Should parents beat their children when they are arguing?

At noon on Dragon Boat Festival, we had a family dinner in the hotel. Seven aunts have dinner together. Some of them are playing mahjong in the box, some are lounging on the sofa, buttoning their mobile phones, and some are chatting together. The children don't know where they are.

Dinner is still the same team, the same hotel, and no one has left. At 3 o'clock in the afternoon, while we were chatting, my girl (5 years old and March) rushed into the box from the outside and called out to me. I thought something had happened to these children and ran to the door. I can't understand what the child said incoherently. I lowered my head and said to the child seriously, take a deep breath, calm myself down and speak slowly. She was panting and emotional, and I really couldn't understand what she was saying. Finally, under my guidance, I finally understood. She said that a mother was beating a child in the parking lot and the child was crying. Let me go down and have a look Hold my hand when you talk, I want to go out. Had to follow her downstairs.

Before I got to the parking lot, I heard the child crying. Looking for fame, I saw a girl about eight or nine years old sitting on the ground, next to a woman about thirty years old waiting for her waist. She is tying a bow on the child's face and head with slippers and playing with her mouth. At the moment, this lady has only one slipper on her foot, which is really rude. The child was beaten with a red face, a long runny nose and occasional bubbles in his nose when he spoke. It is impossible to estimate what the child was beaten under his fluffy hair. Even so, the child has no intention of giving in. The child still cried and said, you have the ability to kill me, or I will torture you to death. You are a tigress, even worse than your stepmother. Also use the children's watch to dial 1 10. The child cried and scolded, while the parents scolded and deadlocked. Several children watching the war stood like sculptures, afraid to come out.

I quickly went up to my mother and told her that the child was too young to fight like this. What if you break her? It's such a hot day, and it's not because the child will be dehydrated after crying for a while that he has to go to the hospital. Children are so wrong that adults can't guide, educate, beat and scold them. The child still kept crying. Seeing that my mother didn't mean to stop, I quickly went to the child and prepared to pull the child up. As soon as I pulled, the child was lying on the ground. Later, I jerked my mother's arm and pulled her aside, away from the child. At this moment, mother finally stopped. The child was still lying on the ground, crying even louder. Crying and cursing her mother.

I told this mother that it's hot now and adults are upset. You should calm down and stop hitting children. When you get home, communicate with your child more when he is in a good mood. Don't be adamant, the children are so old.

At this time, many people are watching, including relatives and children, and children I don't know, my Lord. Several onlookers are also comforting the little girl. Someone wiped her nose with paper, fanned her, picked up apricots on the ground, and handed her a bottle of drink. The child was so hot that he picked up a drink and drank half a bottle. The little girl's original heartbreaking cry turned into sobs, and her mood was basically stable, without swearing.

Mother told us what happened. In the morning, the family, the child's uncle, the child's grandmother and grandfather went out to play. At the first scenic spot, the child's uncle bought a bottle of water for everyone. After the child took a few sips, he asked his mother for help. As a result, the mother left the child's half bottle of water at the first scenic spot. When she got on the highway to go to the second scenic spot, the child remembered her bottle of water, so she began to insist that her mother leave the half bottle of water at the first scenic spot and let her drive to the first scenic spot to find her half bottle of water. Her uncle told the children to wait for the next scenic spot to buy her a bottle exactly the same, but the children couldn't. Grandma, grandpa said to give him 100 yuan to buy for himself. If the child can't do it, she needs half a bottle of water. A car full of people can't discuss it on the highway. The simple requirement is to throw half a bottle of water before mom. Then he cried and made a scene on the highway, kicking his mother while driving and grabbing the steering wheel.

In this way, the mood of traveling was so noisy by the child that the family didn't understand. Her mother turned around at the next highway intersection and went back the same way without consulting anyone. Adults can't talk to anyone along the way. As soon as you talk, the child quarrels with whom. Mom controls everyone's safety by driving and has no energy to argue with her children. In this way, no one dared to speak on the way back for more than two hours, and the child was safe. Finally, in the city, my mother sent my grandparents to a nearby home, and then sent my uncle home.

On the way back from my uncle's house, only my mother and the little girl were sitting in the back row. Mom drives a white Volkswagen POLO, a small car. Everything is fine.

My mother told us at that time that it was 2 o'clock in the afternoon to send my grandparents and uncles home. Thinking about finding something to eat nearby, I asked the little girl what kind of food she wanted. Then the little girl insisted on drinking the half bottle of water left by her mother at the scenic spot and didn't eat anything else. I left my mother speechless. Mom thought they were the only two people in the car to give the child a good theory. As a result, after several rounds, the mother was defeated and angered the child again. While crying, the child moved behind his mother, grabbed her hair with his hand and kicked her seat. She was the only one in the car. Cars are still on the road, and cars are coming and going in the city, which is really dangerous. Her mother drove the car to the parking lot of our restaurant with the steering wheel, and the opening scene was born.

Afterwards, I was thinking, how can children be educated now? My family also has a 5-year-old child who is still a girl, and I also face the problem of children's education. Perhaps the education problems of this generation of children have also caused headaches for countless parents. This also makes those preschool education experts helpless.

Let me talk about how my children are educated at this stage. After all, it is the first time to be a parent, and the child is now 5 years old. I wonder if this method will work? Keep an atmosphere suitable for children's growth at home at all times. Adults don't quarrel at home, don't say rude words, put everything in order at home, pay attention to personal hygiene and public hygiene, plan and arrange children's food and drink expenses, keep a certain viscosity with children, correct children's mistakes in time, use appropriate words when correcting, and demonstrate actions. Pay attention to children's words and deeds and supervise mistakes in time. When you go out to meet people, you should be polite and take the initiative to say hello to people you know. My child gets up by himself, no matter how serious it is, and never helps her. When things happen, there is no need to cry or get emotional. When I came back from kindergarten, I had homework. First, I change my shoes, straighten my shoes, wash my hands and go to the toilet. Then I finish my homework and then I can play. Habit is very important. It's hard to stick to it, and it saves a lot of things when you get used to it.

I hope everyone will raise a beautiful, handsome, polite, learned, filial and useful child for the society!