Original Don’t say goodbye next time, or now!

Text/Nanyang Qingcheng

Sitting on the bus in the morning, I saw a girl in red clothes and met an acquaintance by chance. Looking at their similar ages, they should be classmates. Judging from their overflowing joy, they must have not seen each other for a long time.

As the car was driving on the road, the two girls asked each other happily from a few seats away, "How are you doing lately?" "Where do you work?" "I'm doing well lately"... …

Until the end, the basic questions have been asked. The girl in red clothes is talking about the company. The girl in black clothes just grins and occasionally nods to show that I know. Maybe she can see the other person. Embarrassed, the girls in red clothes stopped talking. A few places apart, they were silent, playing with their mobile phones and listening to music.

After a few stops, the girl in black was about to get off the bus. Before getting off, she said to the girl in red, "Let's talk next time." The girl in red nodded in response.

But I know clearly that their next time will be too far away, and they may not contact each other again!

Because their homes are so close to each other, only one bus stop separates them, so why worry about not seeing each other again if they have the intention to do so? If you really want to see you next time, why not leave your contact information? Because this is just a chance encounter on the bus, but it will not bring much splash to their lives.

When did saying "Let's talk next time" become an excuse to end the conversation with the other party, and also turned into a lie that the other party could not realize.

Once upon a time, maybe you and she were two very good friends. We went to class together, ate together, and in the end wanted to go out of our way for each other. This kind of friendship is called bestie love by the world. This is The highest title for friendship.

Later you left. You went to the east of the city, and she was in the west of the city. They were not far from each other. You made an appointment to hang out together on the weekends. From the beginning, you had a good get-together every week, but sometimes A person can't have only one friend, she will have many friends, so she ignored you, and gradually the weekly appointments became dispensable. Gradually, you both got your own new best friends, and gradually every time you "went to bed" "Goodbye again" becomes out of reach, like "tomorrow" will never come.

I remember one time I went to town to get my bangs cut, and I randomly found a similar barber shop. It turned out that the boss was my former classmate, and I was surprised when I called out his name. The smile on his face, It made me feel happy, and after a few greetings, he started to cut my hair, and chatted a few words during the process. The content was nothing more than "XX is married, did you know? Didn't you have a good relationship with her before?" Hey, did you know that YY married WW? The banquet was held a few days ago, and he happened to invite me. "Finally, I found that there were no other students to say, and embarrassment and silence naturally spread, and I finally paid. Money, he walked me to the door, and I said to him, "Let's talk next time." He was stunned for a moment and nodded.

I never went to his shop for a haircut again.

I don’t know if he has ever looked forward to what I said about “talking to you next time”. Maybe he has some small expectations. After all, we used to have a good relationship, and maybe he has forgotten about it. , continue his own life, after all, he and I are no different from strangers now. After many years, the last trace of connection was ground into fine sand by time and life, and passed away with the wind.

Perhaps we all once believed that even if we were separated, we would still be able to have a happy conversation when we meet again. However, the faith we once had has been defeated by the passage of time, leaving only a few words. Maybe we used to worry about gains and losses when we were separated, and felt like the sky was falling. However, after we got used to it, we found that we could calmly watch each other drift away without any disturbance.

Only those who have suffered pain can heal others. I once looked forward to the "see you next time" that a friend said to me, but she did not come that day.

When I called to inquire, she was surprised and said, oh, I can't come. I'm out of town now. See you next time. Just hung up the phone.

Later, I saw in the circle of friends that she had posted a post the day before. It was a ticket that she had already bought for traveling, but she didn't pay attention to it.

Remember who said it, if you take it seriously, you will lose.

Maybe it’s because she’s getting older, and she’s no longer as fiery as she was when she was young, saying that the wind is like the rain, and the other person will immediately fly to her side with a casual word, huddle up in a ball, and laugh and play. Now it's more like being wise and protecting yourself. I stay in my world, and she stays in hers. It seems that whoever steps out of that line first loses. It's like a siege. I can't get out, and she gets in. No, just like this I looked at her and she looked at me.

There was a teacher who resigned and caused a stir on the Internet. Just because of the sentence "The world is so big, I want to see it." Many netizens wore masks and praised each other on the Internet, feeling that the teacher was too willful and too willful. He is strong, but many people are envious and jealous of him. Then tens of millions of people followed suit. "The world is so big, I want to see it" was everywhere on WeChat Moments and Weibo. However, what I want to know is, among these tens of millions of people, how many people actually do it? Words should be consistent with actions rather than words. How many people are just complaining in their own circle of friends?

Many times, I think I say "next time" subconsciously to comfort the other person, but in fact it's more to make myself feel better. Because, you see, I already said see you next time, so let’s just say “see you next time”! It's up to you whether you come or not.