Talking about a love, is height a distance?

It is said that this is an era of looking at faces. As long as you are handsome or beautiful, naturally someone will scream for you and fall in love with you for no reason. However, modern people's definition of "handsome" is not just a good-looking face.

Now you just drag a girl on the street and ask her if she has any hard conditions for an ideal boy. The first sentence is "height180+..." Girls are more casual in height. If she is short, she will be a lovely girl. If she is tall, she will be a goddess. If she is not short, if a boy is handsome but short, the evaluation she gets when walking in the street is generally "she is so handsome, but it's a pity that she is a little short." As far as dating is concerned, we seem to have a puzzling unwritten tradition that boys are taller than girls.

This is painful for our tall girls and short boys.

I have a girlfriend, Xiuer, who is in the fourth grade of junior high school. Her height is 175. Coupled with the late development of boys, she is much taller than boys of the same age and much taller than girls of the same age. She always skips classes like the high school next door.

In high school, Xiuer's height reached its peak. 178. To tell the truth, most boys are not as tall as her. She always stands in the last row when running and queuing, so Xiuer is particularly painful every time she queues. She doesn't want a girl standing in the last few rows full of boys. Because of her height, no matter how quiet, shy and introverted Xiuer is, someone always calls her a "woman man". Every once in a while, everyone is afraid of her and thinks she is not easy to mess with.

Because of her height, Xiuer always feels that others regard her with special respect. Once, her elders praised her for her height. She was angry and sensitive, and people around her were afraid to mention her height.

When she was a sophomore, Xiuer fell in love with a boy in her class, and they fell in love. This relationship is really vigorous. Boys are class grass, and classes that look like drag bottles have to be class grass. There are many girls chasing him at ordinary times. She likes him when he is with others. Now that they are together, she feels very lucky.

Therefore, the boy's class grass identity doomed Xiuer's feelings to receive much attention, and there will always be rumors spread to Xiuer's ears. What makes Xiuer even more miserable is that the height of boys is only 169, and she is much taller than boys. After the evening self-study, when the boys sent Xiuer back to the dormitory, they walked side by side on the road. Xiuer was always uncomfortable, just like a thorn in her back.

This relationship lasted for half a year. During this half year, Sa heard all kinds of voices of opposition. Boys' ex-girlfriends, boys' good friends and handsome guys have always been a group pet. Beautiful girls always feel that only they can deserve him, and a boy's ex-girlfriend is such a girl. More than once, she has been sarcastic to her face or behind her back. Xiuer's performance is average and her appearance is average. The only thing that stood out was her height, but she dragged her love back. For a time, Xiuer even wished that she had no sense of existence and could disappear from others' sight.

Sa couldn't bear it anymore and chose to break up. And that boy, also didn't do too much to retain. Maybe he can't hold on any longer. I don't think so. I think that boy is a typical love rat. He can't even give his girlfriend the minimum sense of security. These are all good excuses that Xiuer gave him.

Since then, Xiuer hasn't talked about her boyfriend for six or seven years. We tried our best to enlighten her, arranged for boys who liked her to meet her, and arranged blind dates for her behind her back. Sa always accepts them with a smile, but it never ends well. The boy I found for her is at least five centimeters taller than her, and I'm afraid she'll make the same mistake again. Unfortunately, no matter how ingenious our plan is, no matter how the boys arrange it to meet Sa's appetite, it will all be a draw with a sieve.

For so many years, Xiuer has undoubtedly grown into the best self, and I can actually see her efforts to overcome the inferiority caused by her height. Xiuer is 25 years old this year. She has never worn high heels. She studied beauty, went shopping in Weibo and read magazines. Now she can put on a suit like a fashion blogger. She insists on fitness and yoga maintenance. Her 178' s head and legs are long and thin. In the adult world, she is absolutely competitive. But when she wants to cut her hair short, she will still ask me, "Will short hair make me look taller?" I know she likes dancing, but she has never learned it. She said, "My cerebellum is underdeveloped, so I can't dance well with long legs and long hands." I know she still cares about her height.

Maybe everything God has arranged is meaningful. One day Xiuer called me and said she wanted to talk to me. For so many years, I have been looking for Xiuer to introduce me, and she is not serious about me. Suddenly wanted to talk to me today, and I thought maybe she finally figured it out.

We settled down in the cafe opposite my company downstairs. When I went downstairs to wait for the red light, Sa was already sitting there, waving to me. In fact, Lisa is really beautiful, sitting there quietly, with short hair covering her face, and the spoon in her hand stirring the coffee round and round, lonely and alienated, as if isolated from the world. I often say that she really looks like someone wants to hug her, but Xiuer always says, "I'm so tall, I don't look like I need protection at first glance." Every time I hear her say that, I always feel sad, but I can't find a reason to refute her.

I sat opposite her and she said, "Sister, I have a crush on someone."

I didn't swallow a mouthful of coffee, and my hot tongue didn't even feel bitter. I know that Xiuer and I have always had a good relationship, but it is the first time for her to call me elder sister.

"Tell me, which handsome young man, pestering my sister, will definitely make him fall at the feet of our program."

"We met when the company arranged to go out to study. Others can be exquisite and handsome, and study hard. They are not like men who rob a lot of things in the street now. " Sa lowered her head and stirred the coffee, her voice was very thin.

"You don't look very excited?"

"Well" sa looked up at me. "He didn't notice me from beginning to end. Even if he noticed that I liked me, I didn't want to be with him." Sa's eyes turned red as she spoke.

"Why?" I dropped my spoon on the table.

"Because I am much taller than him. He can't even reach 169. " Xiuer buried her head in her neck.

I froze there, and for a moment I felt that God had turned around on purpose.

"Samsara Decision" says that people have a hurdle in their last life, and they will have to go through this hurdle in their next life. When they pass, reincarnation will not be touched. Maybe the fate of things doesn't need the next life, and your life is doomed, so no matter what, you can't escape it.

I have nothing to say to sa.

It's not her problem. I always think that Xiuer is a fragile and stubborn girl. Xiuer's family conditions are actually not very good. The rough experience of childhood also makes people feel that this child is really lucky to grow up like this. But in this era, few people really want to get to know a person stably. People often get along with this person with their first impressions, which are hard to change. I know that every time someone plays a joke on Xiuer, Xiuer is actually in pain. No one wants to seriously understand her fragility, and no one can walk into Lisa's heart.

She is not the only one with this problem. There are many tall girls around who are not good at falling in love and short boys who are not good at getting married. I don't have any powerful words to help them overcome this psychological barrier. Sometimes when I look at them, I have doubts myself. Is it true that height is distance when talking about love?

But I still don't think so. Really good love should make people more confident, love life and discover a beautiful world. If we are timid in a relationship and need the so-called height difference and other people's casual blessings to gain a sense of security, then even if two people are of the right height, they are doomed not to last long. Life is short, but we often live out ourselves in the eyes of others, but after a long time, we can't even tell ourselves.

In this life, you can have someone to accompany you all your life, understand your desolation and love your appearance. You are his appearance in his heart. What could be more important than this?

Why don't you understand my good program?