marriage customs

In the past, in Guanzhong, marriage depended on parents' life and burning coal. Young marriages are particularly popular. When the baby is 12 or 13 years old, the parents entrust the matchmaker to get engaged to the baby (the local male baby is called Zhan's daughter-in-law, and the female baby is called Xun advocate). After the young married-Dan ordered, both sides can't go back on our word at will. With the development of society, there are fewer and fewer early marriages.

When the doll grows up. Free love requires only a middleman to introduce you. After the engagement, the two sides agreed on an auspicious day to get married. The man decorates the new house and the woman prepares the dowry.

In the past, wedding ceremonies were very complicated. When getting married, the man went to seven people (6 men/kloc-0 women), pulled a box and carried a basket, which contained 5 Jin of pork, a rooster, a bottle of wine and a red post, and sent the red post to the woman's house, and the woman hosted a banquet.

When the bride gets on the float, she is usually carried by her brother. Her shoes don't touch the ground, and her feet don't touch the soil. When she is on the road, she puts on a road sticker (cut it into small pieces with red stickers to guide her to walk). There are female guests in the woman's house, generally depending on the number of relatives. Most of them are between 40 and 50 people. When the float arrives at the man's house, it sets off firecrackers and pours a bowl of vinegar around the float, which is called ward off evil spirits. At this time, the groom went out to meet the car.

After the bride got off the bus, the deacon sprinkled straw on the bride's veil and read the following words: first, sprinkle grass, second, third, sprinkle daughter-in-law to get off the sedan chair; One sprinkled gold, one sprinkled silver, and the third sprinkled daughter-in-law into the door. The bride got off the float and stepped on the reed mat, accompanied by the man's sister-in-law to the bridal chamber. Then the man opened breakfast and shyly invited relatives and friends to eat noodles.

At noon, after several gunshots, the newly married wife, accompanied by her sister-in-law, went to the front of the hall to pay homage. Generally, one worships heaven and earth, two worships parents, three worships couples and four worships relatives and friends. After the service, there will be a luncheon with food and wine as the main food.

After dinner, the bride and groom entered the bridal chamber, and a glib middle-aged woman made the bed, saying, make the bed, make the bed, there are a room full of children and grandchildren, your son and a young girl; Wealth is both good and good, and it will always be auspicious.

Marriage, the ceremony is greatly simplified. The man took a red envelope (containing different amounts of money) and went to pick up the bride by car. After the lively daughter-in-law, the bride and guests came to the man's house, and then held a civilized wedding: firecrackers were set off, witnesses read marriage certificates, bowed to both parents and guests, parents and guests talked, introduced love stories to the couple, and sent them into the bridal chamber.

When the couple introduce their love story, everyone likes to ask some tough and interesting questions to answer, which makes the atmosphere more joyful and warm.

After three days of marriage, the bride will go back to her mother's house and call back. Accompanied by the groom, he carried a basket of 20 steamed buns.

At lunch, a woman with the status of a sister-in-law deliberately made things difficult for the groom. The first bowl of minced meat noodles is very salty. Put it in front of the groom and eat it honestly. No matter how salty it is, they have to bite the bullet and eat it. Smart people will find a topic and hand this bowl to their father-in-law.

As soon as my father-in-law felt salty, he told his daughter Rui to leave, and my sister-in-law's plan fell through.

After dinner, the women in the village began to want a son-in-law. Those sisters-in-law put grass rings on the groom's head one by one, and the groom should not only smile kindly, but also hide diplomatically. Honest, often with four or five on his head. The purpose of this custom is to test whether the groom is smart. Marriage customs in Guanzhong, Shaanxi Province. Maybe many people don't know the difference between Shaanxi and Guanzhong. The territory of Shaanxi is irregular, long from north to south and short from east to west. Shaanxi can be divided into three parts, namely, northern Shaanxi, Guanzhong and southern Shaanxi. The general boundaries are as follows: the north of National Highway 309 and the area along it are called northern Shaanxi; Their cities are Yan 'an, Yulin, Shenmu and Tongchuan. South of National Highway 309, north of Qinling Mountain becomes Guanzhong. Their cities are Xi, Xianyang, Baoji and Weinan. The south of Qinling Mountain is called southern Shaanxi; Their cities are Hanzhong, Shangluo and Ankang. Just like the north and south of our country, it is generally bounded by the Yangtze River.

In fact, even in Guanzhong, the marriage customs are different, but they are basically the same. This is the marriage custom in Xianyang countryside.

The whole day of marriage can be divided into three parts: marrying the bride, treating friends and making trouble in the bridal chamber. According to local customs, relatives and friends of the bride's family will attend the banquet at the groom's house. So after the wedding, they will pick up their in-laws. Usually the groom will definitely go. Cars have also been replaced by buses. Usually, the bride's more expensive or difficult dowry items will be taken to the groom's house in advance (such as washing machine, etc.). ), and until the wedding day, it was empty cardboard boxes. Basically, the furniture used for wedding in Guanzhong is bought by the groom's family, and the electrical appliances are all owned by the bride, which has to mention another custom. One of the eight eccentrics in Guanzhong, wearing a handkerchief on his head. For a long time, the old ancestor left the custom of playing handkerchiefs, that is, after the car that picked up his family came, everyone would rob it (including empty cartons), and then before lunch, her family would redeem it with handkerchiefs. In the meantime, there are many people to talk to and they can celebrate. It's hard to say, we can only go to the scene to feel the atmosphere. Before dinner, the bride will change clothes and go to the toilet (actually, going around). When she comes back, she usually passes a door. At this time, the groom's brother (not his own brother, but other friends) will scatter a chopstick on the ground and let the bride pick it up. This is called diligence. After picking up chopsticks, she will turn the plate upside down and buckle three in a big plate. One for steamed bread (meaning: never short of food), one for meat (meaning: never short of money) and one for money (meaning: never short of money). Some troublemakers just put some oil on the bottom of the bowl. It must be too slippery to turn it over by hand. Of course, it's nothing. Girls have clips, and then clip them up with clips.

It can basically start at sunset. Actually, it's nothing. Let's have a look at the new house and talk and laugh. There are many young people, and all kinds of tricks emerge one after another. I don't want to elaborate. If you have classmates and friends from Shaanxi, you can also go to see the excitement, which is quite interesting.

When the She people send bride price, there is a ceremony called "Roasting and Eating Lang". Chilang refers to the chef brought by the man to cook for the woman on the day of the bride price.

The bride's dress is: wearing a bun, silver ornaments, a lace shirt and trousers, a ribbon with 32 lines of Chinese characters woven around her waist, embroidered shoes, silver bracelets and rings.

The bride walked to the door of her husband's house and was greeted by firecrackers. Entering the nave, a girl with both parents took an umbrella, and the bride handed an "umbrella bag". The bride was led to the incense table by the matchmaker, and then sat in front of the chef's stove for a while. The ancestral incense table is set, the bride goes to the right of nave Station, and the groom stands on the left to worship. After seeing the bride, both husband and wife entered the new house.

On the seventh day, the bride and groom returned home with gifts and stayed at Yue's home for two to four nights. After returning to the house, both husband and wife began to work.

In the village of She nationality, the original marriage customs of She nationality are still preserved. The simple She people respect each other, love each other and live in harmony, weaving the vision of a better life with hardworking hands. This woman entertained guests on the first day of the wedding. Prepare the dowry in advance. In the past, dowry was usually wooden furniture, such as three-door cabinets, wardrobes, writing desks, dressing tables, braziers, wooden basins, tableware, bedding and so on. The conditions are also good. Generally speaking, dowry is refrigerator, air conditioner, washing machine, electric fan, combined furniture, etc. That night, the bride said goodbye to her mother and sister-in-law. When I get to my in-laws' home, I will talk about some basic knowledge such as filial piety to my in-laws, taking care of my husband, educating my children and housework.

This man is much more complicated. First of all, please invite two customers. An internal customer and an internal customer. The best candidate for Luto is: knowing the rules and being eloquent. Generally speaking, domestic customers should have prestige in the local area, know the rules and have the ability to organize and command. (Usually local cadres) Domestic customers are the commander-in-chief of the man's marriage, and even the master has to listen to him. A person with good handwriting should also be invited to take charge of the gift cabinet, as well as a number of bridesmaids (usually women) and assistants (table and bench cookers, cooks, boiling water, dowry porters, tray porters, red wine stews, etc. )

After breakfast, Lu Zhike led the bridesmaid and his wife on their way. When we go to the woman's house, the waiter gives the bride price to the man on the way (usually the woman's whole body clothes, shoes and socks, headscarves, cosmetics, clothes for the bride's parents, etc.). ). If the woman is dissatisfied with the bride price and insists on not getting engaged, the road attendant will say that if she doesn't do it well this time, your son-in-law will be filial in the future. Besides, the uncooked rice is ready, and we have to go. The woman had to agree to send the bride and let her go with her. "Ten miles is different from customs". The rule of Zhushan is that the bride's brother carries her out. The long wedding procession set off. Usually bridesmaids send one person to lead the way, and the bride takes the second place, followed by bridesmaids, bridesmaids and dowry.

When the bride arrived home, firecrackers greeted her. The guests were arranged to take refuge in a neighbor's house. "Go to be a guest" and "go home" after lunch. When a man starts a wedding ceremony, the bride and groom will naturally have a similar game of eating apples. After the ceremony, the bride was sent to the bridal chamber, and the older generation of young people poured into the new house to have a "noisy room". Some begged the bride to give fruit snacks, and some touched red eggs under the bed. After the meal, they held a banquet and drank "private room wine". Custom in Xixiang, Fangxian County: A newly married couple toasted the guests in turn with a hip flask. When they pay tribute to a guest, the guest should make a topic for the bride and groom and ask them to repeat their "four words and eight sentences". These "four words and eight sentences" are mostly dizzy jokes related to "sex", which are implicit but not too explicit. The purpose is to let the bride and groom get rid of shyness and enter the role as soon as possible after entering the bridal chamber. Guests won't drink until the bride tells them. The guests at the dinner table choose several people to form a "wine evaluation Committee" to evaluate the value of several bowls of wine according to the degree of "four words and eight sentences" and "dizziness" If the guests don't drink, the bride will hold her ears and pour it into her mouth. It was not until the guests were as drunk as a fiddler that the host and guest got along well.

The next morning, I wanted to eat noodles for the first time. Relatives took out the fruits prepared in advance for the bride to identify. The bride said dates (meaning early birth) and peanuts (meaning a man and a woman). She also smeared pot ash on the flamethrower, and let the bride blow the pig food jar, leaving a black circle on her mouth, which caused laughter. The local rule is that "the new girl can be big or small in three days", and anyone can joke with her, but the bride can't be angry and can only be pushed around. Shiyan people in the mountains have special customs and more distinctive wedding customs. There are many trees here, and there are not many opportunities for young men and women to know each other. Marriage is mainly introduced by matchmakers. When choosing the wedding date, the man should give the woman a hanging basket and other gifts, including one or two pieces of cloth for her future in-laws, which is called parents' cloth.

Weddings are usually held after autumn or during the Spring Festival, and it is customary to drum the bride in the middle of the night. On the day of visiting relatives and friends, the groom will give the bride sesame candy wheat cake, which is called wedding cake, and specially make a pair of parents' cakes for parents-in-law to show filial piety. The bride should bring her sewn cloth shoes to meet the groom's parents and the main relatives of her husband's family. Before the bride gets on the sedan chair, she scatters a pair of chopsticks on the floor of her family, symbolizing the early birth of her son. After the ceremony, the bride and groom can't sleep together, but sit with each other until dawn. It is said that the love between husband and wife can last long. The next day, the groom's family gave a banquet to entertain the guests, and after the horn played a farewell song, it was over. Young men and women of Mulao nationality have always been free to fall in love. Besides getting to know each other in festivals, parties and fairs, the main ways of love are spreading songs and making friends by answering questions. The climbing season is March in spring and August in autumn. Young people are dressed up, and men and women go to the market to find singing partners. After finding a satisfactory opponent, I invited him to start a duet on the lawn on a beautiful hillside. Take songs as the medium, ask and answer questions, be satisfied with each other, and give each other tokens. Finally, let the matchmaker inform the parents to determine the wedding date. The matchmaker was asked by the man first. If the woman's family agreed, she would give her daughter's birthday to the matchmaker and hand it over to the man. After receiving the woman's horoscope, the man's parents thought it was consistent with his son's horoscope, and the marriage was basically completed.

On the wedding day, many places have the custom of setting up song cards. The man and his party went to the woman's village to pick up relatives, and they had to sing and answer questions before they could enter the bride's house through the song card. Similarly, when the woman sends the wedding procession to the men's village, she has to answer a question song before she can enter the groom's house. Sometimes people who sing from morning till night crowd around to watch the fun. Finally, if you can't answer, ask yourself and answer, or your parents will come forward to sing a reconciliation song and announce the end of the bar door song. In a long conversation, the host should provide delicious food and drinks to the guests to ensure that the guests are energetic and full of emotions.

After the bride enters the room, there will be karaoke bars in many places, that is, a competition song will be put inside and outside the bridal chamber, and men and women will sing and answer. At the climax, cheers, laughter and ringtones become the best places for young people to show their talents.