If you fail in the college entrance examination, will your life be ruined?

Speaking of the one-year college entrance examination, there are only 36 days left before the 202 1 college entrance examination. At this time, candidates have various mentalities: anxious, sensitive, stressed and want to give up.

If the child asks you, "What if I fail in the college entrance examination?" How should parents respond?

"Be sure to study hard and don't live up to your parents' expectations!" "If you don't do well in the exam, you can come back and cut you!" "It doesn't matter whether you do well or not" ... I'm afraid it's not the standard answer.

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I remember one day at this time last year, in the middle of the night 12, I passed my daughter's room when I went to the toilet and found that her light was still on.

I gently opened her door. I thought the child forgot to turn off the light when he slept. Later, I went in and found that she was still brushing the questions all night.

"Why don't you sleep?" I asked.

"Well, I'll watch it for a while." My daughter seems a little unhappy and loves to answer.

There is still a month before the college entrance examination, and I know she is under great pressure now.

"You have a good rest now, don't read until now." I tried to persuade her to go to bed.

My daughter didn't answer me, but sighed deeply.

After a long time, her voice trembled and asked me, "Mom, what should I do if I fail in the college entrance examination and can't go to a good university?"

I paused and asked, "What do you think will happen?"

"I think if I don't get into a good university, I will cry in the future ..." My daughter was wronged.

I patted my daughter on the shoulder and said with a smile, "If you can't get into college, that's great, so you can stay with me all the time, and mom doesn't have to worry about you suffering alone."

My daughter was surprised. I never thought I would give her such an answer and asked me, "Mom, why do you think so?"

I continued to smile and said, "mom was joking just now, but my mother's central idea is really like this." It doesn't matter if you don't get into a good university. You can go to an ordinary university. It doesn't matter if you can't get into an ordinary university. We can learn some skills that interest you, or go to college through other channels. There are many ways. "

My daughter opened her eyes wide and asked me, "Really?"

"Of course, this is true. You know, your mother wants you to gain not only grades, but also stress resistance and learning ability from the' battle' of the college entrance examination, because the social development is really too fast now. If you are just a bookworm who can read, even if you are admitted to Tsinghua Peking University, you will be eliminated, right? "

The daughter nodded her head.

"Don't care too much about the college entrance examination scores. Sometimes you deliberately care, but you can't reach the ideal value. Just like when I was a child, I took you to play with sand dunes. Do you still remember that you caught a handful of sand? "

My daughter nodded again and said, "Yes, I remember you telling me that the tighter you hold on to the sand, the faster it leaks."

"The college entrance examination is the same. Sometimes the tighter the score is, the more afraid it is, but the exam is not good! I hope my daughter can relax now, enjoy the process of the college entrance examination and the process of learning knowledge, instead of deliberately caring about this result, understand? " I said it again.

"I see." My daughter's face is no longer the anxiety when I first entered the room, but gradually stretches out. I also safely turned off the light in her room and let her rest.

Later, my daughter didn't feel so much pressure in her later study. She was busy and happy every day, and finally she was admitted to her favorite university.

The so-called family education is nothing more than parents planting spiritual and emotional seeds in their children's hearts, and these seeds grow with us.

In some families, parents sow love, respect and independence; In other families, fear, burden or guilt are planted.

We must realize that raising children is to participate in the growth of a life. On the way to get along with children, all we have to do is learn to practice, learn to change ourselves, silently guard and wait for flowers to bloom.

But wait for the flowers to bloom, not give up. Be kind to children with excellent grades, because most excellent children have gone away, and every day you get along with her is worth cherishing; Be kind to children with average grades, because most of them will be with us in the future, and will accompany us for the holidays and the New Year.

A while ago, a principal's golden sentence on the subnet, "All children with poor grades come to repay their kindness", didn't it catch fire?

The headmaster's words are as follows, please read:

Respect each child's differences and cultivate them slowly. Some children are born with learning qualifications, while others are not.

Unqualified children are used to repay their kindness. Because they study very well, they will go to the United States, Britain and Canada in the future and can only meet by video.

Those who are not qualified to study can stay with us until we are old. Take us to eat beef balls today and seafood tomorrow. Think about how beautiful it is!

After all, don't envy others what kind of sons or daughters they have. Many things are predestined, don't be too demanding. Educate and grow up with your heart, children are the best.

As the college entrance examination approaches, many students will have one kind or another collapse.

Stage fright anxiety before examination

I have seen many students have stage fright anxiety before exams.

Usually they have the following kinds of "adverse reactions":

"Ah, it's time for the exam? Stay up for another night and remember as much as you can! "

"No, I haven't memorized the words, and I haven't finished reviewing the biology textbook. What should I read first? "

"Hey, I'm tired of watching it and don't want to learn."

Children's boots with exam anxiety generally don't do well, because they are forced to study passively rather than actively.

This is the so-called "hard study".

I can't learn anymore, but I just want to learn.

Have you learned anything from serious classics? Not exactly.

Because there is no study plan of "studying hard", I just give myself a comfort of "You see I am still working so hard" in my heart.

Panic and anxiety in the examination room

Several students have told me.

"Teacher, as soon as I sit in my examination room, I can't help but be flustered. Forget it, I am still shaking, that is, my legs are shaking to the point where I can't control them. "

Indeed, when I arrived at the examination room, I was "shivering, pale and sweaty", and there were indeed many such situations.

There is a term in psychology called "Clark phenomenon".

Clark is a famous athlete and long-distance runner in Australia. He broke the world record 1963 to 1968 17 times. But it was during this period, at the peak of his sports, that he participated in two Olympic Games without winning a championship.

What is the reason? It's not that his level is not enough, but that he was under too much pressure in the most critical game at that time, which led to his level imbalance during the game.

Therefore, we call this phenomenon caused by stress "Clark phenomenon".

Faced with this situation, I strongly suggest that all students "draw a symbol" before the exam.

You can write some on it:

"You are actually working hard, come on!"

"An exam can't represent anything, just continue next time."

If you are so encouraged, check again and again when you enter the examination room and cheer for yourself.

Post-test self-blame anxiety disorder

Some students will feel sorry for their teachers' teaching, their classmates' concern, and especially their parents' love after failing in the exam. Think about your parents' white hair and the wrinkles around their eyes. The more you think about it, the more guilty you are, right?

I even think that life is really a failure and that living is meaningless.

In fact, it is often unnecessary to blame yourself after the exam.

It can be said that being responsible for yourself is more important. You don't care what others think of you. Actually, you can't.

After the exam, you think, "You did a good job in the mock exam. Is it because others didn't play well that I played so well? "

I didn't do well in the exam. You think, "Teacher, why am I so stupid?"

So no matter what your grades are, you are not at ease with yourself.

In fact, if you have this kind of mood, it will not only affect your usual study, but also affect your recovery after the exam.

Since anxiety is so common, we should learn how to relieve it.

Exercise properly at ordinary times

Exercise can really relieve stress. Therefore, in the face of the college entrance examination, reasonable and timely exercise is particularly important.

Therefore, it is suggested that all students go for a run on the playground after studying.

Some students may say, I don't like running, but I like playing basketball. What should I do?

It's okay!

Choosing your favorite exercise style can get twice the result with half the effort to relieve psychological stress!

Deep breathing method

When you face the exam, if the "scribbling method" above is of no use to you.

After all, once you enter the examination room, it is forbidden to bring irrelevant papers. Brother Xue is not responsible for any consequences caused by a piece of "paper" that should inspire you.

So in this case, it is necessary to "take a deep breath".

Deep breathing can inject more oxygen into human body, lower heart rate and blood pressure, slow down breathing, calm brain waves, restore physical and mental stability faster, and make people more energetic.

Take a breath and the exam will be better.

Return to basic knowledge in learning content

Parents always ask me, "Why is my child under so much pressure in the college entrance examination?" ? I can't sleep every day. "

In fact, the reason is very simple, because I can't do the problem!

I always want to do some over-inflated topics to express myself and expand my knowledge reserve. In fact, sometimes it will not only fail to achieve satisfactory results, but also backfire.

Imagine that an over-qualified test paper is placed in front of you. This problem won't, and that problem won't, let alone children, parents will collapse.

Therefore, it is recommended that all children must return to the basics before the exam. It's enough to review and sort out the main points of knowledge that the teacher has said, and there is no need to chew on biased topics and questions.

Off-topic words and problems will hit students' self-confidence and cause depression.

As long as the basic knowledge is clearly mastered and there is a certain knowledge reserve, students will feel practical and their anxiety will be reduced.

The college entrance examination is just around the corner, so let go of the impatience and anxiety before the exam, calm down, go through the knowledge points and crack the places you don't understand, won't and are weak. As the saying goes, it's faster to take your time. In the last month or so, if you learn one more knowledge point, you will have one more chance of winning in the examination room and be farther away from the ideal university. I hope every child can win the "paper tiger" of the college entrance examination and enter the ideal university smoothly!

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