Tomb-Sweeping Day's customs and bad habits?

Tracing back to the source, Qingming "Swallows come to Chunshe, after Qingming in pear flower falls." April 5th of the Gregorian calendar is Tomb-Sweeping Day, also known as the Youth Day. It is said that it began with the "tomb sacrifice" ceremony of ancient emperors and generals, and later people followed suit and became a fixed custom of the Chinese nation to worship ancestors and sweep graves on this day. Because the festival is very long, there are two kinds of sayings: the first eight days and the last eight days and the first ten days and the last ten days. It's Tomb-Sweeping Day these days. During this festival, people will pay homage to the graves of their ancestors to remember their thoughts. To talk about Tomb-Sweeping Day, we should start with a very famous ancient festival-Cold Food Festival. The Cold Food Festival originated from the ancient system of drilling for novelty. Because of different seasons, the ancients used different trees to drill fires, which is the custom of making fires in different seasons. And every time you change the fire, you have to change it with a new one. People are forbidden to make a fire until a new one comes. The Cold Food Festival has the custom of going to the grave, and if there is a grave, there must be a tomb sacrifice. Later, because it merged with the custom of evoking souls in March, it was gradually decided to sacrifice on cold food. Because Tomb-Sweeping Day was angry on the third day of cold food, later generations gradually moved the custom of cold food to Qingming with the passage of time. Tomb-Sweeping Day's customs are rich and interesting. In addition to prohibiting fire from sweeping graves, there are a series of customs and sports activities such as jogging, swinging, cuju, polo and willow insertion. According to legend, this is because Tomb-Sweeping Day wants to ban cold food and fire. In order to prevent the harm of cold food and cold meal to people, we all take part in some sports activities to exercise. Therefore, this festival is a distinctive festival, with sad and sour tears to sweep the new grave and laughter for an outing. It is not only a national custom, but also the human nature of civilized sacrifice to pay homage to the ancestors to sweep the graves and cherish their memory. However, in recent years, there have been more and more grave sweeping tactics in some places. Someone asked the fairy witch to pray for the virtue of her ancestors and seek shade for her children and grandchildren; Some people sell small paper figures, mostly fashionable women, saying that they want to "give some romance to the elderly"; Some people feel that they don't have enough money and have to make a "deposit slip". The bank presidents and vice presidents who issued certificates of deposit are actually Jade Emperor and Yamaraja; In addition, in order to show filial piety, they spend thousands of dollars to renovate their ancestral graves ... According to a survey, the cost of a family's grave sweeping is between 150 and 450 yuan. Because the concept of feudalism is deeply rooted in some people's minds, once in Tomb-Sweeping Day, some uncivilized ways of burning paper money and mingbi can be seen everywhere. Others believe that what our ancestors enjoyed in the world and what they did not enjoy in the "underworld" are equally indispensable. This twisted vanity and extravagant desire are at work, which makes our traditional folk customs mixed with decadent and vulgar things. It is a kind of affection and a tradition for Tomb-Sweeping Day to mourn his deceased relatives. It should be preserved, but at the same time, it is necessary to get rid of superstitious and unscientific sacrifice methods and sweep away traditions. We should advocate a civilized and healthy way of worship in line with the characteristics of the times, so that people's traditional habits and good wishes of worshipping their ancestors can be fully expressed. For example, using flowers to pay homage to ancestors, not burning paper money and setting off firecrackers, and offering a bunch of flowers to the grave are civilized, elegant, safer and less prone to fire; Sweep and hang at sea, pinning the grief of ancestors on the vast sea; Planting trees for sweeping, planting commemorative saplings, the yearning for ancestors can be extended from the vibrant green trees; Online sacrifice, in the online memorial hall, the mourning for ancestors is stored in a virtual world with infinite time and eternity in space; "A person is a stranger in a foreign land and misses his relatives on holidays." People thousands of miles away, on this day in Tomb-Sweeping Day, can take their wives and children to the suburbs or home to decorate sacrificial supplies, hoping to sacrifice at home. This can not only avoid the fatigue of long-distance running, but also avoid the wind of "bus ancestor worship". Tomb-Sweeping Day, a native of Zhoushan, passed the Qingming custom in various places and went to the grave to pay homage to his ancestors, commonly known as going to the grave. Lao Dinghai's offerings when he went to the grave have a characteristic. Many dishes are cold dishes, as well as Qingming special snacks-green cakes and striped cakes, which can be eaten cold. It can be seen that although the custom of the Cold Food Festival has long declined, its spirit remains in the Qingming diet custom and lasts for a long time. In Tomb-Sweeping Day, southern Fujian, every family gets up early, prepares incense sticks, cooks bowls of vegetable rice (or uses three offerings of wine) to worship their ancestors. At noon, the custom of offering sacrifices to Gong Zu will be carried out. Most places of worship in Gong Zu are "ancestral temples" and "family temples" between towns and communities. All descendants of Ding and above (married) can enter the temple to enjoy the feast. My parents in my hometown also took this time to discuss the necessary matters of the temple fair, so they decided that this day was the most important one. Tomb-Sweeping Day, an old Shanxi folk song, "The drizzle in Tomb-Sweeping Day makes people sad, the wild flowers in the desert bloom, and the sacrifices at hand are shoveled on their shoulders", which vividly summarizes people's mood and characteristics at that time. In spring, people repair houses to prevent rain leakage in summer. When the living are associated with the dead, graves in the fields often collapse after the wind and rain. The biggest feature of going to the grave on Qingming Festival is to eradicate weeds in the grave and raise the grave with new soil, which is customarily called repairing the yin house, showing the grief of children and grandchildren for their ancestors. In Tomb-Sweeping Day, people in the south of Shanxi want to steam steamed buns with walnuts, red dates and beans, which is called Zifu. With the blessings of sons and grandchildren, they all bring the blessings of their ancestors. Every family should make bean jelly, cut it into thin slices and eat it with soup. Shovel withered grass and rub it on the kang mat, which is called driving scorpions away. In the southeast of Shanxi, people have willow branches and dead leaves on their heads. Women should stick gold ornaments (headdresses) on their temples. In northern Shanxi, it is customary to have black bean sprouts, which are eaten with corn bread and black bean sprouts stuffing. Northwest Shanxi pays attention to making cakes with millet flour, commonly known as "spreading Huang Er", and Luliang area will receive a female husband the day after Tomb-Sweeping Day, commonly known as "fresh fire".