What does mambo mean (to prevent children from becoming mambo)

When it comes to Ma Baonan, everyone should know that this is not a commendatory term, but a derogatory term. This kind of baby boy usually has a few special words: "I'll ask my mother", "Forget it, my mother won't let me go" and "As long as you are good to my mother, I will be good to you". Don't underestimate these words, you should rely on them to distinguish a baby boy.

In our daily life, many of us don't like mambo, because mambo always looks weak and annoying.

Besides, there is a Ma Baonan beside me. This Ma Baonan is the husband of my college classmate. Before getting married, my classmates thought that the other half was a kind and gentle person who was also very filial to his elders. After marriage, he will certainly be good to himself. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been the most difficult to deal with, and the classmate's family is no exception. At first, my classmates found that my husband didn't know what size his clothes were and didn't care. Later, my mother-in-law gave my classmate new underwear and my classmate asked her husband. Her husband said that his mother bought all his underwear, and he never bought it himself. Ma Baonan is really a terrible existence in our women's eyes. They don't have their own opinions, they have to listen to their mother in everything, they don't even buy their own underwear, they don't know how big shoes to wear, they can't take care of themselves, and everything depends on their mother.

First, "Ma Baonan" Ma Baonan was not born like this, but family education changed them. In this era of high hopes for success, little Mambo boys have also begun to appear. They don't have to do anything at home, just do their homework, and they can get enough food with their clothes.

What kind of mother is easy to raise a baby boy?

A few days ago, the parents were boiling because a child didn't do his homework. At that time, the teacher asked the students to do it in class, but the children couldn't. After the teacher found out, the child said, "I won't, but I can take it home and let my mother do it for me." The teacher was a little surprised at the child's words. Later, the teacher asked the child's mother among the parents, and the child's mother said, "Teacher, that's how our children do nothing. It is useless for children to learn, and it is useless to do manual work. " The teacher said, "It is wrong for you to educate your children like this. Children should develop in an all-round way, and manual labor is also very important for their later life." Mother said, "I'm sorry, my child doesn't need to do manual labor all his life, because he just needs to study, and I will help him do everything." Many parents in the group can't stand this sentence. But what's the use of blaming us again? Children's parents have this way of thinking, so how can children develop well? When the child grows up, isn't it a baby boy? Children are born the same, and their parents teach them their future development.

What is a mother-in-law boy? It refers to men who listen to their mothers and think that their mothers are right, and it also refers to those children who are spoiled by their mothers. But there is another meaning, that is, the mother's precious son. From the mother's point of view, it expresses that the son will always be the baby in the mother's heart.

Ma Baonan generally lacks determination and self-confidence. Their life routes are basically designed by their mothers. As long as they don't ask for it, they can generally live well without suffering too much. Not only Ma Bao men have their own pet phrase, but Ma Baonan's mother also has a pet phrase: "Son, your mother conceived you in October and gave birth to you. I will give everything for you. When you grow up, you must be filial to me and listen to me. "

For a long time, this concept was deeply rooted in children's hearts. Under this moral pressure, children dare not disobey their mothers, even if they are wrong, because they are afraid that their mothers will be sad.

Second, the characteristics of Ma Baonan ① Selfish?

Ma Baonan is usually selfish, because everything at home is done by his parents and he doesn't need to do anything by himself. He doesn't know how difficult it is, and he won't be considerate of others, let alone respect the fruits of others' labor.

Such people don't know how to share, and it doesn't matter if they are in trouble, but others will not be willing to help or even refuse if they are in trouble. Many times, they will not take the initiative to invite others to eat, drink and have fun, unless there are difficulties, and the place they want to go to will not be expensive. They think that as long as they are good, others don't care.

② Discrimination against women

In their world, other women except their mothers are not worthy of respect, and there are usually words and deeds that discriminate against women and deliberately belittle other women.

For example, if you go out to eat, you will mind sitting at the same table with women and feel that you are not worthy to sit with boys.

Sexism: Sexism refers to the prejudice against gender, and refers to the unequal treatment of members of one sex to members of the other sex. Especially the unequal treatment between men and women. The inequality between the two sexes causes gender discrimination in society. But it can also be used to refer to any differential treatment caused by gender.

(3) no sympathy.

A few days ago, Doudou's mother and I took our children out to play. On the way back, we saw a cat lying in the middle of the road. Looking closer, it turned out to be a stray cat. The cat's leg is hurt and it is bleeding. Doudou walked over and kicked the cat on the side of the road and said, "It's dirty."

The performance of Doudou surprised us all. How can you have a "violent tendency" when you laugh? In fact, this is not a violent tendency, but the child has no sympathy. But what do children know? It is not because parents are not educated enough.

Parents should educate their children to be compassionate, let them develop healthily psychologically and spiritually, and help them gain more friendships.

4 used to escape.

When I panic, I like to escape. Even if it is not very important, I dare not make my own decision. When I encounter any problems, I wait for others to solve them. I never want to take the initiative to solve anything

Even if you encounter a little thing outside, you should ask your mother and listen to her opinion. As long as her mother agrees, she will do as she says, whether right or not, and may find what others say unreliable, as long as what her mother says is right.

Therefore, parents should be warned not to forget education when raising children, and children should not always avoid setbacks and difficulties. Solution is the best way. A good education is the best gift for children in the future, teaching them to be gentle and polite children.

3. How can parents prevent their children from becoming horse-haired men? Mother should not take the place of father.

Many mothers say that "since having children, they have become able to go to the hall and get the kitchen", and even everything about children is done by their mother alone. As the saying goes, "women are weak and mothers are strong." This sentence is actually about how strong a woman is as a mother, but it doesn't mean that having children means being both a mother and a father. Dad is also an irreplaceable member of the family. The growth of children is also inseparable from the existence of their fathers. Mom should not be too "rigid" and take the place of dad. Dad is a masculine and heroic image in the eyes of children. After the child is replaced by his mother, he may lack the masculinity of a man and develop a cowardly and timid character.

Don't make decisions for children.

Parents are always afraid that their children will make wrong choices and suffer losses. They always have to make decisions for their children. Children are simple-minded and have no opinions. As parents, we can explain and guide them, but don't make decisions for children, let children learn to make their own decisions. Regardless of the outcome of their decision, children can learn different knowledge from them, discuss everything with them, let them talk about his views and listen to their thoughts.

When a child reaches a certain age, we should guide him to learn to buy clothes and wash clothes by himself, such as buying underwear and washing underwear by himself. Children grow up and should not be replaced by mothers.

Cultivate children's ability to think independently

When I was young, parents always chose clothes and shoes for their children, because the children were too young to know what to wear and how to wear them. When children go to primary school, parents will let them choose what to wear. If the child can't choose, then parents can choose several sets and let the child choose. It is very important for children to learn to think independently first.

Let children learn to choose, not let them choose casually. For example, if they want to eat ice cream when they are sick, it is not enough. Parents should tell their children how to choose.

If you want your child not to be a mother, parents should do the above. It is best for parents to educate together. Parents must remember to learn to "let go" of their children. Parents can let go before their children can learn to do it.