What kinds of children are least liked by school teachers?

If you are the parents of kindergarten children, do you often get calls or WeChat from teachers, saying that your children are running around the classroom without discipline, don't take a nap at noon, and always grab toys with children ... In short, you can't stop for a week.

Some parents are simple and straightforward. As soon as the teacher responded, they went home and beat up and explained the truth, and then the children stayed for several days. However, in less than a week, the teacher's complaint came again, which was really a headache.

Whenever parents hear the teacher say that their children's grades are poor, I believe they must be in a bad mood, both distressed by their children and anxious about how to deal with them. Why do lively and lovely babies at home become unwelcome children when they arrive at kindergarten?

Let's look at a study on children's communication. According to social status, children are divided into five types:

Popular children

Rejected children

Contradictory child

Neglected children

Ordinary children

It is worth parents' attention that "rejected children" and "neglected children" are collectively called "unwelcome children". The research suggests that parents should intervene "unwelcome children" in time to prevent the children's social status from being fixed and even developing into adults for a long time, resulting in more social deviance behaviors.

Therefore, parents need to adopt appropriate and effective educational strategies to help their children establish good behavior habits and integrate them into the kindergarten environment as much as possible.

The study also pointed out that children are the least welcome in kindergartens:

1, the mysterious lone ranger

An unsociable baby is often easily overlooked by other children. Whether in class or playing games, babies don't like to participate, but only like to play by themselves.

2. Losers with high self-esteem

These babies are very competitive, and it is easy to "lose" when playing games, which will make other children feel bored. Over time, I don't want to play with TA.

3. Bullies in the Garden

Selfish, overbearing and willful children like to dominate toys when playing. If there is a slight conflict, you will lose your temper and even hit people. Other children will stay away from TA.

4. Princess who loves to show off

I like to show off my little toys or my new clothes in front of other children, and children don't like it either.

5. The teacher's favorite

Some babies are very clingy, often clingy to their parents at home, always clingy to their teachers in kindergarten, and often spoil themselves, which makes other children very unhappy.

What should parents do if your child has a similar situation and is no longer popular in kindergarten?

1) Find a teacher to understand the situation and do a good job in family communication.

Parents should calm down first. Teachers tell parents that their children's grades are not good, which shows that teachers still care about their children. They also hope that parents can work together with teachers and that their children's grades can be improved.

Parents should learn more about their children's situation in kindergarten from the teacher, so that on the one hand, it is more targeted when they go home to communicate with their children, and at the same time, they are conveying their attitude as parents to the teacher-taking the initiative to assume the educational responsibility of their children.

2) Ask your child patiently why, and be persuasive.

Parents should not rush to criticize their children when they get home, let alone beat them up. However, when children always do something wrong, what parents can do is to let their children know that no matter who TA meets and how many mistakes TA has made, parents will always understand and love TA.

No matter how big your child's mistake is, you must listen to his explanation first. After listening, discuss the right and wrong things with your child, understand the child's emotions at that time, and guide the child to put himself in the shoes and reflect on his behavior.

Parents can let their children be teachers and parents be children and children through role-playing, and restore the process of the incident again, so that children can understand the teacher and understand that their behavior is inappropriate.

Next, we should continue to guide him and teach him correct solutions, especially expression and communication. Role-playing can be used again, so that children can play it themselves and parents can cooperate to repeat the event process. Children can try to deal with it in a new way, and parents can act out several reactions of children or teachers, so that children can find more solutions in practice.

In the process of discussion, if it is found that the teacher has misunderstood something and the child has been wronged, parents can tell the child that it is inevitable that the teacher will take care of so many children every day. Maybe he was in a hurry or didn't see it. Mom (dad) will explain it to the teacher. Instead of criticizing the teacher in front of the children, parents will set an example to understand the teacher, and the children will learn to respect and tolerate.

3) Family education and joint efforts to cultivate children's good habits.

Take the initiative to report your communication with your children to the teacher to see if you can "tailor-made" personalized education programs for your children through close cooperation between home and school to help them develop good behavior habits.

At home, we should also cultivate children's awareness of rules, formulate reward and punishment rules, and encourage children to behave correctly, such as respecting elders, being polite to children, sharing and obeying rules ... praise must be timely.

In a word, parents are the best teachers for children. In the process of children's growth, it is more from parents' words and deeds. Face up to children's current bad performance, guide children to make efforts to improve, even a little progress is encouraged, always believe in children and believe in yourself.