3 million, with floating population 1 100 and Beijing16.3 million. Civil servants in big cities face so many people every day, only ghosts. Isn't there always someone scolding the bank, saying that the bank is slow, the queue is long and the service is poor? They are all like birds. There are not many things in China, and there are too many fucking people.

Every year, people resign and sharpen their heads to come in. They just want to find a job. Now it's hard to find a job, the enterprise's benefit is not good, and there is no money to pay wages. This is quite secure for civil servants. It's a bright spot, but I'm an accountant Since 2002, the state finance has never given money to civil servants. In our terminology, it is called-zero growth in personnel funds, and NND newspapers always publish some plans for the central government to raise salaries for civil servants. If you want to quit, quit. You don't like bureaucracy, leadership style, this and that. When you get to the Enterprise, you will find that, hey, it's all birds. Don't think that enterprises won't care about you. Punching in to work is stricter than civil servants. Don't think that you can do this on your own. Really, they are all birds. In the past, my classmates in the enterprise envied me one by one.

It's dawn I stayed up all night tonight. I'm really strong. I'm going to start work soon. Today is Friday. I'll wake up naturally tomorrow, and I'm afraid I'll be scolded to death by my wife again. . . . . . .

It's a mess, don't look for any bugs. Read it when you understand it. Smile if you don't understand. This is real life. For those young friends who want to take the civil service exam, if you can get in, if you want to do this job, it is very difficult to do it. In fact, everything is very difficult. I can assure you that this job as a civil servant is definitely not as good as you think.

I hope that no matter what you do, you must-get rid of the habit of sleeping late in college, get rid of the habit of not attending classes at will, and get rid of the habit of being invincible in the world. Colleagues in any unit do not like such people.

I also hope that young civil servants who have just entered the unit must pay attention to details and be steady. You are assigned half a day's work, and you have no reason to give me a wrong result. What do I want you to do? If the enterprise has fired you in advance, you must not be lazy, late, absent from work, work overtime, and look down on the old. Don't think that leaders are not up to standard. I'm telling you, a person without level can't be a leader. He can be an official. I believe these points are the same not only for civil servants, but also for any unit. You must have heard a saying when you entered the company-it doesn't matter if you do more work, young man. Yes, I was half tired a few years ago, and I felt that these old guys just didn't want to do it, which made me very unhappy. But now, I think this sentence is really good. Doing more work is hard and tiring, but you have experience and popularity, which you can't buy. It's all accumulated by your usual work. !

After working for seven years, I feel a little bit. I hope some of them can be encouraged with you! ! !

The feeling of drinking: (not especially among civil servants, it can be used everywhere)

I don't drink very well. I haven't learned anything since I was a freshman, especially white wine. I will vomit every once in a while. But now I find that sometimes there is not much alcohol on the wine table. Key points:

1, if you don't drink wine, you should say it-you are too junior to drink, but you must say what you have to say.

2. Don't be passive when drinking-you are at a low level and you are afraid of seniority when you first join the company. You always wait for the person in front to respect you before respecting you. All wet, your capacity for liquor is worse. After the first time, the big leader will attack immediately, and never let anyone in the other party respect you first.

3. Try to make the other person drink more-remember, a person who can persuade people to drink is more liked by their own people than a person who can drink. Leaders like people who have the ability to pour drinks for others best, generally like people who can help him stop drinking, don't like people who can neither persuade nor stop drinking, and hate being humiliated upside down.

If you don't have the above conditions, then study.

China's wine culture is quite helpless, really, but this is society and this is reality. But it is undeniable that as soon as the wine is drunk, the atmosphere will come, and strangers will be familiar with it immediately. Everything will be easy. Don't laugh, companies are birds, too. Although my dad is skilled in business, if he can't drink, he would have been fired by his boss. Who would hire such an old employee?

Also want to say a few words:

I found that many friends who resigned in this jar wrote their feelings and found a feature. Basically, they feel that they can't do it within three years, and they feel as if they have seen everything through. In fact, this is an obstacle. Personally, people, especially men, gradually mature after working in their twenties. Basically, after graduating from college, their mentality has changed a lot, because everything is different from that in school. Entering the society, there are more types of people in contact, and they begin to have conflicts of interest with others. The most important thing is that you are bound by various rules and regulations.

Some people feel that work is boring, repetitive mechanical labor, no sense of accomplishment, no praise and encouragement; Some people think that interpersonal relationships are not good. If you don't obey the leader, you will be hard-pressed. If you think you are too awesome, your colleagues will crowd you out. After entering the civil service, some people find that the gap between ideal and reality is too big, their income is too low and their welfare benefits are not good. In particular, they always feel that they have done a lot, but they have gained little.

All of the above are demons, which are necessary conditions for people to grow up. As the saying goes, if you don't leave me here, you can leave me, but mark my words-if you leave in anger, I think you are dead, and you will definitely not develop in the future; If you leave with gratitude, I am optimistic about you, and you will have a bright future.

People's mentality, once cooked in three years, I am surprised myself. 0 1 When I first started working, my blood was boiling and my fighting spirit was high. I dream of building a world with my hands. I wasn't promoted to deputy major, but another young man in my unit was promoted. I don't think his brain is as smart as mine and his work is as skilled as mine, but others got promoted and I didn't. I am disheartened and full of resentment, though. Since 2007, I have stopped complaining and resenting. I still work hard, and I am more diligent, have a correct attitude and pay more attention to details, especially the small details in my personal life. The attitude of the leaders towards me has gradually improved.

Therefore, after working for 4-5 years, college students have a hurdle. Look at your own mentality. You join the company, regardless of whether it is a public institution or an enterprise. After 4-5 years, you will stand tall and low.

Friends who resigned, think about it. Aren't all the people who joined the company with you as wronged as you? Is there no one better than you? You think you can really see through everything after working for three years. I dare not say this for seven years. Just because you don't coquetry doesn't mean that everyone is not appreciated. I hope to find more shortcomings from myself.

Society will always let you adapt to it, not let you change it. I've seen too many civil servants talk and intrigue, and their efforts are inconsistent with their gains. Actually, it's the same everywhere. My old man 17 wants to work in a state-owned enterprise, and the factory benefits are so poor that 15 wants to work in a private enterprise. This is not true. Promotion is linked to income, but the position is limited. For the benefit, colleagues seem to be harmonious and secretly tear each other down. No intrigue? My father is old and his education is not high. The salary set by the enterprise is low, but he has done a lot of work. So giving must be equal to gaining? Don't look for external reasons, think more about yourself, get rid of your shortcomings, and learn from the advantages of others, so that people can make progress.

If the work is not smooth, first think about whether your mentality is correct, whether you have worked hard, and whether you have any shortcomings. If you have a correct attitude, work hard and have no shortcomings, you can't dislike your leader, but you can't be complacent. A young man in the jar said that he had written several materials and worked overtime for a month, which looked awesome. This is self-righteous. Later, I found that the leader didn't pay attention to him and felt lost. This is an unhealthy mentality. Give you a job, give you a burden, not pressure you, but exercise you. Many college students complain that you all have work experience when looking for a job after graduation. How can I get work experience if I don't work? Experience is so important that it is much better than your graduate diploma. On the other hand, undergraduates and graduate students are nothing now. Everyone comes from a university. How did my parents get along at school? Don't they know? I am always glad that I entered the university in 1997. After the expansion of enrollment in 1998, the products of that university education assembly line are worse than the next generation, don't you think?

What do we have? We are young and strong. We know computers and have strong self-study ability. We can use software to do things quickly and conveniently. Old * * registers the calculator with a notebook, and we can add and subtract directly with EXL, right? We have a strong ability to accept and learn quickly, and we can learn it as soon as we teach it.

What are we missing? We are inexperienced. We are not qualified. We are experts with stunts but lack of actual combat experience, but this expert is likely to be knocked down by a punk who has fought countless group battles in the street.

Still hope, young friends, face up to yourself and get rid of your shortcomings. The lazy habit formed in college will kill you, complain less and work more. The rest is up to you, but everyone has different time. Believe in yourself!