If you say that I am wrong, you'd better prove that you are right first.

My new senior invited me to dinner. During the dinner, I talked about all kinds of discomfort after the first job-hopping-the new leader A is very strict with his subordinates. As a workaholic, Leader A is hands-on, exhausted, and always strict with himself, and extends this strictness to colleagues and subordinates around him. A few days ago, my senior sent a carefully written research report to the leader, and the evaluation was four words: "A mess".

The young school sister is puzzled. In fact, my school sister, who is excellent at school, is an excellent employee in all aspects. During the dinner, my sister said angrily: "When writing the report, I consulted the information of many models in the industry in recent years, and put forward many novel ideas based on my own work experience, which is more serious than writing my graduation thesis. After all, I haven't been in the business for a long time, and I dare not say how good the writing must be, but the evaluation of' a mess' is too frustrating. "

"Leaders have high demands on employees, which is a good thing! Strict teachers make excellent students! Please ask the leader more, modify it according to his guidance, and it will be written. "

"I'm never afraid of criticism. It would be nice if the leader modified it for me; Surprisingly, my report was submitted to my superiors intact, without changing a word. Higher authorities spoke highly of it and published it in internal publications. So, I don't know if my report is good now; If good, but where ... "

I advised a few words, but my sister was still depressed; But it can only be accepted. As adults, we should face setbacks and negative criticism in the workplace. Only teenagers will cry for unsatisfactory exam results.

Her heart mainly lies in the evaluation of the word "chaos". Perhaps, her leadership is based on the starting point of "good medicine tastes bitter, advice is hard to hear", and she thinks that young people should praise less and beat and scold more; However, for my sister, this kind of "bitterness" is hard to get. Because the leader of the senior sister didn't explain the reason of "chaos" except a general "chaos", and didn't give any substantive suggestions and guidance. This kind of negative evaluation, which is completely unconstructive, makes the senior completely "ignorant".

So, what is the significance of such a "bad review"?

02

In fact, I can feel the distress and hesitation of my sister who is also engaged in writing. From my first job to now, my specific work has been related to document drafting; We are busy with various reports, leaders' speeches, plans at the beginning of the year, and annual summaries, which are also commonly known as "writing materials in the office". Speaking of official document writing, some people may disagree: official document writing is actually some "routines", just follow the format and template. ...

As far as my seven-year working experience is concerned, it is not easy to write a smooth, concise, well-worded and well-organized official document. Like any work related to writing, official document writing in government agencies requires high comprehensive abilities such as knowledge reserve, logical thinking, social experience and writing skills.

"Rome was not built in a day", and "penholder" can not be practiced in a day; Besides knowledge storage, repeated practice and skill refinement are equally important for any type of writing.

Fortunately for my sister, at the beginning of my work, I met a teacher who was very meticulous, patient and generous to young people. That is a very kind sister, who taught me to enter the industry and took me on the road. I remember that my first task after joining the company was to write application materials for excellent grass-roots XX organizations. In order to get the recognition of leaders and colleagues as soon as possible, I also devoted my enthusiasm and patience to writing my graduation thesis. Not only did I consult and refer to many application materials from previous years and other brother units, but I also learned more about the relevant work of grassroots organizations in my unit. Three thousand words, five revisions, and finally handed the report to the master.

I have always been quite satisfied with my writing skills, and I am waiting for her approval and praise. But to my surprise, three days later, after fully recognizing my work attitude, my sister returned the carefully revised application materials to me. When I opened it, I couldn't help but feel ashamed-my sister used traditional modification methods and symbols, and filled my material paragraphs with notes in red pen; As long as there is anything wrong with the wording, content and tone, my sister points it out to me one by one, even punctuation marks.

What moved me even more was that my sister wrote me a comment at the end of the article, just like a Chinese teacher correcting a composition. She first affirmed my correct attitude towards the job of official document writing, and then emphatically pointed out the problems and details that I should pay attention to in my future writing. Classification, concise, full of "dry goods" realized by a writing material worker for many years.

It was with her tireless advice and encouragement that I quickly entered the "door" of official document writing; Until today, I will think of my sister who gave me pertinent advice and encouragement. At that time, I was quite complacent about "three thousand words". In the eyes of a senior secretary writer like her, it is probably naive and full of loopholes. But she didn't give me a "bad review", not even a "middle review"; At the same time, her praise for me is not a perfunctory and omnipotent "default praise", but something I need to improve. Based on the principle of encouraging and caring for young people, she gives pertinent and objective suggestions in different categories, not only exceeding "20 words", but also with "pictures". This is a "good buyer" that many sellers can't wait!

A good leader and a good teacher probably use similar methods; Not only point out the right and wrong of students and subordinates, but more importantly, tell ta what is right and why. Dad once told me an interesting thing about his work when he was young: when he was young, he was the deputy director of the county party Committee office in my hometown, in charge of secretarial work; In that era when there was no computer and I didn't know what Baidu was, he and several uncles used the most primitive way to do newspaper clippings and extract paragraphs to increase their knowledge reserves. A pen and a stack of manuscript paper are the most daily working conditions. After an uncle handed in his speech to the county leaders, he got a revised version, which only kept three words of his manuscript, that is, the opening remarks of the speech: comrades. What is commendable is that the busy county leaders revised the uncle's speech word for word, which is equivalent to rewriting it. The uncle was greatly shocked, and later he has been humbly asking the leader for advice; In the future, after he took the leadership position, he continued this way and personally brought out many excellent "pens".

03

Whether at work or in life, we are constantly being evaluated by others, and we often have to evaluate others. Decisions that determine the direction of life, such as finding a job and deciding which city to settle in; As small as which suit to wear to go out today, everyone makes a choice in their own way and decides what to eat at noon. If we need our evaluation, then what we can do is to respect others' choices and give a pertinent evaluation carefully; At the same time, make constructive suggestions for each other as much as possible; Instead of hiding behind, use "poison tongue" to show personality and "bad review" to set off correctness.

When I was a child, I practiced calligraphy with my neighbor's children. Today, although we all have a working-class family, both of whom are mothers, we all have the habit of writing a few words in our spare time. We can learn from each other occasionally. Whenever she takes photos of her own words and sends them to me, I sincerely give her better suggestions from the aspects of pen running, bookshelf structure, blank space, theme and layout of the whole word for her reference. I never jump to conclusions, let alone say, "How dare you show such words to others?" In that case, come on.

Because, between us, there is no need to hinder feelings and the world, and there is no need to get the "default praise" of sinners; And we also know that a simple "bad review" is meaningless if it can't help the other side make progress; Besides, my own handwriting is full of holes, just because I am "in this mountain" and can't see my limitations. Only by listening to other people's suggestions can we see the problem more clearly. In this kind of repeated discussion and criticism, our calligraphy level has also improved unconsciously.

04

There are probably a few people who are born with genius. Most successful people have climbed to the top of the pyramid through perseverance and strict self-discipline in their own fields.

Take writing as an example. Several friends I know are working tirelessly and silently after work. Even if you are denied and ridiculed, you will not give up.

A friend once received "goodwill" advice: "At your level, don't take the road of writing, no one will hire you to contribute ..."; What's more, some friends directly encounter indifferent "bad reviews" and sarcasm. Because there are always some people who are "good at" looking at other people's imperfections with a magnifying glass, and find reasons for their mediocrity by belittling and mocking others, and enjoy it.

Fortunately, the friends who were denied and ridiculed persisted in their initial intentions and moved forward step by step; Even if the prospect is a little confused and uncertain, even if the road is full of thorns.

The road is long and Xiu Yuan is awkward. When looking back, those once "poisonous tongues" and "bad reviews" have been left behind by their predecessors; Those who have no constructive negative opinions are at best just a trivial thorn in the road of thorns.

Michael Jackson, the king of pop, has a lyric in Scream:

This sentence, which has been hung on the QQ email login interface for a long time, is accompanied by several mouse pictures of Michael Jackson's classic dance.

With the music of metal, Michael and his sister Janet Jackson gave a series of boos and shouted in trembling voices.

The lyrics of this song are contempt for those who spy in secret, and are also war slogans for those who point fingers behind their backs and always use negative comments to find a sense of existence. As the king of pop music, Michael can shout such words to the whole world in the sharpest voice and show his ambition, heroism and self-confidence to fans all over the world.

No one can always be right; You can object to my point of view, please refute it!

You can say that I am wrong, but please prove yourself right; Please don't always stand in the shadows and point at me; You think throwing cold water will hurt my high morale. For such a timid person who uses "bad review" as a weapon, I will only leave you with an impassioned and enterprising figure.

This is a sentence that Michael shouted for us with his king's demeanor and self-confidence. "If you can't, don't yell, you can do it!" !