A woman faked her pregnancy test, but was heartbroken by her prospective mother-in-law. What do you think of this?

Marrying into a good family is the subconscious expectation of most women, so how to achieve this expectation? I don’t have the great ability to make women achieve this expectation 100%. However, I can increase the probability of achieving this expectation by analyzing the elements of women’s marital happiness and formulating relevant strategies.

The elements of a happy female marriage: women, men, and husband’s family. Excluding women themselves, the remaining men and husband's family are the main key elements that affect women's marital happiness.

A man’s responsibility, single-mindedness, respect, and understanding, as well as the respect, understanding, and kindness from his in-laws’ family are the foundation for a happy marriage for women. Men's irresponsibility, half-heartedness and self-interest, and husband's family's self-interest and lack of respect are the root causes of unhappiness in women's marriages.

Through the above analysis, we can get a result: before getting married, if a woman can discover in time the disadvantages of disrespect and self-interest in her boyfriend and her husband’s family, she can avoid the consequences she has. To non people, increase the probability of getting a happy marriage.

However, we are ordinary people and do not have the ability to read minds. It is obviously impossible to truly understand the true thoughts of our in-laws and boyfriends. Therefore, it is necessary to test in some ways before marriage.

Reader case:

Qin Hailan has been dating her boyfriend Cheng Hao for more than two years and is about to get engaged. The two families have already met. The flower of love is about to bear red fruits, which should be a happy thing, but Qin Hailan is not happy.

There was a little panic deep in her heart. She was afraid that she was trusting someone else, and she was afraid that her mother-in-law would not treat her as a relative. Qin Hailan asked me: "What should I do to get rid of my fear of marriage? I don't want it to accompany me into marriage."

I asked her "Why is she afraid of marriage?" and she told me that she She has been in love with Cheng Hao for more than two years, and it was sweet at first. He was very caring and considerate to her. As the relationship further improved and she got to know him better, Cheng Hao often had an attitude of being convinced of her, and he no longer cared about her and loved her as much as before.

In addition, the two families were discussing the bride price and wedding, and they were quarreling. Based on his actual situation, her parents made a request for a colorful gift of 30,000 yuan, and made it clear that the dowry was almost the same amount. However, his parents felt that the gift was too high and the wedding arrangements were too extravagant. They always wanted her to marry her parents. Take a step back.

She asked Cheng Hao for his opinion. Cheng Hao opened his mouth and said: "I will listen to my parents' arrangements. Don't worry about it. It's useless to worry about it."

The uncompromising attitude of her husband's family, her boyfriend's unclear attitude, and the fact that they don't care about her as much as before are the fundamental reasons why Qin Hailan is worried about getting married. After understanding the specific situation, I asked her: "Do you want to marry him?"

Qin Hailan said that she wanted to marry him, but she was afraid that she would be entrusted to a wrong person and live an unhappy life after marriage. She asked me if there was any way to test out her boyfriend’s sincerity towards her and the quality of her husband’s family.

I told her a method, which is "fake pregnancy".

More than two weeks later, Qin Hailan told me that she had broken off the engagement. I asked her what happened, and she said: "I was a guest at my prospective mother-in-law's house. After eating, I pushed Cheng Hao away." , I told my mother-in-law-to-be, “Aunt, I’m pregnant.” The mother-in-law-to-be touched my hand and asked me, “Does Haozi know about this? ”

I told her a little nervously: “He doesn’t know, it was just found out not long ago.” "

She believed what I said and hurriedly called Cheng Hao to her side with a reproachful look on her face: "Hailan is pregnant and you are going to be a father soon, silly son. "

Cheng Hao looked confused and asked: "Is this true?

I nodded, and then asked my mother-in-law: "Auntie, you see I am pregnant, and you are about to have a grandson. What are you going to do about the bride price and wedding?" ”

My mother-in-law-to-be felt ugly when she saw what I had said. She said there was no rush and she would naturally reply to me after the discussion was finalized. She also repeatedly asked me to take good care of myself.< /p>

I felt a little disappointed when I didn't mention the wedding and the bride price. When I got home, I told my family about the "fake pregnancy" to test my mother-in-law. My mother was a little angry and said I was ignorant.

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Not three days after this incident, the prospective mother-in-law and her family came to our house and started discussing the bride price and wedding again.

The mother-in-law-to-be said: "In-laws, your daughter is pregnant, so you don't need this bride price. It would be best to keep the wedding simple or not hold it at all. You can save this money so that your daughter can take good care of her health." "

When my parents heard this, they were obviously unhappy and asked: "Which family doesn't give a wedding gift, and which family doesn't have to hold a wedding?"

The prospective mother-in-law looked indifferent. Appearance: "No gift is given, no wedding is held, and there are so many people who get married directly. We are not a precedent. Besides, your daughter is pregnant. She won't get married if she doesn't come into my house. Do you think so?" Really, mother-in-law?"

When the mother-in-law turned against her, her parents immediately looked down and said, "What's wrong with my daughter's pregnancy? Shouldn't she hold a wedding if she's pregnant?" Are you asking for a gift? We will not agree to it."

The two parties refused to give in, and the argument lasted for two or three hours, and finally they ran out of energy. The two sides stopped discussing the matter. Before leaving, the prospective mother-in-law pretended to be sure of me and said to me: "Hailan, for the sake of your children, tell your parents that the bride price and dowry are just a formality, and weddings are expensive and laborious. Don’t hold on to this matter.”

That’s the truth, but that’s not the case. The wedding is the best memory of a woman's life and an essential stage for entering into marriage, and the bride price shows the man's respect for the woman.

When my parents returned home, they looked very worried and hesitated to speak. At night, I was lying in bed and asked Cheng Hao in a private message, what did he think of what his mother said to me before she left?

Cheng Hao said that he thought his mother was right and he supported his mother's opinion. He hoped that I would think more about the future of the two of us. Knowing Cheng Hao's opinion, I felt a little sad. I didn't know how to speak. I wanted to break up and not get married.

The next day, I told my parents that I wanted to break up. My father nodded in agreement, and my mother said to me: "Daughter, your idea is right. Cheng Hao, a child, listens to his mother in everything." , you have no opinion at all. Your prospective mother-in-law is also focused on self-interest and doesn't care about you at all. This family always thinks of getting a cheap wife for nothing. If you marry her, I won't necessarily be happy. Your father didn’t dare to tell you our opinions, mainly because he wanted you to see the true face of this family. Now that you can see clearly, we feel at ease.”

Mom. Her opinion gave me great encouragement. At noon, I plucked up the courage to call my prospective mother-in-law. After her prospective mother-in-law picked up the phone, I said, "Auntie, I'm not pregnant. I lied to you. I just wanted to check it out." I didn’t expect how you would react when you found out I was pregnant. You let me down so much. Just forget about my marriage to Cheng Hao. Tell Cheng Hao to stop looking for me.”

< p>I immediately hung up the phone without waiting for my mother-in-law to say anything. In the past two days, Cheng Hao called me many times and called me many times, but I never answered or saw him.

I want to ask you, am I doing the right thing?

The 30,000 yuan gift proposed by the woman’s parents is not too much if it is within the scope of what the man can bear. But the man's parents always want to ask the woman's parents to take a step back. In addition, when they learn that the woman is pregnant, they insist on not giving a bride price, canceling the wedding or making it simple, which is obviously disrespectful to the woman.

Cheng Hao not only did not stop or discourage his parents' behavior, but also listened to their parents' words, which is enough to show that he does not love Hailan that much in his heart. He is a man without his own opinion. If Hailan really agrees, then she will face a disrespectful husband and a disrespectful husband in her marriage, and her future life will probably be unhappy.

After informing Hailan of the analysis results, he chatted with her for a few more words and ended the conversation. Judging from Hailan's incident, Hailan loved Cheng Hao very much. Unfortunately, she fell in love with the wrong person and almost entered the wrong marriage.

Being unable to see clearly the character of a man or the good or bad qualities of one’s husband’s family, blindly marrying oneself off is like a big gamble. If the bet is right, it is a good thing. But if the bet is wrong, Pain will accompany the woman. I personally advise female friends not to regard their marriage as a big gamble. The probability of making a mistake is very high.

A message to female friends: Before getting married, test as much as possible, and try your best to see clearly the man’s character and the good or bad of your husband’s family, so as to increase your probability of getting a happy marriage. Don't marry yourself blindly. If you marry the wrong person, you will only suffer.