Is it better for the nanny to take care of the children or for herself?

I won't trust the nanny to take care of the children. The child is my own, and others won't care too much. I will take care of the children myself, or call my mother for help when I am too busy!

There is an example around me: a family often took their children to play in the community when they were young, and they also met some nannies to take their children out to play. After getting to know one of the nannies, she told me that she was going to go home, because her daughter had a baby, and she needed to go home to take care of the baby, but the girl she is taking now can't live without herself, so the host family doesn't want her to go home.

The nanny really takes good care of the girl, is lively and lovely, and dresses beautifully.

Finding a good nanny can, to a certain extent, reduce a lot of burden for parents who need to work. Parents don't have to worry about their children when they go to work. Some parents even let their children sleep with the nanny at night, and they are very happy when they are idle. But this will inevitably affect the parent-child relationship between themselves and their children, just as the nanny mentioned above wanted to go home, but the child refused. This situation is actually not conducive to the establishment of a sense of security and attachment between children and parents. After all, the nanny always has to leave.

If an attachment relationship is established between the child and the nanny, the child will be unhappy and anxious when the nanny leaves the child. At this time, even if parents are around their children, it will not help.

I have always felt that nanny is actually a profession, and under no circumstances can it replace parents, let alone love children like parents. Although the nanny mentioned at the beginning of the article takes good care of her children, she also complains when chatting, because her parents have not sent their children to kindergarten for a day, and her workload has increased.

On the other hand, some nannies are afraid of being scolded by their owners because their children are hurt, and they will be very careful when taking care of their children. Obviously, children have teeth, but they dare not feed the food they need to chew; It is clear that the child can already walk, and he dare not let the child walk boldly, for fear that the child will fall.

These practices can ensure that children don't make some mistakes, but they also limit their free development to a great extent, which is not conducive to their physical development.

Nanny is not a mother after all. What they basically do in the process of taking care of their children is to be responsive. After all, they are taking care of the children for others, and they don't want the host family to think that they are not good to the children. However, this practice will make children have no rules and do whatever they want. After a long time, it will inevitably affect their development. Once a child has some bad habits, it is difficult for parents to intervene and correct them.

Having said that, I'm not advising you not to ask a nanny to take care of the children. After all, young parents should choose a nanny to take care of their children without the help of the elderly. However, parents must understand the advantages and disadvantages of babysitting. It is ok for a nanny to take care of the children's diet and daily life when they are busy, but don't covet the children's temporary comfort and affect the parent-child relationship.

After all, children have only one childhood, and their parents' mistakes can never be made up. We should spend as much time as possible with our children, understand their movements, establish a strong parent-child relationship with them, and let them know that their parents love them most, are attached to their parents, and feel safe around them.