Should middle school students' mothers accompany their daughters to speak?

There have been different opinions on the phenomenon of parents accompanying students in the society. Not long ago, the author conducted a random sampling survey of some students and parents, and 36.7% were in favor of accompanying students and 63.3% were against them. Most of them are in favor of reducing students' pressure and helping them improve their grades so as to facilitate their further studies. Opponents agree that children in their arms will not grow up and should learn to stand on their own feet.

The author thinks that accompanying reading can solve the urgent need, but fundamentally speaking, accompanying reading is not a good phenomenon, which has complicated social, school, family and students' own reasons. These should arouse our sufficient attention.

First, the causes of accompanying reading phenomenon

(a) Social reasons for accompanying students:

In the past few years, the scene of "thousands of troops crowded on a wooden bridge" has been greatly improved with the continuous expansion of college enrollment in recent years. At present, the gross enrollment rate of higher education in China has reached 19%, the admission rate of college entrance examination in some big cities is as high as 70%, and the number of college students ranks first in the world. More and more people have entered the threshold of universities, which indicates that China's higher education is changing from elite education to mass education, which undoubtedly helps to improve the overall quality of the people.

However, the popularization of higher education seems to be difficult to shake the long-standing traditional view of talents and employment. Going to college, a famous university, a popular major in a famous university, or a dream of parents; Scores and further studies are still the only effective "baton" in the hands of most schools and teachers; With the severe employment situation, the threshold of some employers has also increased. ...

The main reason is that there are misunderstandings in people's view of talents, which are manifested in the uniqueness of talent standards and the equality between talents and academic diplomas; The road to success is single, and college and high salary are the only way to success in life.

At present, the economy and society are changing with each passing day and the development of science and technology is changing with each passing day. The requirement of society for talents' quality has changed from simple knowledge to comprehensive quality with coordinated development of knowledge, ability and personality. General Secretary Hu Jintao put forward the concept of "four talents, not only academic qualifications, not only professional titles, not only qualifications, not only identity" at the national talent work conference held last year, and repeatedly emphasized that "everyone can become a talent" with the concept of "all kinds of talents"

For students who have studied hard for ten years, it is good to be admitted to the university, but not being admitted to the university does not mean that the road to success is cut off. Going to college is not the only way to succeed. It should be noted that, for an individual, a diploma is only a proof of the talent production process, and it cannot be equated with its true value. Whether a person with a diploma can be called a talent depends on whether he can be an official or a professional. The existence of talents is originally the result of comparing people who are capable and can do things with others.

(B) school reasons for accompanying students

1. There are loopholes in the daily management of the school.

With the expansion of enrollment scale, the overall quality of students has declined, and the number of students is uneven. Some students living in dormitories can not be effectively monitored, and there are some misunderstandings in dormitory management. With the reform of school management mode and the gradual realization of socialization of logistics management, some students also look at people with colored glasses and are skeptical about the management of life teachers. After the lights were turned off in the dormitory, several students were chatting, which directly affected another part of the students. Even snuck out to the internet cafe all night.

The food in the school canteen is a problem.

Under the social background of exam-oriented education, students' study is the first. Although they can't enjoy material things, both parents and students think that spending the same money can't get the corresponding return. Moreover, students need to strengthen nutrition and take care of their lives during their growth, so it is not surprising to accompany them.

3. Several students who study consciously.

Education is not everything, and school teachers are sometimes helpless. After repeated education, the effect is still not significant, and school teachers have no way to throw this "burden" to their families. Let parents strengthen supervision and management.

(C) the family reasons for the reading phenomenon

Now most parents think that going to college is the only way out for their children. In order to give children more time to study, some parents even fold quilts and wash clothes for their children. Ensure that children study, study and study every day. Parents take too much care of their children. Children must be lazy, think that everything their parents can do is right, and naturally lack a sense of responsibility. Parents accompanying students may also be contrary to school education.

(D) Accompanying students' own reasons

1, students have poor self-reliance and self-care ability.

Nowadays, most students are only children, and their autonomy is poor. They have long lived a life of "clothes to reach out, food to mouth", lacking basic living ability and poor sense of independence.

2. School management

Due to the pressure of entering a higher school, various schools have adopted different routine management measures. Because of the "unfriendliness" and "unaccustomed" of studying at night in school, some students drop out of school to rent their own houses and let their parents accompany them.

3. A few students have poor study habits and poor consciousness.

At present, under the condition of socialist market economy and under the impact of Qian Chao, the new "reading uselessness" is on the rise. Some people still make a lot of money without a diploma, which has a certain influence on the world outlook, outlook on life and values of a few students. They have unclear learning objectives, incorrect learning attitudes and no interest in learning cultural knowledge. Love leisure and hate work, easily influenced by complex social environment and even bad atmosphere, addicted to internet cafes, game rooms, smoking, fighting, fighting, puppy love, disappointing parents' expectations, parents can do nothing.