How to create a good family atmosphere

Always remember to set an example. Parents are the most direct role models for children, and the role of words and deeds is more subtle than words and deeds. Therefore, parents should think about whether they have done so before making demands on their children.

Don't be too hard on children. Parents always want their children to be outstanding and promising; Some people, for some reason, have failed to realize their dreams in the past and hope that the next generation can complete them. With this idea, it is inevitable to be strict with children, and the most intuitive thing is to pay close attention to academic performance. Once you don't get the ideal score, you will feel disappointed and even angry, and blame your child for disappointing. Such harshness will not only discourage children from learning, but also hurt their self-esteem. In this way, my grades may not have improved, but my psychology has left a shadow.

Be good at controlling your emotions. In Sun Tzu's Art of War, it is absolutely taboo to easily turn joy into anger, which is also very appropriate for parents. In the face of children, parents must learn to grasp and hide emotions, especially bad emotions. If you encounter setbacks and grievances in your work or life, you should learn to adjust yourself before going home. You can't look down on your child just because you are unhappy, treat your child as a punching bag and lose your temper. Your dissatisfaction and resentment have been vented, but the child's mind is full of gloom. Other parents are moody. When they are happy, they regard their children as the apple of their eyes. If you are unhappy, you will abandon your shoes, which makes your child very nervous and nervous every day. How can they grow up healthily? Be optimistic and confident. Xiaoqi has a friend's relative, and his family condition is not very good. Mother sighs every day. The most she said to her son was, "Our family is poor and can't compare with others. It's up to you.". Her original intention is to encourage children to be aggressive, but what is revealed between the lines is a very negative and self-enclosed thought. Obviously, her son's character is becoming more and more withdrawn and autistic, and his brothers and sisters among relatives can't communicate with him at all, let alone play together. I believe he is also full of pessimistic thoughts about life. Therefore, parents must adjust their mentality, let the optimistic and positive attitude infect their children, and let them be full of self-confidence in order to better strive for a better future.

Don't always complain. Nine times out of ten, life's disappointments can't all be smooth sailing and satisfactory. If you fail, you should analyze the problem rationally from your own point of view, instead of constantly complaining to your family about this unfairness and that difficulty as soon as you get home. Over time, children will become people who shirk their responsibilities, because in their hearts, people with problems are others, or people who fail are people who embarrass me. With this idea, people will also become indifferent, selfish and self-motivated. Therefore, parents should never complain in front of their children, even though they may not understand what you are saying.

Communicate with parents actively. Many children will tell their parents everything when they are young, but with the growth of age, especially in adolescence, secrecy is getting better and better. At the same time, parents are busy with work and gradually have no time to communicate with their children, so the gap between the two sides is slowly established. It is no exaggeration to say that some parents don't know their children as well as their deskmates! Some parents become extremely indifferent because they want to give their children private space, which completely violates their original intention. Therefore, children should take the initiative to find time to chat with their parents. They can talk about learning difficulties or vague emotional confusion, so that parents can better understand themselves and narrow their psychological distance.

Don't be stingy with the expression of love. In fact, children love their parents very much, but maybe they become shy when they are old, or maybe they are always reluctant to convey this idea to their parents because they are afraid of being near their hometown. Some children are too sensible, and many things are done for their parents without their knowledge, which has caused many misunderstandings and contradictions. Actually, a family should be honest. Don't find it difficult to say "Mom and Dad, I love you". I believe that such a heartfelt statement will bring parents the same feeling as you did well in the exam.