An old father's sadness: "I exhausted my family wealth for my son, and I didn't know I was wrong until I was lonely." what do you think?

In this world, there is no eternity. Everything has its own variables. If you place too high hopes on a thing or a feeling, the result is always not so satisfactory.

As for kinship, we often say that it is the most indestructible emotion in the world, because blood ties together, and endless words mean inheritance and hope.

But if the arrow of love is too downward and the upward love deviates, what will love return to those who forget to love themselves? This is a question, so there can be many answers.

Zheng Laohan, 72, said that he wanted to go to his daughter's house and was rejected. This is what he didn't expect. He often talks about the hardships of making money and raising big children. The chapped wound on his hand proves that he has suffered a lot for his three children.

His wife died young, and his last wish was to take care of his three children. Therefore, he never remarried. First, he doesn't want to find a stepmother for his children. Second, because of the drag of these three children, no one wants to remarry.

However, he remembered his suffering, but the three children didn't seem to remember it. Although it was repeatedly mentioned, it was still questioned by the eldest son: "Dad, at that time, the conditions at home were not good, and the villagers were all suffering, and we were not the only ones suffering."

He opened his mouth, trying to refute something, such as that he, a father and a mother, should work harder, but the children's hearts are not in this matter.

He talked too much, as if all three children were used to it, and thought it was nothing, so he simply stopped talking.

Zheng Laohan has never worried about his future. As the old saying goes, raise children to prevent old age. He hopes that his two sons can eat well when they are old.

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He imagined his life in old age. He said that the eldest son lived in the house for a year and the youngest son lived in the house for a year. In the middle, he can ask for leave to stay at his second daughter's house for a few days, which will make arrangements clearly.

But it is precisely because of this concept that there is a clear distinction between sons and daughters on the issue of providing for the aged, and the daughter is unwilling to accept him. Because my daughter said that she had two brothers, and it was not her turn to raise them.

In the process of raising these three children, Zheng Laohan is patriarchal. He always thinks that the water spilled by his married daughter belongs to others, no matter what, so he always pays more attention to his two sons.

In fact, it is only biased in some trivial matters. For example, there is not much delicious food at home, so Zheng Laohan lets his two sons eat it, and then the sons can't finish it before they have a daughter's share.

When his daughter was four years old, she knew: "Dad, you are biased, you are biased towards your brother and brother, and you are biased towards me."

After listening to this, Zheng Laohan only thought that this daughter was a little interesting and quite clever. He didn't explain and asked, "How is that father eccentric?" His daughter really talks a lot, which makes him laugh.

He thought it was a child's words and couldn't take it seriously. However, his little daughter has said these words for most of her life. She said, "Dad, you have always been partial to your brother and younger brother. Remember when I was four years old ... "

When Zheng Laohan listens, he will stop: "You just remembered all the bad things, why didn't you remember the good things of your father?" His daughter Shanshan stopped talking, stayed for a while and continued: "Anyway, you never counted on me, and now you want to count on me. I am not at ease. "

Therefore, he was refused to go to his daughter's house.

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If a father has a love and he gives it all to his son, then this son must know filial piety when he grows up: it is only natural that you raise me young and I raise you old.

However, if a father's love is given to two sons, how can the balance of love be balanced? Because if the balance is not good, the filial piety that should be there will trigger new complaints.

When Zheng Laohan was young, he didn't realize this problem. What he thinks is: they are all their own sons. Help whoever is in trouble. How can it be so clear? So he didn't expect that both his sons were dissatisfied with him.

Rao is Zheng Laohan's selfish interest in these two sons.

The eldest son was disobedient when he was young, spending more than he earned, and almost divorced his wife. Zheng Laohan naturally can't stand it, and often helps his eldest son's family.

Every time the eldest son comes back, he always stays at his house, eats at his house and takes money when he leaves. Zheng Laohan certainly doesn't feel distressed. He just told his son over and over again that he should be competitive and not break up the family.

Later, the eldest son really changed, lived a good life with his wife, and was willing to make money down to earth. Not long after, the younger son lost money because of business. Zheng Laohan was in a hurry. His youngest son asked him, and he borrowed money without hesitation.

The money is not so much borrowed as given. His son never thought about paying back the money he owed his father.

I didn't expect that in the end, Zheng Laohan was old, and the two sons actually got into a dispute because of those old things. The eldest son said that his father was eccentric to his brother, and the younger son said that his father was eccentric to his brother.

Because of this imbalance, they all feel that they have suffered a loss, and they all feel that they should give their father a pension. Only when Zheng Laohan felt sad as an old father: when he was young, he gave everything for his son, exhausted his family wealth, and became lonely when he was old, he realized that he was wrong at that time.

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Almost all the money he earned when he was young was subsidized by his two sons, so now he has little savings.

What he thinks and should see is that his two sons are competing to provide for his old age. After all, in his heart, the palms of his hands are full of meat. He has done so much for his two sons that they should feel it.

In the eyes of parents, there will always be such a thinking: I love my children the most. Then even if my children don't put me first, they should love me too much.

However, the fact tells Zheng Laohan that it is not. When children take their parents' efforts for granted, they will not be very grateful, but will find fault with their parents and only see the unfair side of this love.

As children, they always think that if they are all children, their parents are eccentric and a bowl of water is flat, then they are the one who is sorry, and some even complain about it, laying the foundation for "no pension" in the future.

But in fact, parents and children are never clear about love. If you really care about the so-called fairness, it is really difficult, because this kind of love is unfair from the beginning.

It is unfair to seek fairness among unfairness.