Children always apologize to me. Tell me about it.

Children take the initiative to admit their mistakes, and parents can respond to these three sentences:

First, "Great! You are an honest boy. "

Praise the children, of course.

Praise is an affirmation for children. When a child voluntarily admits his mistake, in this case, one thing many parents will do is to praise the child: "You are great, you are really an honest child."

Second, "you are a great boy and can admit your mistakes on your own initiative."

Some parents will not only praise their children, but also use praise to motivate them. They will say, "You are a great kid, and you can admit your mistakes on your own initiative."

Encouragement and praise are not the same concept. The core word of praise is "great, you are great, you are really a good boy", and the core word of encouragement should point to the key of behavior-"take the initiative to admit mistakes". When parents explicitly give their children the core word of "take the initiative to admit mistakes", they give their children encouragement.

Encourage children to continue to "admit their mistakes" next time. If you keep up with the sweet smile, hug and kiss the baby, and let the baby know that admitting mistakes is very lovely and great, you can solidify the courage of the child to admit mistakes.

Third, "Good boy, can you tell me what you thought at that time?"

Educated mothers can also say to their children, "My mother is particularly touched that you can take the initiative to admit your mistake. But this is not the happiest thing for my mother. My mother's happiest thing is to listen to you analyze why she made mistakes and talk about her thoughts at that time. "

This is modeling. Guide children to observe their own hearts and start thinking. If we do well, we will see a child who is reflecting and analyzing.

Listen to the children "talk about their thoughts at that time" and test their parents' oral communication ability (guide the children to speak through several key questions). In fact, most children will instinctively choose to escape and cover up after making mistakes. Their cautious eyes are full of fear of parents' punishment and shyness and dissatisfaction with their mistakes.

When a child voluntarily admits his mistake, he will feel risky, so parents must give positive and warm feedback at the first time, so that the child can get affirmation and encouragement, and he will understand that the expected punishment will not come, and he is safe and brave. Hey, that's amazing! At this time, the child will instantly have a satisfied mental balance.

Guiding children to "talk about their thoughts at that time" immediately broke the good mood that children had just been content with contentment, and most of them had no patience or mind to cooperate. They often say absently:

"I didn't think about anything at the time."

"I don't know what I think."

"I don't know the way."

The child began to perfunctory you!

Do parents still want their children to sum up, think, reflect and sort out as expected? To guide children to think, we only need to ask the following three key questions-the sunflower book of successful communication with children is coming:

1. Ask the child "What was thinking at that time" first, and then experience "What was thinking at that time" with the child;

2. Help children recall the scene where things happened;

Finally, be sure to clearly prove "Oh, you think so".

In fact, this is to build a thinking model for children. Of course, modeling can't be done overnight, and it is unlikely to work under a guidance. Children's good behavior and good thinking habits are the result of parents' habitual patient listening and wise guidance.