Middle-aged women's pressure: the husband doesn't care, the daughter needs money for school, and the husband's family has me to support the elderly. what do you think?

Life is alive, and all beings suffer.

Aunt Ming is a 46-year-old middle-aged woman She is outspoken, quick-thinking and has a bad temper. She can win a little thing, but she is also kind-hearted. She likes to cry when she sees someone suffering and is willing to help.

Aunt Ming's bad temper is only aimed at her husband. She often said that she and her husband were enemies in their previous lives, so there will be many disagreements in this life, because they are really two completely different tempers.

Her husband is a broad-minded person, and it doesn't matter what he does. Making money depends on his mood. If Aunt Ming hadn't asked her relatives at home to find her husband a job pulling goods, she said that he couldn't wait to start supporting the elderly at the age of 40, watching TV and playing cards, and felt that life was wonderful.

This temper often drives Aunt Ming crazy. She often spits at him in front of outsiders, saying that if she is 10 years younger, she really wants a divorce, and now she is making do.

However, in my life, it should be like this. After marriage, all her illusions about a better life began to burst.

Because according to her own statement, after marriage, she really didn't have a good life.

She is always worried. She is busy with things at home and outside. Her husband would rather be scolded. Anyway, he just doesn't want to care about anything, as long as there is meat on the table.

Aunt Ming said that no matter what she said about him, he would not be angry. Anyway, he just doesn't talk, which is neither good nor bad.

Only when eating badly, as long as there is no meat for two days in a row, he likes to shake his face. Once, her husband dropped a bowl because he couldn't eat well for a week in a row.

When Aunt Ming talked about these things, she hated iron and sometimes choked: "Outsiders say he has a good temper. What's good about him? " Sometimes my blood pressure is high with anger. The doctor told him to follow me and not to argue with me. I feel that he wants me to die early so that no one can take care of him. "

Many people will persuade her that she thinks too much. Aunt Ming shook her head and said that she was selfish and only cared about herself, but he never cared about her.

02

A person's heart sometimes cools slowly bit by bit.

She said that once she caught a cold and stayed in bed for a day, her husband came in symbolically and asked her if she wanted something to eat. She said she couldn't eat any more, so her husband took the bowl and ate it himself, without a word of concern.

In fact, she is a sharp-tongued and cruel person. Although she often scolds her husband, she says that if he coughs a little at ordinary times, she will get him medicine, for fear that it will get serious after a long time.

After two people have been married for so many years, she really can't ignore it, but her husband is so big that nothing matters.

She is a stressful person with many ideas. She is always worried about all kinds of things in her mind. Her husband didn't understand her and said that she just liked daydreaming. No wonder she is in a bad mood every day.

Aunt Bi said that having such a neglected spouse is actually the first source of stress.

The second thing she worries about is her daughter, who is still in college and has to pay her living expenses every month. Because of poor family conditions, my daughter's tuition fees are all funded by her own student loan.

Aunt Ming said that she often felt sorry for her daughter, saying that they were useless and didn't give her a good family. After graduation, she will have a lot of hard work, and she must work hard by herself.

She is also worried about whether her daughter can find a job after graduating from college, and so on. She will talk to her husband about these things when she is upset.

Many times, her husband is staring at TV and won't answer her. She was really angry, turned off the TV, and then they began to whisper to each other again.

She said that her daughter needed money to go to school, but her family bought a house a few years ago and had no money. Her husband is in the county town for about 2000 a month, and he still feels good about himself. He said that there is no pressure in life, and he is the kind of person who trades one point for another.

Therefore, Aunt Ming will quietly save money by herself and dare not let her husband know. She said that if he knew he could have 10 thousand yuan at home, he wouldn't even want to go to work.

In this state, how can the pressure be small?

03

There is also a kind of pressure, from her husband's family, from her family. Although her husband still said that she was alarmist, Aunt Ming said that she should make more preparations.

Let's start with her husband's family. Aunt Ming's mother-in-law has four children, two sons and two daughters, both of whom are married and have a normal life. She usually comes back only once every two or three years, and gives her mother three or five hundred dollars by the way.

Her husband thinks he is a son, and his daughter should not be responsible for providing for the elderly. He prefers to be brave in everything under the banner of the head of the family.

Two years ago, my mother-in-law fell ill and agreed to share it equally with her two sons, but her husband insisted that she was the boss and should set an example and give hundreds of dollars more.

Aunt Ming said it wasn't about money. As a son, you should support the elderly, but the question is, what does this few hundred dollars have to do with you? Besides, during that time, she and her husband took care of them in the hospital. My brother's migrant workers didn't come back, and my sister-in-law also said that she had to go to work, only to visit occasionally.

Her husband insisted that she was a woman with long hair and short knowledge. She didn't understand these things, so she said, "Then don't come to me if you have no money."

Yes, there was no money at home, so she asked her husband what to do. Her husband spread out his hands: "Who am I going to ask?" Finally, she went to find a way.

Moreover, she has a bad relationship with her mother-in-law, because although her mother-in-law is not mean, she talks a lot and likes to express her opinions no matter what. She has a straightforward temper and often asks directly, "Mom, you are old, just mind your own business. You just need to wear warm clothes when you are full. Why do you say so much? "

Therefore, her mother-in-law is somewhat dissatisfied, and her husband thinks that she is not filial enough and only dares to whisper.

Rao is a big event that she never knows, just like her mother-in-law is ill, and she pays for it without saying a word. Her husband also said that she is a woman's soft nature.

Followed by her family, Aunt Ming's parents have five children, three daughters and two sons. She is the third child and the one with the worst family condition among the five children.

Their brothers and sisters are United as one. Aunt Ming usually has difficulties, and they have not helped less. That's why she feels useless.

04

On the issue of parents supporting the elderly, Aunt Ming's other four brothers and sisters have the same attitude: "Parents raised us and never said that they were partial to anyone, so we will solve the problem of supporting the elderly together."

Moreover, if you really count, Aunt Ming has the least money.

She said that the eldest sister at home often pays for all kinds of furniture for her parents, and she never takes the initiative. On one visit, she asked her father when he bought a new refrigerator at home. Her father just said that the boss bought it.

Last year, my father went to the hospital once, and finally each family paid nearly 2000 yuan. Her father also knew that her family was in a bad condition and quietly returned the money to her. He also said not to tell anyone, but he didn't pay anyone back.

In fact, her father has his own pension, but his children are filial and he is willing to accept it. Aunt Ming said that there are five children. In fact, except for her, everyone thinks that providing for the elderly for their parents is a small amount and should be done.

Only she will silently haggle over every ounce in it, mainly worried about lack of money, but she doesn't want to express it. She said, "They are all children. I have no reason to be an exception. Is it meaningful for you to be poor? "

And because the bride's family is a child, her husband still has a problem, saying that her father has money but is unwilling to take it out and will not give it to his son in the future.

She usually doesn't bother to explain. She said, "If you scold him, he doesn't say anything, and the world will be quiet." So her temper will get worse in front of her husband.

Every family has a hard time. Aunt Ming's marriage is an unfortunate combination of all kinds of daily necessities, but Rao's life still has to go on, and she has never thought about divorce.

Who doesn't complain and try their best to make a living?