On the weakening of friends (always like this ...)

There are only ten days left in 20 19, and we have experienced too many ups and downs this year.

Some people go away; Some emotional contact is weak; Some hearts get cold when they wait?

As the internet said, the way for adults to end a relationship is not quarreling and collapse, but a silent alienation.

Most of these differences are silent, but there are traces to follow:

All alienation has a reason,

All the parting has been planned for a long time.

Recently, I saw some people's love-hate entanglements in Bo Huang's new film "The Man Caught by Light", and suddenly realized that all the relationships were so diluted:

A don't ask, a don't say.

There is a particularly interesting setting in the movie The Man Caught by Light:

A magic lamp suddenly shone on a city, and many people disappeared inexplicably.

Later, people found that most of the people who disappeared were lovers, so everyone slowly acquiesced in a fact?

Those who are taken away by the light are those who love each other, and those who are left behind are those who have no love.

Bo Huang and Tan Zhuo played a couple, Wu Wenxue and zhangyan, who happened to be judged as? Not in love? People.

At first, Wu Wenxue strongly denied that he believed that he and his wife were in love.

Later, in all kinds of gossip, he gradually began to doubt whether his wife loved him, but he never said a word.

In order to convince others that his relationship with his wife is fine, he also forged a train ticket and a photo of his wife going to Shashi, falsely claiming that her wife went to other cities on the day of the light, so she was not taken away by the light.

He also asked his wife to pretend to speak casually at the class reunion. Who knows that the old classmates humiliated their wives with all kinds of bad fun.

Zhang Yan shuddered at her husband's behavior, while Wu Wenxue happened to find his wife chatting and complaining with other men. He began to doubt his wife more and more. Did he cheat?

But he never asked his wife a word, but hid the seeds of doubt in his heart and confronted the man who was chatting with his wife.

Zhang Yan said nothing to Wu Wenxue about her disappointment with her husband and despair of marriage.

Therefore, their marriage is in jeopardy, almost to the point of divorce.

Until later, Wu Wenxue stopped avoiding questions and began to ask his wife, who explained that the two had talked about various misunderstandings about each other, and the home had the temperature of home again.

The furthest distance between people is the distance between hearts.

The breakdown of the relationship is nothing more than a hard knot, one does not ask, the other does not say, and gradually alienates.

And the best feelings, is nothing more than willing to ask, there is a saying:

You have a problem at the moment, and you are willing to say it; I can't understand you at the moment. I want to ask.

Mutual tolerance, step by step into each other's hearts.

One is too sensible and the other doesn't cherish it.

"Through those lush years" said:

A sweet talk, a look back and a smile make you crazy. It turns out that there are really excuses in the world that can turn into love at first sight.

For people in love, each other's every move is beautiful.

Many people like that a person will feel inferior and will be desperate for love. In order to please my lover, I always wronged myself and let myself like each other.

In The Man Captured by Light, Li Nan is such a woman.

Because my husband once said that she likes independent women, and she makes herself independent, intellectual and sensible?

But the funny thing is, she is so good, but her husband cheated.

Determined to get a divorce, she made an appointment to wait at the gate of the Civil Affairs Bureau, but her husband didn't come that day. Later, San Xiao called the door and asked if she had hidden her husband.

After confirming her husband's disappearance, she and San Xiao are unwilling to investigate her husband's past and whereabouts together.

Originally, Xiao Si and Xiao Wu?

In repeated investigations, Li Nan found that her husband's attitude towards every woman is different, and all women are especially accommodating and obedient to him.

In this love scam, most of these women are humble payers.

My husband doesn't love anyone, so he plays games with feelings.

People often say: in love, whoever is serious will lose. ?

Softness is a disease, and affection is fatal.

Those who are hurt in feelings are often those who are modest and sensible. Many feelings come to the end because of long-term unilateral efforts, and their hearts are getting cold.

A relationship that is not evenly matched, no matter how sensible you are, the other party can't deceive themselves and let the relationship go to the end without cherishing it.

It's better to raise the sand that you can't catch. Don't cling to that lukewarm heart, and don't wait for those who can't wait.

When you learn to give up right and wrong, you will meet new possibilities.

The right person may have hit the south wall right in front of him.

One overestimates the relationship and the other underestimates the feelings.

Have you ever thought that if there is a lamp in the city where we live.

You are the one who stays. What will you do?

If a person stays, how do you face emotional betrayal?

If two people are together, how can you believe the feelings at this moment?

In the movie, some people cry for the land after their lover disappears, which completely changes the focus of life and makes them feel tumbling in the abyss.

On the other hand, the choice of a young couple who stayed behind was even more shocking.

The girl completely distrusted the boy and shut him out.

To prove his love, the boy told the girl that he could die for her.

The girl shrugged off it and blurted it out to let him die.

The boy jumped off the building and became a vegetable, and then the girl could only cry at the boy in the hospital bed.

A beautiful relationship ended in tragedy.

Zhang Jiajia said:

The beginning of the story is always like this, which coincides with its meeting and is caught off guard; The story always ends like this, two flowers bloom, and the sky is far apart.

There may not be magical light in real life, and there may not be such persistent and blind feelings.

But many relationships in life are so unpredictable, how to maintain a relationship in impermanence is a difficult problem in our hearts.

If you rely too much on each other and hold on too tightly, the other party will naturally be at a loss, and the relationship will fall apart and lose its direction.

If you are too indifferent, distrustful and suspicious about the relationship, you will only turn yourself into an island.

In fact, complex feelings are complicated, and simple is simple. Is nothing more than a word:

Don't overestimate relationships, don't underestimate feelings.

Treat every relationship with enthusiasm, but don't treat any relationship as your life.

As Spirited Away said: Life is a train to the grave. There will be many stops on the way, and it is difficult to have someone to accompany you from beginning to end. ?

Life is meeting and parting, and the most comfortable relationship between people is to meet with gratitude, not to bear and owe.

Don't test people's hearts, don't overestimate feelings.

Don't miss those who leave, and don't ignore those who stay.

Feelings are not cherished by one person, but guarded by two people.

? If life is just like the first time, you don't have to draw a fan in the autumn wind. ?

Over time, we always feel that meeting people for the first time is the best.

After a long time, I experienced many things, saw each other's sufferings, understood each other's shortcomings, and consumed each other's goodwill again and again in getting along.

A writer once said:

There are emotional accounts between people? Don't blindly withdraw money from it, willfully thinking that your money will never be spent. No, when the deposit becomes zero, it is the time when the other party leaves.

Feelings are not cherished by one person, but guarded by two people.

No matter friendship, love and affection, they can't stand consumption.

When we meet, only by learning to cherish can we maintain our relationship and keep the love and important people lost all the way.

20 19, thanks to those who love us.

20 19, sorry for those we lost.

From today on, I wish you become a person who can store relationships and learn to understand, care, tolerate and love.

Don't mistreat every enthusiasm, don't wronged every sincerity.

-Music and pictures-

Background Music | Soft Reflection

Image source | People caught by light stills

Zhang Zixi, the ten-point gentleman, is sincere in every sentence and gentle in every word, giving you the warmest advice from the perspective of the most bystander. This article started reading at 10: 00 (ID: duhaoshu), and more than 29 million people subscribed to the nationwide reading scale. Please reply backstage? Reprinted? .

Xia Meng, a girl who studies at 10 o'clock and signs an anchor, lives hard and pursues her dreams seriously in a small town in the north. Wechat WeChat official account: Xia Meng says good night, Weibo @ Xia is not cute, personal micro signal: listentome 134.