Drink less chicken soup for the soul, it's poisonous!

My best friend broke up with his lover for two years for the simple reason that he felt that his lover was bad and didn't love her.

What? I have been in this state since I heard the news!

In my impression, my best friend and her boyfriend are very suitable, with the same educational background, similar personality and hobbies, and even some conditions of the man (income, family, etc. ) are slightly better than her.

Usually, the man is more accommodating to her, and he also has small feelings, which can always satisfy the girl's heart of his girlfriend.

Although there have been small fights in the past two years, it is still much sweeter, but in this way, it was caught off guard and broke up!

I didn't know there were many dry Kun until I chatted with my best friend.

0 1. Don't drink toxic chicken soup.

My best friend resigned years ago and wanted to change to a better job after the year, but she was forced to take a long vacation at home because of the epidemic.

She has no other hobbies, but she likes to read some articles published by WeChat official account. In the past, she didn't have much time to read them because of her busy work.

I read a lot when I have time, paid new attention to some so-called emotional experts and read some so-called good articles.

People, the most unbearable thing is to compare, and the most fearful thing is to sit in the right position unconsciously.

This kind of poisoned chicken soup, I have seen many things that I think are ok. After repeated comparisons, small problems become big problems.

"Poisonous chicken soup" is very powerful here. The whole article will make people feel that everything is reasonable, but it makes you say it is wrong, as if you can't tell why.

If he loves you, he will accommodate you;

If he loves you, it should be such a reaction;

If he loves you, he shouldn't be like this;

……

So so, so so!

At first glance, everything is right, but after in-depth study, you will find that most of them are selling anxiety and fear.

Take advantage of the weakness of ordinary people and brainwash you that you should do this. If you can't achieve this effect, you are finished. If the other party can't do it, it is that he is wrong and he is not good.

It's hard to live, so why not find yourself unhappy?

How nice it is to be yourself!

02. Healthy reading in the era of fragmentation

At the moment when "fast" becomes the norm, people gradually get used to "fragmented" reading. Walking, hitchhiking, eating ... moving your fingers and simply sliding can be seen everywhere.

While anxious, I am eager to study and improve myself; On the one hand, I am stingy with my time ... so I slowly evolved into the person I am today.

But is this method really effective?

Knowledge capsule based on conclusion, fast books, spending the least time learning the most effective things, everything looks very attractive.

But in fact, haste makes waste!

When you think you have learned a lot, you will find that you have actually gained little or nothing. These fragmented things, the problems you actually need to solve, still exist.

03. Never be idle for too long.

Everyone has inertia!

A little sage is a blessing. If you stop properly and jump out of the original circle, you will see more things that you can't see in the prison.

Being idle for too long will destroy your will, reduce your thinking ability ... and become suspicious and sensitive. ...

Therefore, when an accident comes and you have to be free, you should learn to control yourself and make good use of your free time to enrich yourself.

For example, read more books and be optimistic about books (a good book here refers to a book that can improve your ability); Learn more, whether it's video learning or something else. ...

At the same time, you should also pay attention to exercise. On the one hand, it keeps you healthy. On the other hand, exercise can better regulate mood, relax mood and release pressure.

In short, drink less poisonous chicken soup. The world is far more wonderful than you think. It's not what others say. You should learn to see with your own eyes and feel with your own heart.