Why do you have to say it beautifully?

Everyone can speak, but it is not necessarily everyone's specialty to make a good impression on others by speaking beautifully. In the process of getting along with your boss, it is extremely important to know the art of speaking. The boss holds the power of life and death in the company. If you accidentally say the wrong thing, you should weigh the consequences! How to correctly grasp the discretion of talking with your boss? Many people have had the painful experience of saying the wrong thing in front of their superiors and are deeply distressed by this problem. To sum up, nothing more than the following points, I believe it will inspire people in the same confused workplace.

Key one: don't make decisions for your boss, but guide your boss to tell you your decision.

Pepe is young and capable, lively and cheerful. After walking for several years, her status rose steadily and soon became the main force in the unit. A few days ago, the new boss took office. He called Pepe as soon as he got off the bus: "Pepe, you have experience and ability. There are new projects here, please pay more attention to them! "

Pepe is happy to be reused by her new boss. On this day, I will go to a neighboring city in Shanghai to negotiate. Pepe, how many people are there? It is inconvenient to take a bus, and people are also involved, which will affect the negotiation effect. Take a taxi, one can't sit down, and the two costs are too high; Better rent a car. Economical and practical.

The idea was decided, but Pepe didn't deal with it directly. A few years' career has taught her that it is absolutely necessary to report something to her boss. So Pepe came to the boss.

"You see, we are going out today," Pepe analyzed the advantages and disadvantages of several schemes, and then said, "So, I decided to hire a car!" After the report, Pepe found that the boss's face turned black. He said stiffly, "Really? But I think this plan is not very good. You'd better buy a ticket and take a long-distance bus! " Pepe was shocked. She never imagined that such a reasonable proposal would be "returned".

"It doesn't make sense, even a fool can see that my plan is the best?" Pepe is puzzled.

Pepe's awareness of reporting everything to the boss is very valuable, and his mistake lies in his improper wording. Note that Pepe said, "I've decided to rent a car!" " "In front of the boss, saying" I've decided what to do "is the most taboo.

If Pepe can say this: Now we have three choices, each with its own advantages and disadvantages. Personally, I think it is feasible to charter a car, but I can't decide. You are very experienced. Can you help me make a decision? Hearing this, the boss will certainly accommodate her and agree to her request. Isn't this the best of both worlds?

Key 2: Don't play a black joke with the boss, even if it's just a joke.

Qingqing is a customs broker and a clever girl. She has quick thinking, sharp words and humorous cells. She is the "happy fruit" of the company. But such a lovely green color is not favored by the boss.

Qingqing works very hard. Sometimes, in order to catch up with the time, she has to go to the customs early in the morning to declare. When she returned to the office exhausted, her boss not only didn't understand her, but also indiscriminately said that she was late and absent from work. Anyway, explain it. Qing Qing was very wronged and asked the experts for advice. The expert inspired her, "Do you usually disrespect your boss in words?"

After asking this question, Qing Qing remembered that she usually likes to play jokes on her colleagues. Later, when she saw the boss's plane, she always smiled at her subordinates. When she has the courage, she plays jokes on her boss. That day, my boss came to work in a brand-new suit, gray shirt, gray pants and gray tie. Qing Qing shouted exaggeratedly, "You are wearing new clothes today!" The boss grinned, and before he could taste the feeling of joy, Qingqing came up: "Like a gray mouse!" " "

Some other time The customer came to the boss to sign, and repeatedly praised: "Your signature is really magnificent!" Qing Qing happened to walk into the office and heard another bad laugh: "Can you not leave an impression?" Our director has been practicing secretly for three months! "When this statement came out, both the boss and the customer were embarrassed.

Joking can really narrow the distance between colleagues and ease interpersonal relationships, but if a joke contains personal attacks, it is a black joke. Black jokes do great harm to interpersonal relationships, but Qing Qing didn't realize it. This is why she is smart and capable, but she can't be reused.

In fact, black jokes reflect a weakness of human nature: in the face of a person or a thing, you will unconsciously find fault, which is a thinking habit.

In life, people who love to play black jokes must be keen to find fault. Such people are often considered "mean" and easily arouse the resentment of others. Colleagues may laugh, but the consequences of offending the boss's dignity are serious. If you want to leave a good impression in front of your boss, you must try to overcome your own human weakness, learn to be tolerant, learn to explore the advantages of others, and gradually change the image of "stingy".

Key 3: When you have nothing to say, just talk about the change of the other person's clothes.

Liu Qiang is honest and wooden, rarely makes any noise, and will never attract everyone's attention. Therefore, despite his hard work, he can stay in his original position in the company for several years.

The boss is on a business trip recently and wants to take some employees with him. On the train, Liu Qiang's bunk is next to his boss. After greeting a few questions, they fell silent. Liu Qiang feels that the atmosphere of staring at each other with small eyes is suffocating and must say something to break the deadlock. But he never deals with leaders, and he really doesn't know where to start.

Suddenly, Liu Qiang caught a glimpse of the boss wearing a pair of shiny leather shoes, which was very conspicuous, and said, "You have good taste in these shoes. Where did you buy it? "

Originally, I just had nothing to talk about, but when the boss heard it, his eyes flashed. "These shoes, which I bought in Hong Kong, are world famous brands!" The boss's chatterbox suddenly opened, and he began to talk about his clothing matching experience. He also kindly pointed out that Liu Qiang didn't have enough clothes at work, and the two chatted happily.

When getting off the bus, the boss said meaningfully, "Liu Qiang, it seems that I knew too little about you before. You should do well in the future."

The topic of "leather shoes" uses an important rule in interpersonal relationships: praising the changes in the details of the other person's clothes can quickly narrow the distance between the two sides. Liu Qiang hit the nail on the head. Looking at it, we can see that the boss is wearing a pair of new shoes. The deadlock between Liu Qiang and the boss was immediately broken and the relationship was improved. By the way, I learned a lot about his boss's personal preferences, which other colleagues dream of! Judging from the boss's final attitude, Liu Qiang also showed himself through this opportunity and left a good impression on the boss. At work, you might as well use this method more, observe the changes of the other party's clothes and compliment them moderately, which will get unexpected results.

Learn to be "confused" in front of the boss

"Difficult to be confused" has always been regarded as a brilliant way of life. As long as you know how to play dumb, you are not a fool, but you are as stupid as a fool. Don't be arrogant and don't know how to forgive others. Too sharp-edged is easy to be hated and easier to make enemies. I don't know how many subordinate courtiers Gao Zhen caused fatal disaster. The most important skill in dealing with leaders is to "play the fool" at the right time: not to show your brilliance and not to correct each other's mistakes. Interpersonal communication, playing dumb can hide shame and seek steps; You can pretend that you don't know how to realize humor and refute; You can confuse your opponent by pretending to be crazy. You must have good acting skills to be "silly" and cute and "crazy" just right. Whoever doesn't know the truth will be fooled; Who can't understand the charm of wisdom, who is stupid, who must be a real fool.

As a person, especially as a talented person. To effectively protect ourselves and give full play to our talents, we should not only persuade and overcome the morbid psychology of blind arrogance, but also not be too arrogant and aggressive in everything and cultivate the virtue of modesty. The so-called "flowers should be half-blooming, wine should be half-drunk". When the flowers are delicate, not picking them immediately is the beginning of decline. Life is the same. When you are full of ambition, don't be arrogant, so it's strange that you won't be targeted by others! Therefore, no matter how outstanding your intelligence is, you must remember: don't take yourself too seriously, don't take yourself too seriously, don't regard yourself as a saint and gentleman who saves the country and the people, but converge, pick up your tail and cover up your talent.

Is to cut Xu. Before the war, he first organized competitions in the capital to select pioneers. As soon as people hear the opportunity of meritorious service, they are eager to show their talents.

The first events are fencing and fighting. All the generals tried their best to watch daggers flying, shields shaking and fighting. After one round of competition, six people were selected to participate in the next round of competition.

The second event is the comparison arrow. The six winning generals each shot three arrows, and the winner was the one who hit the bull's-eye. Some hit the rake and some hit the bull's-eye. The fifth archer is GongSunZi. He has strong martial arts and youthful spirit, and never takes others seriously. I saw his bow and arrow, and three arrows hit the bull's eye. He held his head high, glanced at the last shooter and stepped back.

Finally, the shooter was an old man with a little gray beard. His name is Uncle Ying Kao, and he advised Zhuang Gong to make up with his mother. Zhuang Gong values him very much. Ying Kao stepped forward, unhurried, and shot three arrows in a row, hitting the bull's-eye, tied with Gongsun Zi.

There are only two people left. Duke Zhuang sent someone to pull out a car and said, "You two stand a hundred paces away and come and grab this car at the same time. Whoever grabs it is the forerunner. " Gong Sunzi glanced at his opponent contemptuously. I don't know, halfway through, GongSunZi slipped. By the time he got up, Uncle Ingo had already grabbed the car. GongSunZi where convinced, mention halberd to seize the car. Uncle Ingo took one look, pulled up the car and galloped away. Zhuang Gong sent someone to stop him and declared Uncle Ying Kao a pioneer. GongSunZi bears a grudge.

Uncle Ying Kao lived up to Zhuang Gong's expectations. When attacking the capital Guo Xushi, he took the lead in rushing from the ladder to the capital Guo Xu with a flag in his hand. Seeing Uncle Ying Kao's success, Gong Sunzi was so jealous that his heart ached. He drew an arrow and took a bow to aim at Uncle Ingo above the city. He shot Uncle Yingkao at once, was "cold" and fell from Chengtou.

In the old society, a typical example of getting into trouble because of his sharp edge was that he made contributions to Gao Zhen as a minister. When fighting Jiangshan, heroes from all walks of life gather under one wing, with sharp edges and sharp edges, and one is more capable than the other. Of course, the master needs to borrow these people to realize his ambition of dominating the world. But the world is fixed, and the talents of these Iliad heroes will not disappear. At this time, their talents became the emperor's heart disease, which made him feel threatened. Therefore, in the early days of the founding of the People's Republic of China, there were many incidents of killing heroes, such as the murder of Han Xin and the burning of the Qinggong Building in Ming Taizu. After reading the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, you may notice that Zhuge Liang did not seem to have achieved much after Liu Bei's death, unlike Liu Bei, who was resourceful and sharp-edged. Under a wise king like Liu Bei, Zhuge Liang doesn't have to worry about being suspected, and Liu Bei can't live without him, so he can try his best to give full play to his talents, assist Liu Bei, and lay a solid foundation, one of which is the third point in the world. After Liu Bei's death, A Dou succeeded to the throne. Liu Bei once said in front of ministers: "If this boy can help, then help him well;" If he is not fit to be a monarch, you can stand on your own two feet. Zhuge Liang suddenly broke out in a cold sweat and was at a loss. He cried and knelt down to the ground and said, "How can I not do my best until I die?" Say that finish, kowtow bleeding. No matter how kind Liu Bei is, he will not cede the country to Zhuge Liang. He said Zhuge Liang would be king. How did he know he didn't want to kill him?

Therefore, on the one hand, Zhuge Liang acted cautiously and devoted himself to the public interest, on the other hand, he fought abroad all the year round to prevent being given the handle of "holding the emperor to make the princes." Moreover, his sharpness is greatly restrained, and he deliberately shows that he is old and useless, so as not to harm himself. This is a strategy of keeping a low profile, and convergence is Zhuge Liang's great wisdom.

If you don't show your edge, you may never get the heavy responsibility; You are too sharp-edged but easy to be framed. Although you can easily achieve temporary success, you have dug yourself a grave. When you show your talents, you sow the seeds of crisis, so enough is enough.

In today's society, this truth still holds, and the skill of communicating with leaders is "deliberately playing dumb". It means not to show off your cleverness and not to refute what the other party says. In fact, it is not easy to do this, and you must have good acting skills. However, not everyone can be stupid just right. If you don't master it well, you will be self-defeating