How do you know the mentality of "smelly beauty"?

Send WeChat to ask friends who are doing Amway to send a dish and toothpaste. She asked if there was anything urgent, and I said it was not urgent. Send it at your convenience. She said that she does skin care, and she can send it as soon as she can finish it in time. When I saw her doing skin care, the first word that came to mind was "smelly beauty".

The word "smelly beauty" flashed through my mind, which surprised me. That day, I saw my daughter's nails painted with transparent nail polish. I severely criticized her and said, "A high school student should concentrate on his studies. What's the use of bragging? " ! "If her father hadn't said," Keep it. It's normal for a little girl to love beauty. "I threw the nail polish she secretly bought for herself into the trash can.

This is probably one of my fixed patterns! Because I replied a "smelly beauty" to my friend, I remembered this scene that just happened at home two days ago.

Because I was disciplined and bound by my parents since I was a child, I am used to facing the sky. I basically don't wear high heels, hardly wear makeup or powder, and I haven't been to a beauty salon (except eyebrow trimming). Until now, I have baked my hair a little yellow for fear that my father would judge it as "fried". In my third year of work, she did her own perm. Before dawn, she was called by my father to straighten her hair. She likes beautiful shoes, and there are more than a dozen shoe boxes under the bed, so my dad pulled them out for an exhibition. ...

Born in a "revolutionary soldier" family, it seems that we should carry forward the "glorious tradition of hard work and plain living" at home.

In such a tutor environment, I developed my own "dullness" in beauty. As a result, there are still two-thirds bottles of perfume I bought in duty-free shops when I traveled abroad four years ago. The BB cream brought back from Korea three years ago has not been opened yet, and less than half of the olive oil lip gloss bought in Spain two years ago is used. Oh, the most used cosmetic is hand cream, which costs about seven or eight yuan all year round.

It is easy for people to ask others according to their own "standards", but they often don't think about whether that "standard" is extremely correct. You can't ask outsiders, just ask your own children. For example, I use my father's standards to ask my daughter. Once I saw her using my foundation cream, I gave her a white look and said that little girls don't need makeup, and they only need makeup at the age of 25. ...

Look! "You don't need makeup until you are 25" is the so-called common sense printed in my mind when I glance at newspapers or magazines. I don't know if there is any scientific reason.

Although sometimes she doesn't refute, I can see that she is not convinced. She doesn't wear nail polish at home, so she will inevitably use her classmates at school, even if she only dyes a small nail. I did this when I was seventeen or eighteen.

Earlier, she asked me to take her for a perm. This summer, she wanted to cut bangs and "iron the air bangs", so I refused: just concentrate! Focus on studying more! Students should behave like students ... Come on, come on, give them a scolding. Before, at her repeated request, I took her to perm a wavy hair curl, which was found by my parents and scolded me.

Everyone has a love of beauty. It is a woman's nature to love beauty. Shouldn't a mother respect and care for a growing girl's love of beauty? ! Suddenly I feel that what I insist on is wrong.

I was wrong!

Once I watched TV and forgot which program it was. A girl graduated with a master's degree and couldn't find a boyfriend. She never pays attention to dressing up. Her mother was in a hurry and signed her up for a program to transform her image. She regrets that when she was a girl, she only emphasized learning and grades, but did not cultivate her daughter's aesthetic taste.

The image designer helped the girl take care of it from head to toe, and once again made a stunning appearance. The image temperament directly improved a few squares, just like a different person. It can be seen that "clothes make the horse lean on the saddle", which makes sense.

I once attended a friend's wedding and saw that the bride didn't even trim her eyebrows. I know that the bride graduated from a famous science university, and getting married on such an important life occasion always seems to show her most beautiful side. (This is also an inherent mode of thinking. ) The girl's mother was also at the wedding. Now, at first glance, she looks like an unpretentious aunt. And I, an outsider, look at the bride who can't even repair her eyebrows, and even feel sorry for her.

I came across a passage: a family that "suppresses children's love of beauty" often associates "love of beauty" with "doing nothing" and distorts love of beauty into an "evil" view, which will make girls feel ignorant and guilty, and even the natural development of physiology will make girls feel ashamed.

I was wrong!

As an ordinary person who doesn't need to rely on his face to eat, I don't think it is necessary to consume 700 masks a year like Fan Bingbing, but it is necessary to do skin care and beauty. Just as I have to trim my hair once every twenty days and once a month, regular skin care and beauty treatment is also a way for people to relax and get beautiful.

With such a thought, I actually figured out the matter of painting my daughter's nail polish. Probably, I still need to take the initiative to ask her: Do you want to cut the bangs neatly and iron the wind?

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